kelly ann
01-21-2006, 05:58 AM
I have not seen the ILs since Christmas when they arrived late for the dinner and then proceded to barely eat anything (they filled up on food at their church Christmas meal). They tore through their presents and scooted out a little after one hour. It was the last straw for me and I told DH that I didn't want them back in the house unless they apologized. Of course, this has been brewing for a long time and this is just one in a whole string of annoyances. Well, DH has informed me that his mother will never apologize since she is stubborn (meaning immature) and truly believes she is always right. She has alienated so many other folks in the family, but still believes it has nothing to do with her (since she is always right).
My problem is that DS really misses her. The other day the doorbell rang and DS ran to the door thinking it was my MIL. On top of it, DH stopped by their place with DS last week and he got so excited knowing he was going to see her.
This Sunday, I am going to see a theater show with a friend and DH is having them come over to the house to see the children while I am out. It seems that they are upset about the situation and miss the kids terribly.
Is this the future...I leave so MIL can come into the house to see the kids? Or DH takes them over to their place without me? Does anyone else have this situation? I just think the children will wonder why mommy does not ever see the grandparents. Or, do I go back to seeing them again and just learn to bite my tongue or stifle my frustration so she can spend time with the children?
By the way, my SIL does not get along with the MIL and it got to the point that the BIL always took the kids over to see them with his wife. DH and I swore we would never get in that situation, but that is where we are at :(
My problem is that DS really misses her. The other day the doorbell rang and DS ran to the door thinking it was my MIL. On top of it, DH stopped by their place with DS last week and he got so excited knowing he was going to see her.
This Sunday, I am going to see a theater show with a friend and DH is having them come over to the house to see the children while I am out. It seems that they are upset about the situation and miss the kids terribly.
Is this the future...I leave so MIL can come into the house to see the kids? Or DH takes them over to their place without me? Does anyone else have this situation? I just think the children will wonder why mommy does not ever see the grandparents. Or, do I go back to seeing them again and just learn to bite my tongue or stifle my frustration so she can spend time with the children?
By the way, my SIL does not get along with the MIL and it got to the point that the BIL always took the kids over to see them with his wife. DH and I swore we would never get in that situation, but that is where we are at :(