tina-t
01-05-2006, 02:46 PM
The recent comment from a DCP that my child is spoiled (talked about this in a recent post), got me thinking as to what is a "spoiled child". Is there a black and white definition for it?
I discussed this with dh last night. He thinks that I am spoilng ds because I keep on buying him toys. He just focused on how much toys ds has. He also thinks that whenever ds asks for something, I give it to him immediately, which is not true. I can't even count the number of times that ds had a whining fit or tantrum just because I did not give him a cookie or buy him that toy (as an example).
My thoughts of a "spoiled child" is a little bit more extreme though. This would be a child that does not listen to his parents or elders consistently, and does whatever he/she wants even though it can hurt (emotionally or physically) another person.
I think that you cannot spoil a baby or toddler. Their development is still limited. They cannot understand certain things and cannot communicate all their wants and needs. A sceaming toddler can just be a frustrated little child who does not know how to express that frustration otherwise. However, I do think that how you interact with that toddler can set the stage as to whether he/she will be spoiled when he/she gets older.
Now, these are just my thoughts, and I do not want to spark a debate. I am simply interested to hear what other people's opinions are in this matter. It does not look like this can be spelled out in black and white. There are shades of grey to this.
Just curious as to what others think about this subject.
I discussed this with dh last night. He thinks that I am spoilng ds because I keep on buying him toys. He just focused on how much toys ds has. He also thinks that whenever ds asks for something, I give it to him immediately, which is not true. I can't even count the number of times that ds had a whining fit or tantrum just because I did not give him a cookie or buy him that toy (as an example).
My thoughts of a "spoiled child" is a little bit more extreme though. This would be a child that does not listen to his parents or elders consistently, and does whatever he/she wants even though it can hurt (emotionally or physically) another person.
I think that you cannot spoil a baby or toddler. Their development is still limited. They cannot understand certain things and cannot communicate all their wants and needs. A sceaming toddler can just be a frustrated little child who does not know how to express that frustration otherwise. However, I do think that how you interact with that toddler can set the stage as to whether he/she will be spoiled when he/she gets older.
Now, these are just my thoughts, and I do not want to spark a debate. I am simply interested to hear what other people's opinions are in this matter. It does not look like this can be spelled out in black and white. There are shades of grey to this.
Just curious as to what others think about this subject.