quikeye
12-12-2004, 03:59 AM
::sigh:: I hate to be a downer, but I just really needed a shoulder to cry on for a moment... before bed & before I have to get up tomorrow and take my cat to the animal shelter.
(Kinda emotional, and sad about loss of a pet-- just a warning).
She scratched Kai tonite. Hissing and batting, she got him one good one across the forehead, with blood, and smaller scratches on his cheek and lip. My heart's breaking just remembering it, and I'm still in a minor panic about infection and getting a scar... (he's sleeping soundly and well; brave boy cried only a little and more when I used peroxide & then slathered him in antibiotic ointment and put one of those big sized/patchish bandaids on... the scratch is like, 2-3"). God I feel awful.
Rewind to about 3 weeks ago, when she hissed at him when he was crawling in a different room, not anywhere near her. Her behavior became quickly worse, escalating to growling and hissing when she saw K. Then I would say "NO!" etc and she started getting pi$$ed at me, and so she hissed and screamed when she saw me. It got so bad I was literally trapped in my bedroom w/ K for 3 days while DH was at work-- she would sit outside the door and scream if I opened it. Screamed so loud she defacted and sprayed as she hissed-- like she was so mad she lost bowel control.
Advice was to bring ehr into a vet, but I couldn't even come within 6 feet of her. Animal control said they'd come pick her up, and she'd be "put down". She'd let dh pass, but not touch her (while she started stalking me and cornering me in the house/bathroom/dead end rooms). We basically boiled down to she was jealous of my son and angry, and angry with me for being an extension of him.
She got "less angry" and would only low growl on occassion when seeing me or K. I'd been locking her in the second room-- she would get into bed w/ K & me (co-sleep) and when K would wake up and crawl on me, she'd dtsrt hissing as she was in our bed. So I'd put her in the bedroom b/c I was afraid to have her near K... she could be out when dh was home, since he was pretty much ignored by her (while she was still cornering me on occassion and hissing).
We went on a little vacation for 4 days, and she was fine when we returned... The past few days since our return, she had a few growls (which is still WAY out of the ordinary, but not scary to me and she was only doing it to Kai-- I was able to pick her up & move her or him away)... but nothing like before with the howling. Tonite K was crawling/pulling up on everything like usual, and he pulled on the back of the couch (low couch) where the cat was sitting. Hissed/screamed, and hit him. Jesus, if it were only and inch lower, it would ahve been his eye.
Dh is so mad... I've neevr seen him this angry. He was going to toss her outside tonite-- I just can't. And I think he's silently angry w/ me since I wouldn't let him do it NOW-- He couldn't get her into the carrier so it's kinda moot. I totally understand and get it-- and I can't live like this (in fear of my cat, hurting me or my son) b/c of her jealousy. But it's just heartbreaking for my cat too...
She's going to be euthanized. With her age (6-7, not a kitten) and now this jealousy against kids, she won't be adopted. There aren't any no-kill shelters here. And putting her on the street is a worse death sentence, she's always been an indoor cat, and she'd either starve or be mangled by some car. This is my little baby, who I found at a truck stop and she fit into the palm of my hand and we drove 150 miles home and she was SO covered in fleas I had to wash her twice and handpick off so many more w. tweezers... I thought she wasn't going to wake up since we had to wash her so much. She sat on my chest while I cried all nite years ago with a broken heart (in college, before I met dh), purring and licking my nose. She did all she could to curl up and sleep on my huge preggo belly while I sat in front of the computer, just like before when I wasn't so huge. And she's sitting here @ my feet, angling to jump in my lap and go to sleep.
But she hurt him so bad, and she will again. She hates my son, and he loves her (he laughs when he sees her...) He hasn't hurt her, and she's stalked him as he's sat unmindful of her. ::sigh:: She'll hurt him again; part of my irrational hurt is that she hates him-- that she should love him as mine (she was hands off since he was born, just took this "interest" 3-4 weeks ago. Before she'd ignore him, didn't care.)
