View Full Version : we lost Lily

08-30-2004, 02:56 PM
I don't know what else to say. I'm kind of numb. Here is the latest update.


Thanks for everyone's support. I'll let you know when we get a new referral and if Lily's abandonment ever actually goes through allowing us to adopt her.

Take care.

08-30-2004, 03:05 PM
Oh, Holli, how heartbreaking. Tears came to my eyes the instant I read your subject line. I hope you're eventually successful in welcoming Lily to your family, and that your new referral comes along soon.

Keeping your family and Lily in my thoughts...

Missy, mom to Gwen 03/03

08-30-2004, 03:11 PM
Holli, I am so sorry! My heart is breaking for you, your DH and for Lily.

08-30-2004, 03:17 PM

I'm so very sorry. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

Cindy and Anna February 2003

08-30-2004, 03:28 PM
I am so sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Karin and Katie 10/24/02

08-30-2004, 03:32 PM
Oh how devestating! I am so sorry. We will keep praying.

08-30-2004, 03:48 PM
I just gasped when I saw that heading!! I was sure that this was only a glitch and everything would work out. I know that you are devestated. I will be thinking about you and praying for the family. Hopefully you will get a new referral soon and adopt Lily in the future.

08-30-2004, 04:02 PM

I can't imagine all of the emotions that you must be feeling now. Please know that we are here for you if you need to cry or scream. Bless your heart, you have been through so much. I am so, so sorry.......

08-30-2004, 04:26 PM
Holli, I am so deeply sorry about your update. Your hearts must be breaking. I know mine is breaking for you. I will be praying for your family and for little Lily. Again, I am so sorry.

mary b
08-30-2004, 04:48 PM
Oh Holli,

I am so sorry! I read your post and my heart melted. I am so sorry and my thoughts and prayers are with you and your DH at his horrible time in your lives!


08-30-2004, 05:04 PM
Me too. I don't even know what to say other than I am so sad for you + your DH. I am thinking of you + praying for your family.

I just read your blog update + I'm also so sad for Lily. It seems ridiculously unfair that she will be placed in an orphanage while this situation is resolved. I can't imagine what you are going through but I hope you receive another referral soon + that Lily will be in your care sooner than you could hope for.

DS 6/03


08-30-2004, 06:53 PM
Holli, I'm so very, very sorry.

Paula -- mom to Roley Julia, January '02

08-30-2004, 07:12 PM
Holli, I don't even know what to say, except I'm so sorry and you have hundreds of shoulders here to cry on, whenever you need us.


Josh 3/90
Mollie 4/92
Jeffrey 12/94
and Katherine 6/03


08-30-2004, 08:39 PM
No. NO. NO!!!

Holli, I am SO sorry. My heart is with you and your family.

08-30-2004, 08:47 PM
Oh Holli,
I am so terribly sorry. I don't know what else to say. Please know that we are thinking about you and your family....


08-30-2004, 08:47 PM
I can't even begin to imagine what you are going through, but know that you're not alone. Adoption is a tough journey and you and DH are strong for staying with it. Hugs and prayers for both of you.
~Connor's Mom~
http://lilypie.com/baby1/050204/1/0/1/-6/.png (http://lilypie.com)

08-30-2004, 09:21 PM
There are no words to describe how sorry I am to hear this news.
I hope that Lily will be home with you one day.

08-30-2004, 09:31 PM
Oh Holli,

I am so sorry. I can only imagine how difficult this must be for you. You're in my thoughts.

08-30-2004, 09:36 PM
Oh, Holli, this is so unfair. I know that your heart is breaking and hope that you find peace and healing somewhere, somehow.

08-30-2004, 10:19 PM
I'm so sorry. I can only imagine how you guys must feel right now. :(

08-30-2004, 10:24 PM
Holli I am so sorry this happened. I pray that things will turn around for you. I am tearing up just thinking about what your family is going through. Our thoughts are with you.

