Raidra
09-28-2006, 03:01 PM
I trust you guys when it comes to manners, so hopefully you all can tell me what to do.
Colwyn's birthday is coming up, and I'm a bit confused when it comes to the guest list. We have a big playgroup of people we see a few times a month (not everyone makes it every week, so I generally see our regulars twice a month or so). There are two moms that I see more often and occasionally talk to outside of playgroup, so I'll definitely be inviting them and their kids. But what about the other moms? We've never been invited to any of their kids' birthdays, but obviously I don't know for sure that they've had birthday parties where kids from playgroup were invited. But I feel bad for Colwyn only having two kids at his birthday party, y'know?
The other dilemma is about one of our neighbors. She has two kids who are very close in age to my boys. We only see each other when we both happen to be outside, which maybe happens twice a month. I've invited her to both of Colwyn's parties and Lachlann's party, they only made it to Colwyn's second birthday party. They've never invited us to a party for their kids, but I sort of recall her saying something about not having parties for her kids because they usually happen to be away. So, do I invite them? They always drop off a present if they can't come, and I feel awkward about sending them an invitation and it looking like I'm asking for a gift (since we don't really see each other a lot). If we don't invite them, they'll almost definitely notice something going on, as they just live two houses down. What do I do?
I'm starting to feel like a total social outcast.. I talk to several moms in our playgroup and around the block, but never get invited to anything that's not open to all the members of our playgroup (which is huge, so usually playdates at people's houses and stuff aren't done as general invites). I worry that I'm not working hard enough to make sure my boys have friends. :(
Colwyn's birthday is coming up, and I'm a bit confused when it comes to the guest list. We have a big playgroup of people we see a few times a month (not everyone makes it every week, so I generally see our regulars twice a month or so). There are two moms that I see more often and occasionally talk to outside of playgroup, so I'll definitely be inviting them and their kids. But what about the other moms? We've never been invited to any of their kids' birthdays, but obviously I don't know for sure that they've had birthday parties where kids from playgroup were invited. But I feel bad for Colwyn only having two kids at his birthday party, y'know?
The other dilemma is about one of our neighbors. She has two kids who are very close in age to my boys. We only see each other when we both happen to be outside, which maybe happens twice a month. I've invited her to both of Colwyn's parties and Lachlann's party, they only made it to Colwyn's second birthday party. They've never invited us to a party for their kids, but I sort of recall her saying something about not having parties for her kids because they usually happen to be away. So, do I invite them? They always drop off a present if they can't come, and I feel awkward about sending them an invitation and it looking like I'm asking for a gift (since we don't really see each other a lot). If we don't invite them, they'll almost definitely notice something going on, as they just live two houses down. What do I do?
I'm starting to feel like a total social outcast.. I talk to several moms in our playgroup and around the block, but never get invited to anything that's not open to all the members of our playgroup (which is huge, so usually playdates at people's houses and stuff aren't done as general invites). I worry that I'm not working hard enough to make sure my boys have friends. :(