kozachka
12-07-2006, 10:44 AM
I just found out from my mom during an unrelated telephone call that my dad is coming to stay with us for the week-end. My reaction was "why wouldn't he ask me if it's OK first". Mom's reaction, all upset, "I'll tell him not to come" after which she cut off the conversation.
For some reason my parents do not understand that our one bedroom under 650 sq. ft. apartment is too small even for our own family. And that I do not want to feed and clean after my father on the week-end. Or entertain him. He is not a great communicator either, he prefers to watch TV rather than talk. Besides I just dropped DS off with MIL and would like to spend some quality time with my DH and my Dad sleeping on the couch in the adjacent room is not good for that. So that you don't think that I am a heartless daughter, my dad stayed with us the previous week-end, Friday through Monday, at which point my Mom showed up and stayed with us through this past Friday. And we did not know he was coming (OK, I did not pay our phone bill but he could have called DH's office) until he showed up at our door. Oh, and my mom is coming back for her American visa interview so hopefully for only a day or two in a week and a half from now. I know my Dad is bored in the tiny town where he is currently on a business trip but come on...
ETA: It gets better. I got a SMS from my Dad saying that he is at my brother's dormitory right now and that my mom told him not to call me. So should he now go to the train station to sleep? Of course, I replied that he should come over and sleep at our place. Like I had a choice. I tried to explain why he should ask if it's OK to visit before he shows up and was told that I am sooo rude and that family does not need to ask to visit.
My dad's monthly salary would not pay even for one night in a nearby hotel. And I do not see why we should be shelling $300-$600 per night at a hotel (that's the prices at local hotels downtown Kiev due to constrained supply and high demand from business travellers).
For some reason my parents do not understand that our one bedroom under 650 sq. ft. apartment is too small even for our own family. And that I do not want to feed and clean after my father on the week-end. Or entertain him. He is not a great communicator either, he prefers to watch TV rather than talk. Besides I just dropped DS off with MIL and would like to spend some quality time with my DH and my Dad sleeping on the couch in the adjacent room is not good for that. So that you don't think that I am a heartless daughter, my dad stayed with us the previous week-end, Friday through Monday, at which point my Mom showed up and stayed with us through this past Friday. And we did not know he was coming (OK, I did not pay our phone bill but he could have called DH's office) until he showed up at our door. Oh, and my mom is coming back for her American visa interview so hopefully for only a day or two in a week and a half from now. I know my Dad is bored in the tiny town where he is currently on a business trip but come on...
ETA: It gets better. I got a SMS from my Dad saying that he is at my brother's dormitory right now and that my mom told him not to call me. So should he now go to the train station to sleep? Of course, I replied that he should come over and sleep at our place. Like I had a choice. I tried to explain why he should ask if it's OK to visit before he shows up and was told that I am sooo rude and that family does not need to ask to visit.
My dad's monthly salary would not pay even for one night in a nearby hotel. And I do not see why we should be shelling $300-$600 per night at a hotel (that's the prices at local hotels downtown Kiev due to constrained supply and high demand from business travellers).