annasmom
08-17-2006, 07:45 AM
Ugh, very long story as short as possible -- we have had our current nanny for just over one year with no complaints. She is a really good nanny. She works part-time for us, and the rest of the week for another family. A few months ago, she told me she was getting married, moving away, and wouldn't be working for us after her marriage. Then, maybe 2 months ago she told me that she and her fiance have decided that they want to live somewhere else and that she could continue to work for me.
Shortly thereafter she told me the mom from the other family had lost her job (the father was already unemployed). The other family still wanted to continue to employ her however. We switched her hours around because of the other family's new situation and my nanny's desire to be home early on Fridays, and gave her a raise effective after she comes back from her wedding because she was losing money because of her new hours, and in anticipation of our new baby.
The other day she told me that the other mom got a temporary job, and asked if we could switch her hours again (pretty much back to what they are right now - no problem). Well, today she tells me that she doesn't think that she will have a job at her other employer after October because the other mom has informed her that they cannot afford her anymore and if her husband doesn't have a job by then, he will become a SAHD (although he IS already home).
So, my concern is I just *know* she is going to leave me in a few months, if not be the end of October. When she first told me that she was leaving, I was actually a little pleased because then I wouldn't have to pay for childcare when I am home with the new baby (end of September). I work per diem, mostly from home, and have no benefits. Now, I am stuck paying her for that time at a higher rate, and she will probably be leaving me anyway. I just don't know what to do, if I should do anything. I am concerned about leaving a new baby with someone I do not know. I am concerned that new baby, starting a new school in September, and a new child care provider might throw Anna into a tailspin.
FWIW, I don't think my nanny is playing games with me. I think she is confused by everything that is going on in her life, new dh, new home in a new location, etc. I think she is trying to be honest with me about a somewhat complicated situation. I also know that she wants to get pregnant asap, and has commented that she doesn't know if she will be able to work when pregnant.
So, what do you think?? I have no plans or desire to fire her right now before her wedding, but I am thinking that maybe when she gets back I might think about looking for someone new. I am also concerned that right now my pregnancy hormones are playing with me. Ever since my nanny told me she was leaving, she has been annoying me. Nothing too important, but a bunch of little things have been bothering me. So suffice it to say, I don't know if I can trust that I am thinking all too clearly on this issue.
If you have read this novel, thank you so much. I would appreciate any advice. It feels good just getting it out there!
Shortly thereafter she told me the mom from the other family had lost her job (the father was already unemployed). The other family still wanted to continue to employ her however. We switched her hours around because of the other family's new situation and my nanny's desire to be home early on Fridays, and gave her a raise effective after she comes back from her wedding because she was losing money because of her new hours, and in anticipation of our new baby.
The other day she told me that the other mom got a temporary job, and asked if we could switch her hours again (pretty much back to what they are right now - no problem). Well, today she tells me that she doesn't think that she will have a job at her other employer after October because the other mom has informed her that they cannot afford her anymore and if her husband doesn't have a job by then, he will become a SAHD (although he IS already home).
So, my concern is I just *know* she is going to leave me in a few months, if not be the end of October. When she first told me that she was leaving, I was actually a little pleased because then I wouldn't have to pay for childcare when I am home with the new baby (end of September). I work per diem, mostly from home, and have no benefits. Now, I am stuck paying her for that time at a higher rate, and she will probably be leaving me anyway. I just don't know what to do, if I should do anything. I am concerned about leaving a new baby with someone I do not know. I am concerned that new baby, starting a new school in September, and a new child care provider might throw Anna into a tailspin.
FWIW, I don't think my nanny is playing games with me. I think she is confused by everything that is going on in her life, new dh, new home in a new location, etc. I think she is trying to be honest with me about a somewhat complicated situation. I also know that she wants to get pregnant asap, and has commented that she doesn't know if she will be able to work when pregnant.
So, what do you think?? I have no plans or desire to fire her right now before her wedding, but I am thinking that maybe when she gets back I might think about looking for someone new. I am also concerned that right now my pregnancy hormones are playing with me. Ever since my nanny told me she was leaving, she has been annoying me. Nothing too important, but a bunch of little things have been bothering me. So suffice it to say, I don't know if I can trust that I am thinking all too clearly on this issue.
If you have read this novel, thank you so much. I would appreciate any advice. It feels good just getting it out there!