TaChapm2
03-02-2004, 06:18 PM
Let me start by saying that my aunt is going through a terrible divorce and finally leaving a man (if you can call him that) who has beat her for 19 years. We are all so happy that she has finally got the courage to do this. He is absolutely crazy and has threatened to kill her on many occasions so it hasn't been an easy process for her to get out. Most of all we are happy that her children who are in their early teens are going to realize that this is no way to live.
As it turns out the son is planning on staying with his father and the daughter wants nothing to do with him so it is truly a family divided. My aunt is a flight nurse so she works 24 hour shifts and is out of the house for days at a time so we have opened up our house to her daughter. I really feel bad for her because she is so scared of her dad and what he will do. This of course has put us right in the middle of everything. He is calling our house and disrupting our lives as well.
The daughter stayed with us for most of January and February and just today I got a call seeing if she could come back and stay for a few more weeks. I know that I need to welcome her with open arms into a loving family that is "normal", but it is hard having an extra person living with you. She is sleeping on the extra bed in DS nursery so he isn't sleeping well. It has put a financial strain on us having her here and feeling that we need to entertain her. Most of all we are right in the middle of building a house and an IVF cycle so we are stressed to the max (and broke)! I know this is the right thing to do, but I really miss our "family time." I feel like things are about to get so crazy and we just need some down time. Am I a horrible person for feeling this way? I want to do everything I can to get them away from him, but I am missing our quiet life. I just feel really bad for even feeling this way because I know she needs us. It is just a bad time though.
I feel a little better getting that off my chest.
Tara
Mommy to Jackson (11-10-02)
As it turns out the son is planning on staying with his father and the daughter wants nothing to do with him so it is truly a family divided. My aunt is a flight nurse so she works 24 hour shifts and is out of the house for days at a time so we have opened up our house to her daughter. I really feel bad for her because she is so scared of her dad and what he will do. This of course has put us right in the middle of everything. He is calling our house and disrupting our lives as well.
The daughter stayed with us for most of January and February and just today I got a call seeing if she could come back and stay for a few more weeks. I know that I need to welcome her with open arms into a loving family that is "normal", but it is hard having an extra person living with you. She is sleeping on the extra bed in DS nursery so he isn't sleeping well. It has put a financial strain on us having her here and feeling that we need to entertain her. Most of all we are right in the middle of building a house and an IVF cycle so we are stressed to the max (and broke)! I know this is the right thing to do, but I really miss our "family time." I feel like things are about to get so crazy and we just need some down time. Am I a horrible person for feeling this way? I want to do everything I can to get them away from him, but I am missing our quiet life. I just feel really bad for even feeling this way because I know she needs us. It is just a bad time though.
I feel a little better getting that off my chest.
Tara
Mommy to Jackson (11-10-02)