hjdong
01-23-2004, 04:27 PM
Hi everyone -I'm hoping for some opinions. I just got our travel schedule for inside China. In China, unlike the great Ukraine story Neve posted, your child is generally delivered to you someplace other than the orphanage, in our case our hotel the first day we arrive in the city he's in. While I hate the system, and think it probably makes the transition harder for the kids, it is what it is.
Now, on our schedule, five days after we get Jamie (who will be 19 months), we have an optional visit to the orphanage. I'm really conflicted by this. I would like to see the orphanage, where he's lived, to meet his caretakers, and to be able to tell him something more about this part of his past. However, I'm not sure I'll be comfortable taking him back there after only five days in our care. Will that be too hard on him. And I'm also not sure about one of us leaving him and going on our own to the orphanage after only five days (especially because it would most likely be me because Chinese babies are known for normally attching to their fathers first - I don't want to leave him after only 5 days and I can't imgaine my DH will want to either).
Any opinions, thoughts, suggestions would be greatly appreciated!
Now, on our schedule, five days after we get Jamie (who will be 19 months), we have an optional visit to the orphanage. I'm really conflicted by this. I would like to see the orphanage, where he's lived, to meet his caretakers, and to be able to tell him something more about this part of his past. However, I'm not sure I'll be comfortable taking him back there after only five days in our care. Will that be too hard on him. And I'm also not sure about one of us leaving him and going on our own to the orphanage after only five days (especially because it would most likely be me because Chinese babies are known for normally attching to their fathers first - I don't want to leave him after only 5 days and I can't imgaine my DH will want to either).
Any opinions, thoughts, suggestions would be greatly appreciated!