gatorsmom
08-27-2007, 01:28 PM
I am actively searching for a nanny to either help me with my 4yr old and 2 yr old while I"m getting bigger and less able to do stuff OR she will completely take over caring for my kids while I'm on bedrest. If all goes well, in November I"ll have a scheduled c-section and will absolutely have to have a nanny while I"m in the hospital and recovering. So we are going to have to have a fulltime nanny. But in the meantime, I don't know if I will be on any kind of bedrest and DH can't help if I do go on bedrest(and we have no family near us). So we agreed the best thing to do would be to prepare for worst-case scenario now and get a fulltime nanny in place.
I found someone I think might work great but I'm wondering how this will work. She wants a full time position and is willing to do a 4-5 month term with us. As I said, we will have to have someone full time in NOvember and possibly earlier so we decided to hire her now. That means she will be here in the house full-time while I"m here. She's a woman with 2 grown children (one in college, the other in high school) and so clearly has managed a house and small children- she doesn't need me watching over her shoulder. And I don't want her to think I"m micromanaging her. On the other hand, if I"m not on bedrest, I want to be able to spend time with my little pumpkins during the day. I don't want to be completely out of the picture.
If you were me, what would you do? I could see maybe going on outings with the nanny and the kids (it would be so much easier with another pair of hands) but taking some days to work on getting the house ready for the babies. And of course I'd take advantage of her being here to get plenty of rest. If we have a nanny, should I just leave all the bigger jobs for her (preparing and cleaning up meals, picking up toys, giving baths, etc.)? I want to spend time with my boys during the day but I don't know how to do that without getting in her way. kwim?
WWYD?
Lisa
Mom to Gator July 2003
And Cha-Cha July 2005
and surprise! twins due 11/07!
I found someone I think might work great but I'm wondering how this will work. She wants a full time position and is willing to do a 4-5 month term with us. As I said, we will have to have someone full time in NOvember and possibly earlier so we decided to hire her now. That means she will be here in the house full-time while I"m here. She's a woman with 2 grown children (one in college, the other in high school) and so clearly has managed a house and small children- she doesn't need me watching over her shoulder. And I don't want her to think I"m micromanaging her. On the other hand, if I"m not on bedrest, I want to be able to spend time with my little pumpkins during the day. I don't want to be completely out of the picture.
If you were me, what would you do? I could see maybe going on outings with the nanny and the kids (it would be so much easier with another pair of hands) but taking some days to work on getting the house ready for the babies. And of course I'd take advantage of her being here to get plenty of rest. If we have a nanny, should I just leave all the bigger jobs for her (preparing and cleaning up meals, picking up toys, giving baths, etc.)? I want to spend time with my boys during the day but I don't know how to do that without getting in her way. kwim?
WWYD?
Lisa
Mom to Gator July 2003
And Cha-Cha July 2005
and surprise! twins due 11/07!