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sidmand
03-06-2007, 05:01 PM
Any news from the adoptive parents out there?

Purely selfishly, I like to read updates (and I finally sent our application to the agency yesterday and now I'm craving news!).

That's my news, we just sent in our application yesterday, so we still have aways to go...homestudy, fingerprints, references, etc. We also haven't totally decided what country/countries. It will depend what happens with the Hague Treaty, etc. But as of right now we're thinking of dually applying to Guatemala and perhaps also domestic (didn't have very good luck before domestically after three adoptions fell through, so we are a bit wary of that...that's not 100% at all!).

Hope everyone is doing well and passing the time okay!

Debbie
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BillK
03-07-2007, 02:02 PM
Hi Debbie,

Thanks for starting another update on everyone. Our stinker from adoption #1 is 2 years old now and getting big and doing well.

Our paperwork for #2 was sent to Korea on 12/18 - and with all the changes there as of 1/1/07 we don't really expect to have a referral until sometime toward the end of '07 or beginning of '08. We're really in no rush though since Zach keeps us running.

Good luck on making whatever your decision ultimately is - we also had a failed adoption domestically before Zach's birth mom chose us so I know how heartbreaking that can be. I can only say that we're blessed things worked out how they did or we'd not have Zach - everything happens for a reason.

crayonblue
03-07-2007, 02:36 PM
We've been home with Carmen for almost 2 months! She is doing great- rolling over, holding her head up, much better muscle tone, smiling, laughing, sleeping thru the night (well, sometimes!) and eating solids. She is truly a blessing and we all love her!

We would love to start again but are waiting to see what happens with the Hague. Guatemala has our hearts.

sidmand
03-07-2007, 03:10 PM
Hi Bill and Lana,

Thanks so much for taking the time to share. DH doesn't like me watching "Adoption Stories" on TV anymore (since I always end up in tears!) so this is my adoption fix...

I am hoping that having DS to take up our time this time won't make the whole process the be all and end all it seemed like before.

Congratulations to both of you and I hope good things keep coming.

Debbie
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BillK
03-07-2007, 03:28 PM
>I am hoping that having DS to take up our time this time won't
>make the whole process the be all and end all it seemed like
>before.

Having Zach definitely helped us in that respect - I remember how our entire world revolved around our adoption facilitator and whether our profile was good enough or not for prospective birth moms. That's partly why we chose international this time around.

icunurse
03-07-2007, 03:46 PM
We are still waiting...and waiting :) It's been a much, much bumpier ride this time and it is difficult to stay positive a lot of the time. At times, it is a real test of faith and heart. But having DS and knowing that, yes, the process can and will work out (and work out wonderfully!) helps. He is keeping me quite busy, so, while I am eager to build our family, I am also grateful for the time to focus on him, enjoy every minute, and anxiously await the end of the "terrible 2's and 3's" - they will end sometime soon, right? ;)

Congrats to all those who have brought their child home and good luck to everyone waiting!!

sidmand
03-07-2007, 05:50 PM
Hi Traci,

I see your posts every once in awhile and noticed you had taken the waiting out of your signature. I was hoping all was going well. Sorry to hear it's been tough going...I can definitely empathize with that. I hope you get smoother sailing and good luck to you and your family.

Debbie
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newmomto3kids
03-08-2007, 10:15 AM
Thanks for asking!!
Our dossier was submitted into IBESR (the Haitian child welfare system) on January 17th. We are expecting it to take about 6 months to get that approval and then another 6 months to get through the final court, DHS, passports and visas.
Right now, I would just be so happy if he came home by Christmas. Our I600A expires in January of 2008 and I really don't want to have to refile that.
I guess I should update my siggie....
I hope your adoption goes smoothly, I know there has been some concern regarding Guatemala and the Hague treaty, so we will send lots of prayers and good wishes your way.

sidmand
03-08-2007, 01:15 PM
Hi Cara,

Thank you for the update! I hope everything goes smoothly for you and your new son is home by the end of the year. It must be so hard having already been matched and having to wait to bring him home.

Debbie
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MelissaTC
04-17-2007, 03:49 PM
We are logged in and waiting. And waiting. And figure we will be waiting for a long time and will need to be fingerprinted again. UGH.

newmomto3kids
04-18-2007, 12:50 PM
We just had to be re-fingerprinted last month, but I had kind of seen it coming.
But, it looks like I will be traveling to Haiti next week to meet my baby boy and spend a few days with him. I wish I could take him home then, but not quite yet.
The waiting stinks!! Do you have a referral already? If I remember correctly, with China you wait forever for a referral but then get to travel quickly (relatively!)
We got our referral for Kenley in August or so and are looking to hopefully bring him home by the end of the year.
Yikes...

mom-in-waiting
05-06-2007, 11:53 AM
Hi. We are a few stages ahead of you.

We explored several options for adoption, attended multiple information sessions, and then decided that adoption from foster care (thru our state) was the way to go for us.

We have completed all of our applications, submitted references, medical forms, fingerprints, completed all of our paperwork...and now we are waiting for our homestudy to be completed. No matter how many people tell you to expect a lot of waiting, it is still difficult. (I write this after having been thru multiple miscarriages...where all that waiting led to loss. It can be difficult to have faith that this time it will work out for us.)

I am trying to keep my sanity by preparing for all of this baby stuff...but shopping for baby stuff as a first-time mom is enough to make one lose her sanity! I'm so glad I found this book (Baby Bargains). What is especially hard for us is that we won't know if we will have a single child or siblings (because we are open to adopting siblings), we won't know gender(s), AND we won't know age(s). So, in a nutshell, I'm scoping out all of the options and making choices for each potential scenario we will face and embrace!

I just joined as a member today and I this is my first post. I'm so glad there is an adoption forum here.

newmomto3kids
05-06-2007, 05:47 PM
How amazing!! I truly believe that things have a way of working out just as they are supposed to. I thought I only wanted a baby, and then we accepted a referral for a toddler and now we have agreed to adopt a 6 year old as well.
I look forward to hearing about your family!!
Good luck!

mom-in-waiting
06-01-2007, 11:01 AM
Hi there! Well I am SO excited to say that our home study was approved and circulated yesterday!!!

We are adopting through foster care so finalizing the home study is a huge deal (the process is MUCH quicker than with international adoption). We have been told that we will begin to receive potential matches next week!

Sooooooooo, I continue to do things to get ready. We are open to an indivdual child or a sibling group of two; likewise, we could be matched with either gender (or one of each), and the child(ren) could be infants, toddlers, older -- or a combination of ages. Basically, I spend my time narrowing choices and keeping lists of "this is what I'll buy if..."

I'd love to hear from anyone who is currently grappling with issues of "how to prepare when you don't know who you're waiting for." And I'd welcome suggestions/advice from those of you who have already been through this period of abiguity.

Thanks!