lizajane
09-23-2003, 08:18 PM
WHAT DO I DO?? i told a friend that i would like to help host a shower for her. she lives 1 hour away, so hosting at my house wasn't a good idea for her guests. she told some folks who were planning a shower that i was interested. they sent me a letter that said they were working on getting a shower together, and if anyone was interested in co-hosting (it was a generic letter addressed to "friends" not to me) "the cost wwill be $100 per couple and you can mail a check to XXX address." seriously, that is a quote.
well, i was horrified. how tacky. there was nothing about HELPING to host a shower, just a request for "donations." that is NOT how i do things around here. i make the cake. i make the food. i make the decorations. i make the flower arrangements. i put a lot of LOVE into my parties. i had two baby showers this spring. i think they were great, without caterers, expensive flowers, boutique invitations... and i did not want to be a part of something if i didn't actually get to BE a part of it!
so i just got the invitation to the party, which i already knew i could not attend because the mom-to-be told me that it was the same weekend as a wedding i already said i would attend.
so... MY NAME WAS ON THE INVITATION AS A HOST!!! i NEVER even talked to the people hosting the party!!! i never sent a check, i never got a phone call, an email, another letter... i never even knew the DATE of this party that these people ASSUMED i was co-hosting!!!
SO WHAT DO I DO????? i don't want to send $100. it isn't the money. yes, money is tight. but i am willing to spend money on this friend. she is VERY important to me. it is the fact that i am supposed to pay for a party that i don't get to do anything for. but now my NAME is on the invitation and i feel like i need to do something????
i know this is long, i am sorry, but PLEASE HELP!!!
well, i was horrified. how tacky. there was nothing about HELPING to host a shower, just a request for "donations." that is NOT how i do things around here. i make the cake. i make the food. i make the decorations. i make the flower arrangements. i put a lot of LOVE into my parties. i had two baby showers this spring. i think they were great, without caterers, expensive flowers, boutique invitations... and i did not want to be a part of something if i didn't actually get to BE a part of it!
so i just got the invitation to the party, which i already knew i could not attend because the mom-to-be told me that it was the same weekend as a wedding i already said i would attend.
so... MY NAME WAS ON THE INVITATION AS A HOST!!! i NEVER even talked to the people hosting the party!!! i never sent a check, i never got a phone call, an email, another letter... i never even knew the DATE of this party that these people ASSUMED i was co-hosting!!!
SO WHAT DO I DO????? i don't want to send $100. it isn't the money. yes, money is tight. but i am willing to spend money on this friend. she is VERY important to me. it is the fact that i am supposed to pay for a party that i don't get to do anything for. but now my NAME is on the invitation and i feel like i need to do something????
i know this is long, i am sorry, but PLEASE HELP!!!