Timmersmom
04-29-2006, 12:22 AM
I may have the chance to start working again, but it would involve many HUGE changes for my family, and I am really torn - it is keeping me up at night.
A little background: I stopped working (3 days/wk) after my DD was born, about 2 years ago. We were living in Northern Virginia, and we now live in a rural "exurb". My incredible DH commutes 2 hours each way to get to work. That's the only way we could afford to live on one salary.
I stumbled across a job opportunity that is perfect for my skills (I'm an attorney specializing in Medicare law). It's not for sure that I have the job yet, but it's looking good, and I want to have my mind made up before any offer.
Here are the factors that I keep going over in my head:
1. I feel terribly guilty about DH's commute, even though he keeps telling me he doesn't mind, and it's my decision about going back to work. If I go back to work, we'd make enough to live maybe 1/2 hour or so from work.
2. However, once we moved back, I really wouldn't have the option to change my mind about working full-time, I'd be stuck. I am so scared that I will big-time regret going from SAHM to full-time working mom. I was pretty good at it, but Medicare law is um, not that exciting. But I do admit I get bored/frustrated at home sometimes, worry that my skills are getting stale, and if I stay out of work much longer, I'll become unmarketable.
3. The disruption to my children. DS is currently in a good preschool that he's happy in, and if we move back in to Northern Virginia, I am skeptical of my chances to get him into a decent preschool on such short notice. And he is very sensitive, high-strung little guy. He will be in Kindergarten in Fall 2007, but I really want him in a good preschool environment for this upcoming year. I think DD would be OK in daycare, but don't even know if I could find a good daycare on such short notice, with all the waiting lists in NoVa. I could get a nanny, but don't think I could afford that AND preschool.
4. Both kids are in speech therapy. DS's speech isn't that bad, but DD is still not talking. I don't know how I can deal with weekly speech therapy for each of them when I'm working full-time.
5. Ah yes, the money factor. After crunching numbers and guesstimating, we would come out maybe around $15K ahead a year if I went back to work and we moved back in to NoVA. It could be more, but at least that. It would go up after kids were in grade school.
6. The lifestyle factor. The public schools there are MUCH better than the ones where we are now. Plus there is really not much here to do, and the only shopping here is Walmart.
So if you've read my incredibly long marathon post, thank you, and please give me any advice or thoughts you have that could help me make a decision.
Thanks!
ETA: The thing that really gets me is. . .imagining myself looking out my window at work and wondering what my kids are doing at that moment while I'm pushing paper around a desk.
A little background: I stopped working (3 days/wk) after my DD was born, about 2 years ago. We were living in Northern Virginia, and we now live in a rural "exurb". My incredible DH commutes 2 hours each way to get to work. That's the only way we could afford to live on one salary.
I stumbled across a job opportunity that is perfect for my skills (I'm an attorney specializing in Medicare law). It's not for sure that I have the job yet, but it's looking good, and I want to have my mind made up before any offer.
Here are the factors that I keep going over in my head:
1. I feel terribly guilty about DH's commute, even though he keeps telling me he doesn't mind, and it's my decision about going back to work. If I go back to work, we'd make enough to live maybe 1/2 hour or so from work.
2. However, once we moved back, I really wouldn't have the option to change my mind about working full-time, I'd be stuck. I am so scared that I will big-time regret going from SAHM to full-time working mom. I was pretty good at it, but Medicare law is um, not that exciting. But I do admit I get bored/frustrated at home sometimes, worry that my skills are getting stale, and if I stay out of work much longer, I'll become unmarketable.
3. The disruption to my children. DS is currently in a good preschool that he's happy in, and if we move back in to Northern Virginia, I am skeptical of my chances to get him into a decent preschool on such short notice. And he is very sensitive, high-strung little guy. He will be in Kindergarten in Fall 2007, but I really want him in a good preschool environment for this upcoming year. I think DD would be OK in daycare, but don't even know if I could find a good daycare on such short notice, with all the waiting lists in NoVa. I could get a nanny, but don't think I could afford that AND preschool.
4. Both kids are in speech therapy. DS's speech isn't that bad, but DD is still not talking. I don't know how I can deal with weekly speech therapy for each of them when I'm working full-time.
5. Ah yes, the money factor. After crunching numbers and guesstimating, we would come out maybe around $15K ahead a year if I went back to work and we moved back in to NoVA. It could be more, but at least that. It would go up after kids were in grade school.
6. The lifestyle factor. The public schools there are MUCH better than the ones where we are now. Plus there is really not much here to do, and the only shopping here is Walmart.
So if you've read my incredibly long marathon post, thank you, and please give me any advice or thoughts you have that could help me make a decision.
Thanks!
ETA: The thing that really gets me is. . .imagining myself looking out my window at work and wondering what my kids are doing at that moment while I'm pushing paper around a desk.