Need advice... WWYD?

[Radosti]

A really close friend of mine told me that she went in search of BabiesRUs gift card as a gift for Aaron's arrival, but since it was holiday time, they were all out. Above my objections, she told me that she and her fiancee are sending me out a check as a gift for Aaron. I repeated that she didn't need to give us gifts, but she insisted.

Well, I just realized that I never got it. Now, I am in a weird position. Do I tell her that I never received it? If I sent someone a gift, I'd want to know if they never got it. However, what if she changed her mind and never sent it? Then, if I ask about it, it would be like asking for a gift.

However, if I don't say anything and she thinks I got it... then, I will appear to be ungrateful.

What should I do???

[Sillygirl]

Well, if she sent a check and never saw it cashed, that would be a big clue to her that you never received it, and she could ask you about it if she wanted to. So I would not say anything, because it seems more likely she either forgot or changed her mind, and it might embarass her to be reminded of that.

[Saartje]

I would broach the subject something like this:

"Friend, I know I said you didn't have to send us a gift for Aaron, and you still don't, but you did say you were going to send a check. I just wanted to check on whether you had sent one, because one hasn't arrived, and if you did send one, I want to send you a thank you note."

Just make sure that if she says she didn't send one after all, you sound really cheerful and relieved, so it's clear that you weren't fishing for a gift and simply wanted to give proper thanks.

[KBecks]

Agree with Katie, that's exactly how I'd handle it.

[ribbit1019]

I wouldn't say anything either. She would notice if a check wasn't cashed. Or at least most people would.
If it is really going to weigh on your mind then I would approach it as PP said. Possibly not the thank you angle, though that is important, I would be concerned that someone else cashed it.

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