akc
04-15-2004, 10:58 AM
HI -
I'm turning to the boards for thoughts and suggestions. This is long, but I really need your help.
My DD#1 (21 months) is an amazing sleeper. Usually goes to bed at 6:30 - 7 pm and gets up somewhere between 7:30 and 8:30 a.m. Twice in the past two weeks we've had a big issue that made all that seem like a dream.
She wakes up about around 5 a.m. and begins to WAIL. "No, No...Daddy, Daddy, Mommy, Mommy...Down, Down, No, No..." Once we get her, she wants to go downstairs but doesn't stop crying for a while (could be up to a half an hour) before we can sufficently distract her with food or juice. She's also attached to our leg screaming "HUG," which is her way of saying, "I want to be picked up."
What do you think is going on here? We tried to let her cry it out for an hour today - thinking she'd go back to sleep or realize that no one is going to come if she wails. No dice. We could try that again next time, but only seemed to escalate?
We've thought of possibilities:
1) She's have a bad dream. I don't know much about night terrors, but I would think those would occur more in the middle of the night. We've had a couple of occasions where she cries out and doesn't need us to come. Soothes herself and goes back to sleep. Why would those occur at the same time and necessitate her going down to start her day?
2) She's insecure or having separation anxiety?? (she's NEVER had the latter, never clung to either DH or I throughout her whole 21 mos - can go to anyone or separate from us as happy as can be) She doesn't have a security item - never took one. So, she's feeling insecure? Had a binky (pacifier) until about a month ago which might have been a go to plug her crying, and she did like to hold on to an extra one and squish the rubber part with her finger, but after one bad night and one bad nap, she's abandoned it with no problem and even ignores her new sister's binkies. How could we try to get her to take a security item this late? She does NOT want anything in her crib at night. Throws them all out if we try.
3) She's hungry? She eats dinner around 5:15 - 5:30 p.m. with our sitter, has a bath, watches Baby McDonald and then nightime routine of books, slow dancing, and bed. Goes down without a problem, but maybe by 5 am on these days she's hungry? Usually wants yogurt right away. I thought about a snack before bed but think that's a TERRIBLE habit to get into and one of the most contributing factors to obesity in kids and adults. What would we do? Put a.m. snacks or juice within reach of her crib?
4) She's teething (two-year molars) and it bothers her after a long night? I read that the pain and throbbing is worse when lying down, but Tylenol before she goes to bed isn't going help. Will just wear off. She got her regular teeth very early - has all of them now but 2-year molars (and got six in one week and didn't cry or get fussy then). She's putting her hands in her mouth a lot and went back to drooling, which leads me to think they are moving their way up, but why would it wake her to wailing on particular nights? I don't know - is there anything we could do about that?
5) She's just hitting terrible two's and wants to play if she wakes early and screaming/wailing is her way to get us to do it? Then what do we do? Ignore her or humor her? It's not exactly a time out situation (which we haven't even had to begin yet).
HELP! Any experience with this and what you thought caused it? And, what do you suggest as a remedy? The answer may be to suck it up, but I really like to know the root cause of things b/c she is a very happy child and rarely cries at all, so this is very unusual.
Thanks so much in advance - thoughts, comments, suggestions?
Alexa
I'm turning to the boards for thoughts and suggestions. This is long, but I really need your help.
My DD#1 (21 months) is an amazing sleeper. Usually goes to bed at 6:30 - 7 pm and gets up somewhere between 7:30 and 8:30 a.m. Twice in the past two weeks we've had a big issue that made all that seem like a dream.
She wakes up about around 5 a.m. and begins to WAIL. "No, No...Daddy, Daddy, Mommy, Mommy...Down, Down, No, No..." Once we get her, she wants to go downstairs but doesn't stop crying for a while (could be up to a half an hour) before we can sufficently distract her with food or juice. She's also attached to our leg screaming "HUG," which is her way of saying, "I want to be picked up."
What do you think is going on here? We tried to let her cry it out for an hour today - thinking she'd go back to sleep or realize that no one is going to come if she wails. No dice. We could try that again next time, but only seemed to escalate?
We've thought of possibilities:
1) She's have a bad dream. I don't know much about night terrors, but I would think those would occur more in the middle of the night. We've had a couple of occasions where she cries out and doesn't need us to come. Soothes herself and goes back to sleep. Why would those occur at the same time and necessitate her going down to start her day?
2) She's insecure or having separation anxiety?? (she's NEVER had the latter, never clung to either DH or I throughout her whole 21 mos - can go to anyone or separate from us as happy as can be) She doesn't have a security item - never took one. So, she's feeling insecure? Had a binky (pacifier) until about a month ago which might have been a go to plug her crying, and she did like to hold on to an extra one and squish the rubber part with her finger, but after one bad night and one bad nap, she's abandoned it with no problem and even ignores her new sister's binkies. How could we try to get her to take a security item this late? She does NOT want anything in her crib at night. Throws them all out if we try.
3) She's hungry? She eats dinner around 5:15 - 5:30 p.m. with our sitter, has a bath, watches Baby McDonald and then nightime routine of books, slow dancing, and bed. Goes down without a problem, but maybe by 5 am on these days she's hungry? Usually wants yogurt right away. I thought about a snack before bed but think that's a TERRIBLE habit to get into and one of the most contributing factors to obesity in kids and adults. What would we do? Put a.m. snacks or juice within reach of her crib?
4) She's teething (two-year molars) and it bothers her after a long night? I read that the pain and throbbing is worse when lying down, but Tylenol before she goes to bed isn't going help. Will just wear off. She got her regular teeth very early - has all of them now but 2-year molars (and got six in one week and didn't cry or get fussy then). She's putting her hands in her mouth a lot and went back to drooling, which leads me to think they are moving their way up, but why would it wake her to wailing on particular nights? I don't know - is there anything we could do about that?
5) She's just hitting terrible two's and wants to play if she wakes early and screaming/wailing is her way to get us to do it? Then what do we do? Ignore her or humor her? It's not exactly a time out situation (which we haven't even had to begin yet).
HELP! Any experience with this and what you thought caused it? And, what do you suggest as a remedy? The answer may be to suck it up, but I really like to know the root cause of things b/c she is a very happy child and rarely cries at all, so this is very unusual.
Thanks so much in advance - thoughts, comments, suggestions?
Alexa