simba
11-29-2004, 11:10 PM
DS is 6 months tomorrow.
I have two questions about the Weissbluth method, which I am following.
NAPS:
Weissbluth says not to force the third nap. But if DS doesn't take a third nap, which often happens, he is out for the night by 5 PM, a little early! Does anybody follow the nap *procedure* for the third nap as well?
NIGHT WAKINGS:
Weissbluth says babies up to 9 months may need to feed twice over a 12-hr night period. My son wakes up more than that, but I only go to him twice, usually at around 11-11:30 and then 3:30-4:00. The other times I CIO (he has been crying less and less). My concern is that he may get confused by the fact that I go to him some times and not others. Since consistency is key, I don't think I am helping him to learn to fall back asleep on his own. Since some times I do indeed go to him, from his point of view, why shouldn't he cry?
A part of me thinks that if I didn't go in at all, than the message would be really clear and he would learn fast(er).
But Weissbluth says that up to two night feedings is age-appropriate. What do you ladies do?
I noticed that he really eats a lot at the 11PM waking (hence I would never eliminate this feeding), but not so much at the 3:30 one. And even if he wakes up/feeds later than 3:30, like at 4:30, he is still up for the day by 6AM, like if this feeding didn't make any difference. Any suggestions on *decoding* Weissbluth on this?
Becasue of these two (IMO) *inconsistencies* (DS decides whether there is a third nap + DS gets fed twice per night but CIO all the other times, I think I am not being as successful as I could be. It is taking too long. He still cries. I am willing to let him CIO (and I do it) but not if i don't get results. I am getting results, but not in one week, like he states! The amount of crying for naps has seriouly decreased a lot, but today he unexpectedly cried for the WHOLE hour at the second nap ...and I feel so horrible I can barely eat!
Weissbluth followers, please help!
Silvana
I have two questions about the Weissbluth method, which I am following.
NAPS:
Weissbluth says not to force the third nap. But if DS doesn't take a third nap, which often happens, he is out for the night by 5 PM, a little early! Does anybody follow the nap *procedure* for the third nap as well?
NIGHT WAKINGS:
Weissbluth says babies up to 9 months may need to feed twice over a 12-hr night period. My son wakes up more than that, but I only go to him twice, usually at around 11-11:30 and then 3:30-4:00. The other times I CIO (he has been crying less and less). My concern is that he may get confused by the fact that I go to him some times and not others. Since consistency is key, I don't think I am helping him to learn to fall back asleep on his own. Since some times I do indeed go to him, from his point of view, why shouldn't he cry?
A part of me thinks that if I didn't go in at all, than the message would be really clear and he would learn fast(er).
But Weissbluth says that up to two night feedings is age-appropriate. What do you ladies do?
I noticed that he really eats a lot at the 11PM waking (hence I would never eliminate this feeding), but not so much at the 3:30 one. And even if he wakes up/feeds later than 3:30, like at 4:30, he is still up for the day by 6AM, like if this feeding didn't make any difference. Any suggestions on *decoding* Weissbluth on this?
Becasue of these two (IMO) *inconsistencies* (DS decides whether there is a third nap + DS gets fed twice per night but CIO all the other times, I think I am not being as successful as I could be. It is taking too long. He still cries. I am willing to let him CIO (and I do it) but not if i don't get results. I am getting results, but not in one week, like he states! The amount of crying for naps has seriouly decreased a lot, but today he unexpectedly cried for the WHOLE hour at the second nap ...and I feel so horrible I can barely eat!
Weissbluth followers, please help!
Silvana