I just, I don't know but at least I feel a little better, a little eulogy I guess. Catharsis, but I don't want to wake up tomorrow. :( Sorry guys... but thanks for listening.
(Kinda emotional, and sad about loss of a pet-- just a warning).
She scratched Kai tonite. Hissing and batting, she got him one good one across the forehead, with blood, and smaller scratches on his cheek and lip. My heart's breaking just remembering it, and I'm still in a minor panic about infection and getting a scar... (he's sleeping soundly and well; brave boy cried only a little and more when I used peroxide & then slathered him in antibiotic ointment and put one of those big sized/patchish bandaids on... the scratch is like, 2-3"). God I feel awful.
Rewind to about 3 weeks ago, when she hissed at him when he was crawling in a different room, not anywhere near her. Her behavior became quickly worse, escalating to growling and hissing when she saw K. Then I would say "NO!" etc and she started getting pi$$ed at me, and so she hissed and screamed when she saw me. It got so bad I was literally trapped in my bedroom w/ K for 3 days while DH was at work-- she would sit outside the door and scream if I opened it. Screamed so loud she defacted and sprayed as she hissed-- like she was so mad she lost bowel control.
Advice was to bring ehr into a vet, but I couldn't even come within 6 feet of her. Animal control said they'd come pick her up, and she'd be "put down". She'd let dh pass, but not touch her (while she started stalking me and cornering me in the house/bathroom/dead end rooms). We basically boiled down to she was jealous of my son and angry, and angry with me for being an extension of him.
She got "less angry" and would only low growl on occassion when seeing me or K. I'd been locking her in the second room-- she would get into bed w/ K & me (co-sleep) and when K would wake up and crawl on me, she'd dtsrt hissing as she was in our bed. So I'd put her in the bedroom b/c I was afraid to have her near K... she could be out when dh was home, since he was pretty much ignored by her (while she was still cornering me on occassion and hissing).
We went on a little vacation for 4 days, and she was fine when we returned... The past few days since our return, she had a few growls (which is still WAY out of the ordinary, but not scary to me and she was only doing it to Kai-- I was able to pick her up & move her or him away)... but nothing like before with the howling. Tonite K was crawling/pulling up on everything like usual, and he pulled on the back of the couch (low couch) where the cat was sitting. Hissed/screamed, and hit him. Jesus, if it were only and inch lower, it would ahve been his eye.
Dh is so mad... I've neevr seen him this angry. He was going to toss her outside tonite-- I just can't. And I think he's silently angry w/ me since I wouldn't let him do it NOW-- He couldn't get her into the carrier so it's kinda moot. I totally understand and get it-- and I can't live like this (in fear of my cat, hurting me or my son) b/c of her jealousy. But it's just heartbreaking for my cat too...
She's going to be euthanized. With her age (6-7, not a kitten) and now this jealousy against kids, she won't be adopted. There aren't any no-kill shelters here. And putting her on the street is a worse death sentence, she's always been an indoor cat, and she'd either starve or be mangled by some car. This is my little baby, who I found at a truck stop and she fit into the palm of my hand and we drove 150 miles home and she was SO covered in fleas I had to wash her twice and handpick off so many more w. tweezers... I thought she wasn't going to wake up since we had to wash her so much. She sat on my chest while I cried all nite years ago with a broken heart (in college, before I met dh), purring and licking my nose. She did all she could to curl up and sleep on my huge preggo belly while I sat in front of the computer, just like before when I wasn't so huge. And she's sitting here @ my feet, angling to jump in my lap and go to sleep.
But she hurt him so bad, and she will again. She hates my son, and he loves her (he laughs when he sees her...) He hasn't hurt her, and she's stalked him as he's sat unmindful of her. ::sigh:: She'll hurt him again; part of my irrational hurt is that she hates him-- that she should love him as mine (she was hands off since he was born, just took this "interest" 3-4 weeks ago. Before she'd ignore him, didn't care.)
I just, I don't know but at least I feel a little better, a little eulogy I guess. Catharsis, but I don't want to wake up tomorrow. :( Sorry guys... but thanks for listening.