View Full Version : Bursting at the seams and wanted to share with all of you since I know you would understand

12-03-2004, 11:33 PM
DH and I are 95% sure we are going to pursue adopting at this time. I can't believe it. I am so happy and excited I wanted to share with all of you because I know you would understand. I feel like God has really led me to this decision and basically hit me over the head with a hammer (believe me, this is usually the case with me anyway!). DH and I have always thought about adopting a child, long before we even knew I had reproductive issues. It was something we discussed before we were even married. It has always been in our hearts.

The past year has been a challenging one for us. We have made several attempts to conceive to no avail. I swear to you that with every failed attempt, I feel more and more that it is not what we should be doing. I think about adopting all the time. I read all the blogs you ladies post links to. I live vicariously through your experiences and feel like we, too, have another child in the world, waiting for us to come and get them. It is amazing to have this feeling.

I have thought long and hard about where our child would be. I feel like Goldilocks in a way. I looked into several countries I was interested in but have always come back again and again to one. So I think DH and I are going to China.

I am nervous, elated, excited, apprehensive...but mostly filled with a sense of direction and love. I love my family so much and it makes me so happy to know that we will be adding one more to our crazy yet very happy bunch. I love my DH and DS so much. But I know there is at least one more member out there.

I ask you to keep us in your thoughts and prayers as we finalize our decisions over the upcoming weeks. I am glad that I can turn to all of you here for support and information. But more so, I am happy that I will have the opportunity to join you all in bringing another child into our lives and our BBB community.

12-03-2004, 11:40 PM
Melissa, I'm glad that you and DH have reached a resolution in your hearts on this. I wish you only the best and hope that you keep us updated on your journey!!

12-04-2004, 09:07 AM
Wonderful news. It's probably going to be a journey unlike any you thought you would take (even if you did think about adopting for a long time) and even if there are bumps along the road, you just have to keep reminding yourself that you will get to the point where you will be holding the child of your dreams in your arms

12-04-2004, 11:09 AM
Melissa, I'm so happy for you both. I began to think a lot about adoption during our miscarriage difficulties. I still feel "called" to adoption. If we want another child after this, I'm pretty sure we will go the adoption route.

Blessings to you on your journey.

Kimberly H
12-04-2004, 02:14 PM
Melissa, CONGRATULATIONS on (nearly) making your decision! Your post brought tears to my eyes. There's one lucky little one out there waiting for you and your family.

Please let me know if there's anything I can do to help. :)

12-04-2004, 04:02 PM
Congratulations! I certainly hope you have an uneventful journey, that is, until the end! Please post any questions you have.

12-04-2004, 05:11 PM
Melissa I am thrilled for you guys. What a great decision you have made from your hearts. I am looking forward to hearing about your journey. :)

12-04-2004, 11:07 PM
I am so excited for you Melissa!! I am looking forward to hearing your journey :) Everytime I read another blog from www.thestoryofyou.com I wish I could adopt from China, and then I read a blog from the Ukraine and I wish I could adopt from there. The important thing is that you have made a huge decision to let your heart grow even bigger and fill it with another child!

12-05-2004, 06:51 PM
WOW! Congratulations on your decision Melissa! How exciting for your family!! Your post brought tears to my eyes. I look forward to following your journey to meet your child in the months to come. I am sure Matthew will be so excited to have a brother/sister!!
Wishing you the best of luck so you don't face any hurdles and it is a smooth road ahead for you!

12-05-2004, 07:14 PM
Melissa that is such exciting news! I have had the desire to adopt for a long time (even as a teen I always said I would adopt someday) Specifically from China. So, I will be looking forward to your journey! I am still in the phase of trying to convince DH that this is what we should do in the future.

12-06-2004, 12:01 PM
Congratulations on your decision! It is one that you will never regret. For us, once we made the decision to stop fertility treatments and focus on adoption, it was like a whole new, exciting life was beginning. After all, our child was out there! :) And, now, yours is, too! Good luck on your journey.
~Connor's Mom~

12-06-2004, 02:48 PM
Melissa, CONGRATULATIONS on your decision to adopt! I can just feel your excitement from your post...its so thrilling to realize that you're finally hearing what God is telling you (that's the way it was for me too - I can SO identify with your hammer on the head comment!)

Wishing you a smooth and short road on your journey! Please keep us posted.

:) Kristin
Mom to Theo, born 1/12/2004 in Korea ~ home forever 7/6/2004
and Morgan the yellow lab

12-07-2004, 10:59 AM
That is just wonderful Melissa. When you know it's right, you know it's right! What a great adventure that is ahead of you. I love how you know there's another family memeber out there.

