would you tell ob that you're switching?

[spu]

so I finally made the switch to a midwifery practice at a different hospital. I have my last peri appointment on Monday. Should I tell him that I've decided to switch? or just finish out the appointment and call on Tuesday to have my records transferd? what would you do?

thanks!


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[ribbit1019]

Hmm, well I would tell him in person. If he were nice to me and provided good care, I'd feel guilty about just leaving. And conversely if he or his staff provided other than stellar service that has caused you to switch you should tell them, as nicely as possible, that they bite and your leaving. :) :)

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[buddyleebaby]

And conversely if he or his staff provided other than stellar service that has caused you to switch you should tell them, as nicely as possible, that they bite and your leaving.


LOL, Christy!

[Momof3Labs]

When I switched from my OB to a midwife at 19 or 20 weeks, I just had my records transferred. But I only had two appointments with the OB's office (and with two different OBs, so maybe 5-10 minutes per OB??) and didn't feel that there was a relationship that I had to make an effort to sever, KWIM?

[Rachels]

Do whatever makes you comfortable. You don't owe anything to a doctor who wasn't meeting your needs, so don't stress yourself out over it. If you want to communicate the reasons for your switch but don't want to deal with a potentially uncomfortable conversation, just drop off a quick note: I have decided to switch to a practice that is overtly supportive of my desire for a vaginal birth. I've had my records transferred and appreciate your time in my pregnancy thus far. Best of luck.

I'm so excited that you switched! Good for you for following your gut.

-Rachel
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[egoldber]

For a regular OB, I might be a bit blunt. But since this a peri, and its conceivable you may need their services again should you become high risk for some reason later, I would be more polite.

[spu]

He might even know already... at my new place, they have a peri who's on the same team as my current (old) peri, so it might show up in the same database that I have 2 future appts with the new guy...

A while back, I had made a call out of desperation to a receptionist at another perinatologists' office to see if I about having a second opionion pre-cerclage, and it got back to my peri, who was pretty upset that I made a call... he was more than rude to me actually.

I may consider telling him at the end of the appt, if I'm comfortable, that I've decided to switch to midwifery care. Otherwise, I may just slip away and call for my records the next day.

ugh. so nerve-racking.


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[KBecks]

Sure, why not? You can talk about your reasons, and then you'll both have some closure. I'd try to make the meeting mutually positive though, even if you're criticizing, try to make it constructive and helpful, and thank the doc for whatever he/she has helped with so far.

[Rachels]

It's nerve-wracking because we've been taught that we have to do what our doctors say and not go against them, kwim? It wouldn't be nerve-wracking to switch, say, pharmacists, because we're not expected to have that kind of loyalty. But you're a consumer with your healthcare provider just as you are with any other kind of service. I say do whatever makes YOU feel the most comfortable. This is your pregnancy, not his. (I'm steaming because of the degree to which he has been rude to you. I felt equally nerve-wracked when we switched peds when Abby was a newborn, and now I hate it that I allowed that crazy woman such power over my emotions. I hope this is the very end of provider-induced anxiety for you.)

-Rachel
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Maya

[ajmom]

With my 1st pgcy I switched OBs halfway through without saying anything. I didn't feel I had any relationship with my former OB b/c I had only begn seeing him since I got pg.

Also, if this guy has been rude to you, chances are you'll find another peri (or have already) if you need one anyway. Besides, I also wouldn't want any conversation from him that might make you angry if he disapproves of your choice of using a midwife or if he lists any reasons he may have for why he thinks you shouldn't do it. Does that make sense?

Honestly, I wouldn't even worry about my records- let your new practice take care of it. Just my $.02

[Melanie]

I'm more likely not to say something and see if he even notices. }(

I had to see an MD during my pregnancy who routinely ran 1-2 hours behind without regard to her patients. Her excuses might be, "Sorry, it's Monday and I just got back from vacation so I'm running a bit behind." Finally the last visit I walked out before seeing her as I didn't want to be late for my Midwife appointment. They never called to reschedule, never noticed or contacted me in anyway. Pfft. I think it said a lot about how much she and her staff cared about their patients.

(Sorry to hijack)