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newmomto3kids
10-12-2006, 10:39 AM
Just curious who else is out there waiting to bring a new little one home.
Our dossier is in Haiti, presumably waiting to clear the first court process. Then it will go to IBESR and then little Kenley will be ours to bring home.
The waiting seems unreal, and we still have so much longer to go.
How is everyone else doing?

BillK
10-12-2006, 11:53 AM
We just sent in our last bit of "pre-homestudy" paperwork to Welcome House for our Korean adoption. I figure we'll be getting a call any day now to start the homestudy process ..... again.

Not that it's a North Korean adoption - but everything going on over there worries us a bit plus with all the upcoming changes in S. Korea in January we're kind of in a wait and see mode. Hopefully there won't be a huge delay because of it.

I totally understand about the waiting - it was pretty much unbearable with Zach but we made it through and I'm sure you'll look back on it and think "wow that wasn't so bad afterall". Thankfully having Zach already makes this wait much easier. :)

smkinc
10-12-2006, 10:33 PM
Well--just updated my siggie!

I cannot imagine waiting many months once you had a referral. For DS #1, we had to wait 6 days, but knew he was in a safe place and that his birthmother couldn't back out of the placement.

We hope to have our pre-homestudy work complete this weekend. Then we wait for homestudy complete. Our agency (domestic US adoption) has had a lot of placements recently and so our homestudy may be completed relatively quickly this time. I told my boss about what was going on just in case we had a quick placement, but now feel I've 'jinxed' us and we'll wait another year! Like Bill, now that we have DS#1, I don't think the wait will be as oppressive as the 1st time around.

I don't know if adoption is any harder than giving birth, but for someone who likes to plan, the lack of predictability drives me crazy sometimes!


Mary
Mom to J. Feb. '04
Starting Homestudy for #2 Oct '06

MelissaTC
10-17-2006, 04:48 AM
Still waiting for the 171H......

crl
10-19-2006, 11:23 PM
Congratulations to all who have made some progress and heartfelt sympathy for the wait. Our CIS approval finally came through and our paperwork has gone to China. Yea! At this point, best guess is a 14 month wait until referral and a 2 month wait to travel. Sigh.

newmomto3kids
10-20-2006, 08:20 AM
Good luck to you on your next homestudy, and for a smooth and quick process.
I think having the other kids makes me so busy that I don't have as much time to sit and ponder the wait. Thank God for small miracles...

newmomto3kids
10-20-2006, 08:24 AM
As someone who has given birth and is doing an adoption, I would say they are very similar. There is a lot of waiting, wondering if everything will be OK with your child, hoping nothing goes wrong etc.
I think in your case, there does seem to be a lot less predictability and then when the time comes, it all happens so fast. In our case (adopting a waiting child), it is a lot like my pregnancies. You know you are getting a child in a set number of months (or years!!) and then you just sit back and wait and wait. You may prepare a little here and there, but mostly you just wait.
Good luck to you, I hope your process goes smoothly and quickly as well.

newmomto3kids
10-20-2006, 08:25 AM
How long has it been? I was surprised ours came pretty quickly. About 8 weeks after we submitted it, and that was including a request for more paperwork that delayed it a little.
Hoping for a quick reply for you!!

newmomto3kids
10-20-2006, 09:05 AM
We are in a similar boat time-frame wise. We have our referral though, but I am not sure if that is easier or harder. Watching him grow up from far away is hard, but at least I get to know him a little.
Will you bring home an infant or an older child?
Good luck to you!

crl
10-20-2006, 04:38 PM
I have to say for me the first time the wait from referral to travel was much harder than waiting before the referral. Having that picture and information and still having to wait was really hard on me.

I expect our next one will be about a year or a little over when s/he comes home. DS was 13.5 months at adoption and that's really typical for the non-special needs program in China. So odds are that s/he hasn't been born yet!

Good luck to you too!

MelissaTC
10-22-2006, 10:22 AM
It hasn't been that long. I am just whining. ;)

We were fingerprinted in the Charlotte office in the beginning of September. DH called to check on our progress and was told that we are in review and should receive something within the next 2 weeks.

BillK
10-28-2006, 10:15 PM
We just had our home study visit on Friday - the girl that did it said she will have it done by the end of the next week and sent to Korea. The hopes are that any home studies already in Korea when the changes take effect in January will not be subject to the new guidelines etc - so hopefully we'll have a referral sometime in the summer of '07.

newmomto3kids
10-30-2006, 04:15 PM
Holy moly that is quick!! We finished our homestudy in October and the worker didn't have it done until April. Granted she fell and broke her knee during that time, but we waited forever.
But, if we had been done sooner, we would not have found Kenley and I truly believe he is meant to be our son.
Good luck!!

BillK
10-31-2006, 10:19 AM
Yes it was fast - fortunately our agency was willing to accept our prior homestudy for some basic info since it was less than 2 years old - and charge us a reduced rate for this one - since nothing has really changed in our lives (other than adopting Zach). Also - the girl doing our homestudy this time is a pro and really seems efficient as heck. :)