Roller Coaster Ride - I'm Not Pregnant, probably

[psophia17]

It's over.

Well...if something even started, it's over, probably.

The u/s tech sucked, her first Q was "are you sure you were pregnant?" and it went downhill from there. She said there is no sign I was ever pg, and then started telling me all about false positive urine tests, and how I probably wanted to be pg so badly that I convinced myself I was. Ummm...no. Not so. (ETA: I did ask how I could've tested BFP as often as I did, and there be no sign of it now - maybe she thought she was being helpful?)

My OB, who I called right after that fantastic experience, was shocked, and called the whole thing bizarre. I'm going in to have my hcg tested tomorrow, with another test on Thursday, to make sure I don't have an ectopic pg floating around somewhere, which if I do means I'll be having laproscopic surgery to "take care of it."

For the moment, I'm not pg, and probably haven't been since my monster all-day-sickness started. The sickness was probably the result of my body reabsorbing any evidence that I was ever pg to begin with, which I definitely was.

[COElizabeth]

Oh, Petra. I'm really sorry for you loss. And to have that treatment on top of it is just awful. Hugs to you.

Elizabeth, Mom to James, 9-20-02
and Charlotte, 11-04-04

[jk3]

I'm so sorry. Thinking of you.

Jenn
DS 6/3/03

[darby24]

I'm so sorry Petra. My thoughts are with you.

[kijip]

Oh, Petra. I am so very sorry. I had an u/s tech say the same thing after my second mc...I was just like, um I was pregnant according to the doctor and the tests. It is a crappy feeling to have people question you like that. My thoughts are with you as you figure out what has happened.

I am confused about false positive urine tests, which I understand to be rare. I think the tech was wrong about that.

[Marisa6826]

Aw Petra :(

I'm so sorry.

hugs

-m

[Saartje]

:(

[tarabenet]

Petra, I'm so sorry. Big hugs and lots of love.

[MarisaSF]

xoxo
We're crying now for you and will look forward to celebrating again in the near future.
xoxo

[ellies mom]

Oh sweetie, I am so sorry. I don't know what else to say other than that you are in my thoughts and prayers.

[Aunt to sweet baby boy]

I am so sorry! I wish you and your family all the best in this hard time....

PM if you want to talk or if you need anything!

Ilana

[mommyj_2]

Oh my goodness. I'm so sorry for your loss, and also that you were treated like that. You will be in my thoughts.

[MMEand1]

I'm sorry Petra. Hopefully you can get this all sorted out soon. Lots of HUGS!!
Mariah P.

[dowlinal]

I am so sorry! Big hugs!!

[zuzu]

Petra, I am so sorry. Big hugs, lots of love, and healing thoughts coming your way.

Melissa, mom to Sarah

[octmom]

I am so sorry, Petra. :( (((hugs)))

Jerilyn
DS, Sean 10/03
expecting #2! EDD April 1, 2006, but anticipating a C/S in March: IT'S A GIRL!!! :)

"Baby makes days shorter, nights longer, home happier, and love stronger."

[hez]

Oh, Petra. I'm truly, truly sorry. Sending hugs and peace and hope that you get some good answers from your doc.

[muskiesusan]

I am so sorry.


Susan
Mom to Nick 10/01
& Alex 04/04

[CiderLogan]

I am so sorry for your loss and for the way you were treated too. I am thinking of you.

Jenny
Mom to Julia, 8/03
...and another GIRL due 5/29/06!

[barbarhow]

Petra-I am so sorry. What a shock for you. Hugs Mama-really take care of yourself in these next few days. More hugs.
Barbara-mom to Jack 3/27/03, a Red Sox fan
and Anna 5/12/05, my little Yankee fan!

[LD92599]

Oh Petra :-( Sorry you're dealing with this. Thinking about you on this roller coaster ride x(

Laura
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[kimbe]

:( I'm so sorry Petra. Hugs and thoughts and prayers to you!

[mudder17]

Oh, Petra, I'm so sorry for you loss! :( And that tech treated you so badly, too! My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Big, big hugs and lots of love, girl!


Eileen

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[annasmom]

Petra, I am so sorry! I cannot tell you how many times I have left an u/s crying because of a horrible tech! I will be thinking of you!

[karolyp]

Oh my...I'm so sorry that you're going through this. :( And I'm sorry about the jerk who performed your u/s...you would think they would be more compassionate.

I hope you're able to find answers soon. Please take care mama.

[jamsmu]

Oh Petra,

I'm so sorry.

[newbelly2002]

I'm so sorry, Petra.


Paula
Mama to Dante, 8/02
And 2 sweet peas in an April pod

[DebbieJ]

(((HUGS)))

~ deb
DS born at home 12/03
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[amp]

Petra, I'm so sorry. I know how hard it can be to feel like your body has betrayed you. Hugs to you.