~ mama to Declan 3.24.03 and Meghan 8.26.04

12-07-2004, 03:29 PM
Congratulations, Melissa!!! I have a happy heart just reading your post. :)

I worked with someone in Winston-Salem who has adopted from China once and just began the process again. I know he is part of a group of families that have adopted from China, but don't know how big of an area they cover (pretty certain it's a pretty big area). Let me know if you'd like me to get more info from him.

Good luck!! Can't wait to see your journey unfold!

Lane - April 2003
Little sister on the way!!! March 2!

12-07-2004, 11:53 PM
How exciting! Looking forward to reading your blog when you go. :)

Mama to Gracie (Sept '03)
and One More (coming July '05)

12-08-2004, 09:08 PM
Melissa, I am so excited for you guys. My sister is in the process of adopting from China (she is DTC as of last week), so I have heard quite a bit about it. I really think that DH and I will probably adopt one day too - we're just not quite there yet.

12-08-2004, 09:25 PM
Melissa - My heart swelled reading your post. You sound so at peace with your decision and really elated to have made the decision. I am thrilled for you and I hope the process is a quick, easy one for you. Keep us posted!

12-11-2004, 02:19 PM
I just wanted to wish you luck on your adoption journey! Its truly the most amazing experience :)

12-18-2004, 11:16 PM
(((((((((Melissa)))))))))) I have tears in my eyes reading your post. It is wonderful to hear the joyful news of an addition, but somehow the journey along the way is the part most of us miss out on as it is often quiet and family news. I feel lucky to be able to read about the very earliest part of the adventure. To hear the excitement and love in your thoughts is wonderful!!! I will be adding you onto our prayers. :-)

12-22-2004, 02:32 PM

Your post made me cry, even thought we've already talked about this. I can't wait to see your princess when you take her home. I wish you and your family nothing but the best. I can't wait to be your cheering section at the airport.

Lots of love,

12-23-2004, 04:43 AM
Awww...thanks! You are so sweet! I can envision you and Martie with a big sign, and Martie blowing kisses!

12-27-2004, 03:48 PM
Melissa -
Late to the party here...but I just wanted to offer my congratulations too. I am new to the adoption forum, and it is so wonderful to read everyone's detailed stories. I wish you the best as you finalize your adoption plans. Can't wait to hear more!

Mama to Santiago, born 11/16/03

01-04-2005, 09:43 AM
you know we are there for you thru the journey!!!!
keep me posted!!!!

Reichen (6), Karsh (3), Tristan (22 months) and baby girl Bronwyn on the way due March 19th!!!!

01-04-2005, 11:22 AM
That is just thrilling news!!! How exciting...I look forward to all the updates!

Mommy to Kayla
May '03

01-08-2005, 12:02 AM
Im so happy for you sweety!! Hugs to you and your family and praying for that gorgeous girl to be in your arms soon.......

01-11-2005, 08:57 AM
I just wanted to say congratulations on your decision! :) We have adopted 2 children from Guatemala, and it is truly an amazing and unforgetable experience. I can't begin to imagine our lives without Alex and Sara. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers are you begin this exciting chapter in your lives.

01-15-2005, 08:44 PM
Thank you so much! We are really excited! I have been dreaming of my little girl and I can't wait to get through this process so I can bring her home!

01-17-2005, 03:21 AM
Melissa- I am so THRILLED for you! And so wish I was walking in your footsteps too. I've noticed your siggy change, and was hoping you'd give an update on where you are in the process! Obviously you've picked out a name :)

01-17-2005, 08:18 AM
oh, I'm so happy for you!! loved seeing your new sig!!

01-17-2005, 12:26 PM
Wonderful decision! Best of luck to you. We just came back from China in October with DD#3 so if you have any questions just PM me.
The journey to China will be something that you will treasure always. Make sure you join the APC yahoo group. You will get lots of support and information. We used FTIA as our agency and highly recommend them.

01-18-2005, 12:17 PM
Congratulations! My cousin went through this two years ago and it was a WONDERFUL (albeit stressful) experience. She really was helped by the local china adoption families in Pittsburgh, where she lived at the time. I would recommend finding a group like that near where you live!

Mommy to Matthew Clayton, 5/19/03

01-18-2005, 09:18 PM
Yay Melissa - congratulations on making this wonderful decision and beginning on your family's journey to China. Please keep us posted on your efforts to bring home Maggie! I wish you the best on this journey.