Kimberly H
08-30-2004, 10:33 PM
Holli, my heart breaks for you and Liam. Hopes and prayers that you get your sweet Lily back soon.

08-30-2004, 10:46 PM
Oh Holli, I am so so sorry! I don't even know what to say. I will keep your family in my thoughts...I'm so sorry...

08-30-2004, 10:54 PM
I'm going to keep hoping and praying that the birth mother makes a dramatic 180 in her attitude and Lily is placed with you.

08-30-2004, 10:59 PM
Oh Holli! My heart is breaking for you, your family and for Lily. How devastating for you. I am so so sorry.

08-30-2004, 11:09 PM
Holli, I'm so sorry to hear your news. My thoughts are with you.

08-30-2004, 11:20 PM
Oh Holli. There are no words. I'm so sorry for you and your family.


08-30-2004, 11:52 PM
((((HUGS))))I am so sorry. I hate that this happened to you and your husband. I can't even imagine what you are going through. We are thinking of you.
Mommy to Jackson 11-10-02


08-31-2004, 12:31 AM

I am so very sorry. You, DH and Lily will continue to be in our prayers.

Take care,
Mom to Jeremiah 2/4/03

08-31-2004, 01:08 AM

I don't know what to say except how sorry I am for you and your DH. You and Lily will be in my thoughts.

Hopefully someday you will have a happy ending.

08-31-2004, 05:25 AM
Holli, my heart is breaking for you and your family! We'll keep you in our prayers.

08-31-2004, 07:45 AM
Oh Holly, I'm just so sad right now. I hope you find strength in each other and know that we're all here for you. I can't imagine how you're feeling now but I'm thinking of you and waiting for that referral to come through!

08-31-2004, 09:50 AM
All of ur thoughts have been with you guys, when I met up with some of the BBB girls in DC last week we all were anxious to hear that things were looking up for you all.

This is devastating news!!!! Just awful, I can only hope that they find Lily's birth mom and do what they can to convince her that the best route for Lily is to go thru procedure and not abandonment...

I can only hope that no matter the path that she ends up here in your home where she should be.

All of our prayers and thoughts are with you honey!!!!

Neve and Tristan born Feb 25, 2003
* EDD 3/18/05 as of 8/24 kicking and moving arms via sono, very active.
* Adopting siblings in Ukraine, I171A from INS has arrived, dossier to Ukraine next week!!!!!!

08-31-2004, 01:31 PM

I just saw this and its beyond unfair. You are so meant to be a mom and will be if not to Lilly to another lucky little child. I really dont know what to say - just lots of hugs and if there is anything I can do.

08-31-2004, 03:20 PM

I'm so, so sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

08-31-2004, 03:48 PM
How heartbreaking. :( I am so sorry.

08-31-2004, 04:38 PM
Oh Holli, I'm so very sorry. My heart is breaking for you. Hugs to you and Liam.

mom to Jacob 9/27/02

08-31-2004, 04:48 PM
Oh Holli, I'm so sorry to hear that.

08-31-2004, 05:09 PM
I'm so sorry. I read your blog and can only imagine the pain you and Liam are facing. People (including myself - everyone) do say stupid things when they don't know what else to say. I know that Lily will always be in your heart. I hope someday you will have her in your family.

I will continue to keep you and your family in my thoughts,

08-31-2004, 06:57 PM

I just read your blog. I don't know what to say, except that I am so sorry this happened.

08-31-2004, 07:02 PM
Holli, I'm in tears for you. I know you don't know me, but if there's anything I can do for you including being a listening ear, feel free to contact me any time.

Tondi G
08-31-2004, 07:53 PM
I am so sorry Holli. huge (((HUGS))) headed your way! How absolutely devistating it must be for you and Liam.... MY thoughts and prayers are with you that maybe a miracle will turn things around and you will bring Lily home where she belongs! Good Luck!

~Tondi and Mason 7/8/01

Tori_s mom
08-31-2004, 08:26 PM
Oh, Holli, I wish I knew what to say. I'm so very, very sorry about Lily. I'll definitely keep you and Liam in my prayers and thoughts.


