wagner36
01-19-2005, 03:17 PM
Does anyone have any recommendations on books, materials, resources, etc. that helped guide them through the adoption process?
Due to some medical issues I'm having and medications I may need to be on indefinitely which are completely contraindicated for pregnancy, DH and I would like to do some preliminary research on adoption. This is something that we've always discussed doing at some point in our lives (since before we were married, DH has always been insistent that having more than two biological children is irresponsible for overpopulation reasons - he's a bit crazy when it comes to this issue and the issue of suburban sprawl (you should hear the lectures about strip malls!)), but honestly I thought it would be about 4-5 more years (I'm 31, DH is 27) before we started to seriously think about it - and who knows what could happen in 5 years?!?
But, given our present situation and how long adoption can sometimes take, we thought we'd start collecting information so that we won't be woefully behind if we decide to adopt earlier if my medical issues don't resolve themselves in the next year or so.
I think that we'd like to pursue international adoption, but that's about how far we've gotten. I'm not opposed to domestic adoption, but my aunt and uncle who have two daughters that they adopted domestically had quite a few heartbreaks through their adoption process, and I'm not sure I want to place myself in any sort of similar circumstance. Given that we both speak Russian, and I spent almost 12 months (over two different years) in Russia (then the USSR) and the Ukraine growing up, that seems like a natural and easy choice for us. But, I'd also like to consider Chinese adoption, or even South America. I feel like we have the resources to accomodate anything, really, since we have a lot of friends from various places in the world and live in a relatively multicultural community (for instance, we live across the street from a Chinese Bible Church which has a group for adopted children and families).
Anyway, I know there's a lot of stuff on the internet, but I'd really prefer just to get the basics from some bedtime reading at this point.
I'm sorry this is so long, but I think it helps to explain what kind of materials we're looking for....
Any recommendations welcome!
Due to some medical issues I'm having and medications I may need to be on indefinitely which are completely contraindicated for pregnancy, DH and I would like to do some preliminary research on adoption. This is something that we've always discussed doing at some point in our lives (since before we were married, DH has always been insistent that having more than two biological children is irresponsible for overpopulation reasons - he's a bit crazy when it comes to this issue and the issue of suburban sprawl (you should hear the lectures about strip malls!)), but honestly I thought it would be about 4-5 more years (I'm 31, DH is 27) before we started to seriously think about it - and who knows what could happen in 5 years?!?
But, given our present situation and how long adoption can sometimes take, we thought we'd start collecting information so that we won't be woefully behind if we decide to adopt earlier if my medical issues don't resolve themselves in the next year or so.
I think that we'd like to pursue international adoption, but that's about how far we've gotten. I'm not opposed to domestic adoption, but my aunt and uncle who have two daughters that they adopted domestically had quite a few heartbreaks through their adoption process, and I'm not sure I want to place myself in any sort of similar circumstance. Given that we both speak Russian, and I spent almost 12 months (over two different years) in Russia (then the USSR) and the Ukraine growing up, that seems like a natural and easy choice for us. But, I'd also like to consider Chinese adoption, or even South America. I feel like we have the resources to accomodate anything, really, since we have a lot of friends from various places in the world and live in a relatively multicultural community (for instance, we live across the street from a Chinese Bible Church which has a group for adopted children and families).
Anyway, I know there's a lot of stuff on the internet, but I'd really prefer just to get the basics from some bedtime reading at this point.
I'm sorry this is so long, but I think it helps to explain what kind of materials we're looking for....
Any recommendations welcome!