[janeybwild]

Petra, my thoughts are with you on your loss.

[smilequeen]

I'm so sorry for your loss :(

And that treatment by the tech is inexcusable. I can't even believe that. My mouth about dropped to the floor.

I can tell you that I miscarried at between 10 and 11 weeks before Simon. I had nausea and all the early pg symptoms. At my 10 week appt they couldn't find a heartbeat (doppler) but since I'd had no spotting/cramping, my OB assumed it was normal. But I did start spotting slightly later that day and 2 u/s showed NO sign of pregnancy. It was a friday, so my levels weren't tested until Tuesday and my hcg was still positive, but was dropping (ruling out an ectopic in my case too). My OB guessed that I had had a blighted ovum, but there was no way to really know. I don't know if that helps or not, but I know for sure I was pregnant even though the u/s didn't show it at that point.

Again, big hugs to you, I am so sorry.

[juliasmom05]

Petra,

(((Hugs))). I'm so sorry.

Marci

Mom to Julia 4/05

[bcky2]

big (((HUGS))) i am so sorry that you are going thru this difficult time.

[firstbaby]

Petra:

I am so sorry for your news and for the roller coaster you've been on. Thank you for posting the update so we can keep you in our thoughts and prayers. Hugs, mama.

[kellyotn]

I'm so sorry. I had a blighted ovum. Really sucks to distrust your body. All the signals were there, plus numerous BFP's. But, there was never anything but an "empty sack". I hated hearing that term.

I hope you get some answers. That tech should be ashamed. Never belittle a woman like that!

Again, I'm so sorry.

[turtledove]

Oh Petra, I'm so sorry for your loss! That u/s tech needs to take a class on how to speak with people on sensitive topics.

Hugs!

[JMS]

My thoughts are with you Petra. Take care.

[BaileyBea]

BIG ((HUG)) I am so sorry that tech was unprofessional and had no compassion. I am glad you told your OB about how that tech treated you. That information does get back to them.

I had a blighted ovum before DS and the whole m/c thing was very hard on me and DH. Please take care and remember that any feelings you have right now are totally justified. Please let us know what you learn.

[sidmand]

Oh Petra,

I am so sorry. I know you have been on a huge rollercoaster of emotions going back and forth and this sucks to have it "end" in such an unfeeling way.

All I can say again is I am so sorry.

Debbie

Mom to Sawyer!
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[Puddy73]

I'm so sorry for your loss and the crappy way you were treated. Big cyber hugs.

Jennifer
Mommy to Annabelle 9/08/03 & Finn 10/31/05

"If a dog will not come to you after having looked you in the face, you should go home and examine your conscience." - Woodrow Wilson

[kboyle]

I am sooo sorry BIG HUGS to you!!!

As an US tech I am soo appalled that you were treated that way. I can not believe that she spoke to you like that & asked you those questions. I am glad to hear that you told your OB, because should get repremanded in someway for the way she treated you.

[elliput]

Petra, I am so sorry.

[Momof3Labs]

I'm sorry, Petra. I hope that you find peace and comfort as you mourn your loss.

[JFC]

Petra - I'm so sorry. What a roller coaster...big HUGS to you!

[MelissaTC]

Hugs Petra. I'm sorry. :(

[momto2boys]

Petra:

I am so very sad for you. I can't even imagine what you must be going through. I just wanted you to know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

Kathy

DS #1 - 12/01
DS #2 - 11/03
DS #3 - edd 7/06

[ChunkyNicksChunkyMom]

I am so sorry, Petra.

Susan

#1 Nick 11-18-04
#2 ETA 05-22-06

[Piglet]

Petra,

I am so very sorry for your loss. That tech needs to be ashamed of herself. Cyberhugs coming your way.

[Andrea S]

I am really sorry!! (((hugs)))

Andrea
mom to Andrew 8/14/02
& #2 EDD 3/28/06

[TaChapm]

Oh Petra, I am so sorry.

How horrible of the US tech. You would think they would be a little more tactful in a situation like that. I just hope it isn't etopic. You don't need to go through anything else.

Hugs to you and your family! You are in my thoughts!

Tara
Mommy to Jackson 11-10-02
Tyler William 6-9-05
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[mamicka]

I'm so sorry, Petra. {{HUGS}}

Allison

[wencit]

I'm so sorry, Petra.

[Vajrastorm]

I'm very sorry.

[deenass]

Petra,

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss.