08-31-2004, 10:28 PM
I am so very sorry for you and Liam, and especially for Lily. You all will be in my prayers and I hope that you are able to find some comfort in knowing how many people are here thinking about you and wanting the best for you.
Take care,

08-31-2004, 11:04 PM
Oh Holli...I'm at a loss for words...what devastating news. I will continue to pray for you and Liam and Lily, too. Feel free to e-mail me off-list if you want to talk, vent, or anything else: [email protected]

:) Kristin
Mom to Theo, born 1/12/2004 in Korea ~ home forever 7/6/2004
and Morgan the yellow lab

09-01-2004, 03:43 AM
Holli, I am so sorry. I can't believe how sad this is.

09-01-2004, 11:09 AM
I am so very, very sorry for you - my heart is breaking. I can only imagine what you are going through right now. I will keep you in my prayers and hope that fate deals you a better hand next time and you are given the family that you have been waiting for. Take care and know that you are being thought of. {{{Hugs}}}

Diane B
09-02-2004, 12:17 AM
Oh Holli - my heart just hurts for you and your husband. Yall are in my prayers.

09-05-2004, 03:47 PM
Holli, I've been thinking of you and Lily since I heard about the possibility of you losing Lily. I don't frequent this forum too often and just saw your post. I am so sorry to hear this but I still hope and pray that you will eventually get Lily back.

09-05-2004, 08:39 PM
Holli - My heart breaks for you & Liam. I am so so sorry. I'm hoping for you that this is just a bump in the road and that Lily will be home with you soon.

~ mommy to Declan 3.24.03 and Meghan 8.26.04

09-06-2004, 03:06 PM
I am so sorry Holli. I don't know what else to say either. Take care mama, there is another angel out there just for you.


09-07-2004, 12:21 PM
I am so sorry. This just makes me so mad! Take care and know you have lots of support here.

09-07-2004, 02:16 PM
I am so sorry, Holli. I honestly cannot imagine how hard this is for you. But I figure if it is making me cry at work, it has to be pretty close to unbearable. Huge hugs to you and Liam.

09-07-2004, 02:29 PM
Holli, I am so sorry! My heart literally sank when I read this header. You and Liam are in my prayers, and I so hope someday soon you will be reunited with Lily, this time for good!

09-07-2004, 04:42 PM

I am so sorry this has happened to you and Liam and Lily. I hope you will eventually be able to adopt her, and I cannot begin to imagine how hard this muct be for you.

09-07-2004, 04:53 PM
Oh, no, oh, no. I'm so sorry. This is truly heartbreaking for you. You and your family have my prayers.

Mommy to Matthew Clayton, 5/19/03

09-09-2004, 10:10 PM
Holli, I am so incredibly sorry. I can't imagine your pain. Please know we grieve with you.

Mom to Abigail Rose

"When you know better, you do better."
Maya Angelou

http://www.gynosaur.com/assets/ribbons/ribbon_sapphire_24m.gif Two years and counting!

09-10-2004, 11:53 AM
I am truly sorry.

Mom to Truman 11/29/01 and Eleanor 4/14/04

09-10-2004, 07:36 PM
Oh Holli -
My heart is breaking for you! I haven't "talked" much with you, but have followed your story here and at MDC. It just sickens me to think of that sweet baby girl going into an orphanage! Adoption laws seem so lax and in favor of the birthparent, perhaps rightfully so, but when things like this happen it totally makes me think adoption should be something that is finalized within a matter of a few weeks. If a parent abandons their baby it should be a no-brainer. I am just sick and sad and angry for all three of you and I will pray that all will work out for you.
Hugs sweetie!
Mommy to Caleb 3/3/03

09-12-2004, 01:24 AM
Holli, I am so terribly sorry for the pain you two are going through. I know life isn't fair but this is just terrible! I will hope for Divine intervention to change the situation fast.