JTsMom
06-26-2007, 11:50 PM
About a month or so ago, DS started hitting (right around his 2nd b-day). It happens mainly when he's frustrated or tired, but sometimes it's totally out of the blue. It's really starting to concern me, b/c I'm afraid he is going to hit another child. Twice in the past week, I've seen him raise his arm up like he was going to hit other children. Once, a little girl had taken a ball away from him, but the second time, a little boy had just walked near him. Both times, he stopped when I called his name (as I moved toward him).
Also, he has started hitting himself in the head- pretty hard too. Just like I mentioned above, it happens more often when he is frustrated, but sometimes it will be kind of random. For example, I could ask him if he'd like a drink, and he'll hit himself!
We have never/would never hit him, and he has never seen other people hitting/being hit, so I'm not sure why this started.
So far, we'e been telling him, "No, hitting hurts! Gentle touches only!", and trying to prevent it in the first place. We also have tried giving him alternatives- teaching him to "say" he's frustrated (kind of signing it), hitting a pillow, giving a high-five, etc. We've even tried brief kind of informal time-outs, but that seems to make the situation worse.
What has worked for you? Is this something he'll just outgrow, or am I dropping the ball here?
Also, he has started hitting himself in the head- pretty hard too. Just like I mentioned above, it happens more often when he is frustrated, but sometimes it will be kind of random. For example, I could ask him if he'd like a drink, and he'll hit himself!
We have never/would never hit him, and he has never seen other people hitting/being hit, so I'm not sure why this started.
So far, we'e been telling him, "No, hitting hurts! Gentle touches only!", and trying to prevent it in the first place. We also have tried giving him alternatives- teaching him to "say" he's frustrated (kind of signing it), hitting a pillow, giving a high-five, etc. We've even tried brief kind of informal time-outs, but that seems to make the situation worse.
What has worked for you? Is this something he'll just outgrow, or am I dropping the ball here?