knaidel
01-17-2006, 05:25 PM
In light of some of the problems that others have posted about, I recognize that this is petty. However, I would like to get advice on how to handle it.
I have a good relationship with my neighbor directly downstairs from me- I live in a building. Last Sunday morning, I was following along on an exercise tape, and the phone rang. She said in a tired voice,"Is everything okay up there because I've been hearing banging all morning."
First off, I didn't like her wording. Why don't you just come out and say, "the banging is bothering me?" I don't like the false pretense of "is everything okay up there?" Second, "All morning" was an exaggeration. DS had been playing from about 7:30-8:30, and was napping from 9 am. I began exercising at about 9:40. I recognize that maybe I shouldn't have begun the tape until 10. However, they have a baby, so I assume most people with kids are up by then. But I should have waited. I stopped the tape and didn't finish.
Just now, I called and told her, "I am planning on exercising after Ds goes to sleep at about 5:30 or 6. I just want to check that that's okay with you." She tells me, "Well, I think it will be okay, but my DH is coming home then, so if it's a problem, I will call up."
Okay, now, this kinds of ticks me off. Who is her DH? I have to stop exercising if it the jumping bothers him? it's my opinion that apartment living comes with some nusiances. One of those nusiances is that your neighbors will make noise, and you might not like it. However, if the noise is at a reasonable hour, tough. By the way, they let their baby CIO all the time...wakes up my son with her high pitched screams a few times a week....but that's part of living in an apartment. I called to make sure that she wouldn't be putting her baby to sleep at that time (or some other situation like that).
I am not really sure how to handle this. I need to exercise, and can't always get to the gym. She is a nice person, and we have been friends since she moved in this past fall, and I would hate to lose a friend (albeit not so close) in the building over this. The ideal would be for me to exercise when she's gone to work (I telecommute), but it doesn't always match up with DS's nap schedule.
ETA: she works part time, a funny schedule- different hours each day, that's why it doesn't always work out.
Any ideas?
I have a good relationship with my neighbor directly downstairs from me- I live in a building. Last Sunday morning, I was following along on an exercise tape, and the phone rang. She said in a tired voice,"Is everything okay up there because I've been hearing banging all morning."
First off, I didn't like her wording. Why don't you just come out and say, "the banging is bothering me?" I don't like the false pretense of "is everything okay up there?" Second, "All morning" was an exaggeration. DS had been playing from about 7:30-8:30, and was napping from 9 am. I began exercising at about 9:40. I recognize that maybe I shouldn't have begun the tape until 10. However, they have a baby, so I assume most people with kids are up by then. But I should have waited. I stopped the tape and didn't finish.
Just now, I called and told her, "I am planning on exercising after Ds goes to sleep at about 5:30 or 6. I just want to check that that's okay with you." She tells me, "Well, I think it will be okay, but my DH is coming home then, so if it's a problem, I will call up."
Okay, now, this kinds of ticks me off. Who is her DH? I have to stop exercising if it the jumping bothers him? it's my opinion that apartment living comes with some nusiances. One of those nusiances is that your neighbors will make noise, and you might not like it. However, if the noise is at a reasonable hour, tough. By the way, they let their baby CIO all the time...wakes up my son with her high pitched screams a few times a week....but that's part of living in an apartment. I called to make sure that she wouldn't be putting her baby to sleep at that time (or some other situation like that).
I am not really sure how to handle this. I need to exercise, and can't always get to the gym. She is a nice person, and we have been friends since she moved in this past fall, and I would hate to lose a friend (albeit not so close) in the building over this. The ideal would be for me to exercise when she's gone to work (I telecommute), but it doesn't always match up with DS's nap schedule.
ETA: she works part time, a funny schedule- different hours each day, that's why it doesn't always work out.
Any ideas?