Why am I so panicky this time?

[buttergirl12]

So this pregnancy is an accident but we did plan to start TTC in about 6 month. I already knew DH wasn't going to be very supportive. He doesn't believe pregnant women deserve special treatment. I'm so much more afraid that something will go wrong maybe because I was lucky the first time. We don't have any family nearby and no friends that I could ask to get here in the middle of the night to watch DS while we go to the hospital. They would probably allow him in the hospital but not during the actual delivery. I don't know what to do. Fortunately we still have 8 month to think about it. I want another baby so bad but I don't know if I can handle 2.

Manja
WAHM to J 10/2003

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[denna]

Manja-

I just wanted to say that I understand (partly) what you are going through. Its complete natural when you find out you are pregnant to have all sorts of thoughts and worries going through your mind. Especially being away from home w/ no close friends or family to help out and support you.
When I found out I was pregnant I was so scared even though I had wanted a baby so long, it made it real. I had so many worries and still do, like can I handle this? Will I be a good mom? How much is this going to change my life?, etc. This is just my first child so I dont know the extra worries that already having one child brings (thats where partly came from). But I hope this helps you a little, Im sorry I couldnt add more.

On a completely different note I wanted to ask where you got your pregnancy ticker I really like the developmental ones.

Take Care....

Denna

[mama2galpals]

manja,

(((()))) hugs to you, girlfriend. i know you might feel overwhelmed right now but remember you have plenty of time to work these things out. make sure to take some time for you to clear your head. lots of dhs don't think pg women deserve special treatment which is unfortunate because if they were ever pregnant they would then SO understand.

it's always overwhelming adding to what you have but try to remember there are 8 months ahead and focus on your ds and the fact that you are giving him a little brother or sister.

i always feel like when the time is right that is when we meet someone or we get pg or things like that. when the second child is born all of a sudden you will know begin the process of juggling the two.

if you can look around for babysitters over the next few months you could try to set something up where you could drop off your ds when you go into labor. labor doesn't always start in the middle of the night so it could be daytime too. also, maybe you could save for a baby nurse for a week after the baby comes home or something of that sort. even a daytime sitter for ds would be helpful.

i hope this all helps. feel free to im me anytime!




rita
mommy to
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stella '00
emma '03

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[buttergirl12]

I'm just surprised because I didn't feel like this before baby #1.

My ticker is from lafemmebonita.com

Manja
WAHM to J 10/2003

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[buttergirl12]

I try to tell myself everything will work out. We still have 8 month. DS will have to go to daycare by then. There is no way I can work with a toddler and a newborn in the house. But the rational/logical thinking part of my brain doesn't work right now.

Manja
WAHM to J 10/2003

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[jesseandgrace]

I think your concerns are valid and normal. It would be nice if over the next 8 months you could find someone to help with your 2 year old. Is there a playgroup or anything where you can meet other moms? My kids are 2 years and 9 months apart, and it really has been great.

[kijip]

Toby was a BCP baby so certainly an "accident". By 9-10 weeks (first u/s) we were both so thrilled. It can take awhile but I am sure it will work out in the end.

Some of your other posts give me pause and worry me a little for you and your children. If you have any questions or need to talk, you can PM me if you like. I am sep from my husband and we are slowly moving towards rebuilding and reworking the foundation of our marriage as he works to resolve anger issues. It is hard but worth it for my sake and Toby's sake.

[JacksMommy]

I think it's normal to be a little more anxious the 2nd time around, actually. You've met more people, heard more stories of what can go wrong, and it all feels a more real, somehow. This is compounded by the fact that you have raging hormones and a toddler to contend with. It is so much harder to get the rest you need with #2.

It's early days yet, you will doubtless be able to make some good decisions to help you feel better about things. Plus the hormones usually settle down somewhat. You've gotten some great advice about getting support - if you can't get the support you need from your husband, then i hope you can find it somewhere else.

Let us know how you are doing!

Laurel
WOHM to Jack, 6/4/02
Baby Madeline 12/14/04

[buttergirl12]

Manja
WAHM to J 10/2003
and #2 on the way 11/2006

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