[g-mama]

Petra,

I'm sorry. That stinks. I had an early m/c and was also told that I must have "willed" myself to feel pregnant. I felt the same way you do. :(


~Kristen

Paolo 11-00
Benjamin 8-03
Marco 12-05

[bostonsmama]

Oh no. I'm just seeing this. Please PM or email me if you need to. I've done the traumatic ectopic pg thing...and it's no picnic. As awful as it is to say, I pray that your body has been taking care of it, as the treatments can boast a lengthy recovery time.

You're in my thoughts and prayers. I'm so sorry you have to go through this.

Larissa
***Cheers! Here's to better luck in 2006!***

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-James Baldwin

[Judegirl]

Oh, Petra, I'm so very sorry. How awful. Try not to rush into anything, though...mistakes do happen sometimes...

I'll be thinking of you.

:)
Me

[ett]

Petra,

So sorry to hear of your loss.

[daniele_ut]

Petra - I am so, so sorry for your loss. There just aren't words to convey how sad I am for you.

[JElaineB]

Petra,

I'm so sorry to hear this. And sorry about your bad ultrasound experience. Please hang in there. I'll be thinking of you.

Jennifer
mom to Jacob 9/27/02

[pittsburghgirl]

Petra, I'm so sorry. {{HUGS}}

Marilee
mommy to James
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[lmintzer]

Oh, Petra. I'm so sorry for your loss. You'll be in my thoughts!!

[brittone2]

Petra-I have no words to express how sorry I am. This absolutely sucks for lack of a better way to say it.

I think that tech was way out of line and I hope she gets an earful from someone eventually.

You and your family are in my thoughts today. I'm so very sorry that you received this heartbreaking news.

[AmyZ]

Petra -- I'm so sorry. That nasty tech should feel ashamed!!

Amy Z

"Ma!" to Eliana May 2/5/04
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[kamal]

Petra

I am very, very sorry for your loss. Peace to you as you deal with this difficult time.

-Kamal

[Smiles81]

Petra,
I am so sorry for your loss and all you have been through. Best wishes for a speedy and complete healing.

Reena
Ima to Dovi 3/04

[mommyoftwo]

Oh Petra, I'm sorry about everything that is happening. That US tech was terrible. I've had my fair share of bad US experiences with a bad tech but this one takes the cake! I'm sure you were/are pregnant and it wasn't in your head. MC's suck. That's all there is to it and it doesn't matter if it happens early on or the pregnancy was unexpected. I've had two and was very devastated. You are definitely in my prayers. Keep us posted.

[TraciG]

I'm also sorry I hope you are ok :)

[chiqanita]

Thinking about you.
What a strange thing to happen ... with the tech...that person needs some more training, obviously.

[Corie]

Petra,

I'm so sorry!

[kaylinsmommy2]

Petra, I'm so sorry this is happening. Hugs. I'll be thinking of you.

Caroline
"ma meee" to Kaylin 6/5/04

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[KrisM]

Petra,

I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm sending hugs your way.

I had my hcg levels tested when I thought I had had a m/c and when I called for the results of the 2nd test, the nurse said "they're exactly where we want them to be". I said I was so glad, as I thought for sure I had had a m/c. She said, oh, well, you did, that's what we were hoping for. Yeah, thanks.

Where do these unsensitive people learn this?? I'm sorry about your u/s tech experience. That is just uncalled for.

[JulieL]

Petra I'M SSSOOOOO SORRY!!!!!!!!! I'm am tearing up right now, just reading that is so saddening. I KNOW what it feels like to know your pg and for people to question you - and to mc. I want you to know you're not alone in this. Feel free to vent, cry, scream whatnot any time. I hope you get some answers soon and that you recover fully emotionally and physically soon. You know where to find me.

(((((((((((((HHHHHHHHHHHUUUUUUUUUUGGGGGGGGGGSSSSSS SSS))))))))

[daisyandacorn]

I'm so sorry Petra...
:( Susan

[trumansmom]

(((Hugs)))

I'm so sorry you're having to go through this.

Jeanne
Mom to Truman 11/01 and Eleanor 4/04
Independent Consultant, Do-Re-Me & You!

[purpleeyes]

Petra-
So sorry for your bad news and your upsetting u/s experience.
You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

Beth

[npace19147]

Petra, so sorry to hear about your loss. I've read a lot of your emails in the MommyFit board and you sound like someone with a lot of inner strength, hopefully you will get through this tough time as gently as possible.

And that u/s tech sounds like a real %itch, you might want to think about reporting her if you have the energy.

[wendmatt]

Oh Petra, I'm so sorry. Big hugs to you.

[ribbit1019]

Ugh, how terrible for her to be so insensitive! I am so sorry Petra! :(

Christy
Maddy born 6/09/04
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[Katia]

Petra, I'm so sorry for your loss. Regardless of what's happening in our bodies (I had a m/c last fall), these pregnancies are so very real in our hearts. I'll be thinking of you.

