psophia17
08-17-2006, 01:50 PM
In general, DH is pretty good for noticing when things are bothering me, and steps up to help me cope. He's even gotten somewhat good at not offering suggestions and just letting me spill my guts.
However, when it's something we're both worried about, he clams up and blocks it out, while I want to talk about it over and over again. This usually means he ends up angry at me for bringing up whatever topic it is, and me upset with him for not being able to listen to my attempt to psych myself up.
With the baby's due date rapidly approaching, I'm getting nervous about L&D and VBACing, and so is DH. I'm planning and researching and getting prepared for anything, and DH is sticking his head in the sand saying fun things like "if one person asks if you want a c/s, you're saying yes, and that's final" when I tell him anything I've learned. Needless to say, it's making us both fairly miserable.
Anyhow, I guess my question is are there any sources out there that are designed to help the worried-as-heck-but-ignoring-it type cope?
However, when it's something we're both worried about, he clams up and blocks it out, while I want to talk about it over and over again. This usually means he ends up angry at me for bringing up whatever topic it is, and me upset with him for not being able to listen to my attempt to psych myself up.
With the baby's due date rapidly approaching, I'm getting nervous about L&D and VBACing, and so is DH. I'm planning and researching and getting prepared for anything, and DH is sticking his head in the sand saying fun things like "if one person asks if you want a c/s, you're saying yes, and that's final" when I tell him anything I've learned. Needless to say, it's making us both fairly miserable.
Anyhow, I guess my question is are there any sources out there that are designed to help the worried-as-heck-but-ignoring-it type cope?