divabell
08-02-2003, 04:35 PM
OK, here's the situation. We have a friend who is getting married. The wedding was supposed to be on Sept. 13 in a town where I used to live, two hours from Indianapolis, where my family is. So we got plane tickets into Indy and would see family briefly before/after the wedding. This is the last time we will be traveling to where my family lives before the baby is born.
But, very sadly, my friend's future MIL passed away suddenly. Now they have postponed the wedding. Since we already had our tickets and can visit family, we are keeping our plans as they are. I was telling my SIL about this whole situation, and she said, "Can we have a baby shower for you that weekend, then?" and I said, "Sure!"
But then I thought more about it and realized that I might be stepping on some toes as far as being disrespectful to my friend and inviting people to the shower who would otherwise have been at the wedding. (FYI, my friend lives in England and I assume will not be around.) I don't think there's a question of going ahead with the shower, because it's really important to my family. But should I invite the people who would have been at the wedding? My SIL is going to want to know who I want to invite and I just can't decide what I should do. In general, these are people who I was quite close to when I lived there, and I would really like to invite them, but I would hate to offend or upset anyone since this is already a painful situation. Am I just being overly sensitive?
I am going to talk to a close friend (who was supposed to be in the wedding) about this soon, but any additional advice would be appreciated...
TIA,
Lori R.
EDD 12/2/03
But, very sadly, my friend's future MIL passed away suddenly. Now they have postponed the wedding. Since we already had our tickets and can visit family, we are keeping our plans as they are. I was telling my SIL about this whole situation, and she said, "Can we have a baby shower for you that weekend, then?" and I said, "Sure!"
But then I thought more about it and realized that I might be stepping on some toes as far as being disrespectful to my friend and inviting people to the shower who would otherwise have been at the wedding. (FYI, my friend lives in England and I assume will not be around.) I don't think there's a question of going ahead with the shower, because it's really important to my family. But should I invite the people who would have been at the wedding? My SIL is going to want to know who I want to invite and I just can't decide what I should do. In general, these are people who I was quite close to when I lived there, and I would really like to invite them, but I would hate to offend or upset anyone since this is already a painful situation. Am I just being overly sensitive?
I am going to talk to a close friend (who was supposed to be in the wedding) about this soon, but any additional advice would be appreciated...
TIA,
Lori R.
EDD 12/2/03