(((HUGS)))

Katia
DS 2003

[buddyleebaby]

Petra,
I'm so sorry. Sending you (hugs). I know there are no words right now, but please know you have friends here when you need them.

[KBecks]

So sorry to hear it, and also, you have my sympathy for the rough treatment you got from the u/s tech. It's a shame when medical folks aren't sensitive to the emotions of the people they serve.

Please take care of yourself and your family and I hope life is gentler as you move forward.

[s7714]

Petra, I'm so sorry.

Jennifer
Mommy to
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DD 6/05

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[jesseandgrace]

I'm sorry, I know how hard this must be!

[momathome]

Petra - I am so very sorry you had such a horrible experience and I am very sorry about the loss of your pregnancy. Big hugs to you and I hope your OB is helpful in getting to the bottom of exactly what happened here. Hugs, sweetie.

[calebsmama03]

Oh Petra - so sorry you had to deal with such an insensitive a$$ at your u/s :( Hugs to you honey.
Lynne
Mommy to C 3/03
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And Miss Purple, 5/05

[Wife_and_mommy]

Petra: I'm so sorry to hear your news... I hope you're able to heal from this all. I would call and complain about the sonographer's bedside manner. It's the last thing you needed.

Take care.


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[missym]

Petra, I'm so sorry the news wasn't better. You're in my thoughts...

Missy, mom to Gwen 03/03 and Rebecca 09/05

[mamalou]

Oh Petra,

This is so sad. I am so sorry to hear this. You certainly don't need a u/s tech to tell you, you were pregnant. A mommy knows.

Big Hugs,

[thomma]

Petra-
I'm sorry for your loss. You're in my thoughts...

Kim
t&e 5/03

[nov04]

the tech should never have said a word to you. A doctor should have been asked to come in and see you right away to treat you with some compassion and respect, exactly the opposite to this tech. I'm sorry you were treated this way.

I'm sorry this has happened.

[alleyoop]

Oh Petra! I am so sorry for your loss. Nothing bad should happen to such a sweet person like yourself. I hope that you can give yourself and your fam a huge hug and be super nice to yourself.

Rude insensitive people suck. Blah!

[mommy_someday]

Oh, Petra, I am so sorry for your loss. Major hugs to you.

[ErinMC]

So sorry Petra. Thinking of you.

Erin

Mom to Chase Feb. 04
... and another little guy coming in June :-)

[ohiomom]

I'm so sad you are having to go through this.
Be kind to you. I hope you start feeling physically better soon. Your heart will probably take a while.
(((Hugs)))

Nicole's Mom 7/03
Joshua ^|^ 5/05

[jerseygirl07067]

Petra,

I am so sorry to hear this news. I am thinking of you and your family. Take care of yourself.

Marcy

[kozachka]

I am so sorry to hear this news. BIG HUGS to you. And I am equally angry at the u/s technician on your behalf, complete lack of tack and common sense.

[chrissyhowie]

I'm so sorry for your loss. As someone who works in the field, I think it was totally out of line for the u/s tech to make those kind of comments to you. You will be in my thoughts.

[deborah_r]

I'm so sorry Petra. Big hugs coming your way.

[Dcclerk]

I am so sorry, Petra. That is such painful news, and the way that you found out is just inexcusable. Big hugs for you.

[Roleysmom]

Petra, I'm so sorry. And I'm doubly sorry that the tech threw salt on the wound. I'll be thinking of you and your family.

Paula -- mom to Roley Julia, January '02

[saschalicks]

Petra,
I just saw this and cannot tell you how sorry I am for you. May your heart heal quickly (if that's even possible). Take care of yourself.

[aliceinwonderland]

Ah, that sucks. I am mad for you at the US tech "Are you sure you're pregnant" "No, I just thought I'd come in for the fun of it" Idiot.

Hugs, Petra. I am very sorry :( :(

[psophia17]

Thank you everyone, again, for the hugs and support. It means so much to me to have the BBB to lean on right now.

That said, I will be slowing down my BBBing for a bit...I don't have the energy to keep up right now. But I'll be checking in regularly...and several members will probably hear from me often. And don't worry, I'll be back sooner rather than later. That's just the kind of girl I am.

Again - I am so grateful for what has been given to me here. It is food for the soul.

[tina-t]

Petra, I am so sorry for your loss.

[Eloise36]

I am so sorry, Petra. {{{HUGS}}}

[pixelprincess]

{{hugs}} Petra. I am so sorry for your loss.

[Jeanne]

I'm so sorry Petra. What a terrible condescending attitude from that tech. That's really crappy. Stay strong.

[caridura]

Oh Petra, I am so sorry. :(