almostamom
10-30-2006, 11:46 PM
My roommate from college and I were very close friends for a long, long time. Unfortunately, that changed when I got engaged to DH (I honestly don't know why - and I'm really not sure it matters anymore). She stopped calling me, but was still very friendly when I called her. She was in my wedding party and her oldest daughter (my goddaughter) was a flower girl. I have seen her exactly once since I got married. We only live about 45 miles apart. Except for birthdays, she has not called me in 4 years. I stopped calling her (except for holidays) about 2 years ago. She did not come to my baby shower and has never been to my house (she has been invited). She has 3 children and I have always bought them gifts for birthdays and Christmas. She has done the same since I had DS.
Here's the question. How do I stop sending gifts? It seems silly to continue since I know we're both just doing it out of habit and guilt. Do I write her a note? What would I say? Do I just not send anything (which is how she and I stopped exchanging for our bdays - she just sent a card one year - I got the hint - no big deal.) We haven't had a fight. I'm not angry with her. I just think that our friendship has "run its course" so to speak. So, what's the best way to handle the end of the gift giving?
TIA,
Linda
Here's the question. How do I stop sending gifts? It seems silly to continue since I know we're both just doing it out of habit and guilt. Do I write her a note? What would I say? Do I just not send anything (which is how she and I stopped exchanging for our bdays - she just sent a card one year - I got the hint - no big deal.) We haven't had a fight. I'm not angry with her. I just think that our friendship has "run its course" so to speak. So, what's the best way to handle the end of the gift giving?
TIA,
Linda