jojo2324
05-07-2004, 11:08 PM
Please help me navigate this trying period!!
Backgroud: DS is 22 months. Has about 8 spoken words. Does not respond well to correction (ie, doesn't correct himself). Little sister arrived on the scene about 4 months ago. He is totally cool with her, loves to give her a pacifier, give her kisses, put hats on her, etc. At times, he can be rough and "push" her swing (push = shove), or slap her on the belly. But I don't think it's malicious, merely he is over excited. (Normal behavior from him.)
I am in the process of preparing to go back to work. A nanny has just recently come to live with us. She has been here for a week.
DS has been just about the biggest toad on the planet since her arrival.
I have left him with her several times during the day while I am working. In about another week or two, I will be working day and night, so much of his time will be spent with her. Problem is when I am home. This is when he acts out. He is whiny, clingy, climbing all over me, calling out MOM MOM MOM!!!! all the time, etc. It all makes sense to me: mommy's not home as much, so when she is, make sure she knows she's missed. Plus, who's this new person??
I think he is fine when I am not home. But I don't want what precious time I have with him spent like this. I know it's expected for him to react to this new situation, and it will take some time for all of us to adjust, but what can I do in the mean time? I make sure to play on the floor with him, and we eat meals together, and I give him his bath. Essentially, when I'm not feeding DD or working, I'm with him. But still, the whining and velcro behavior is incessant.
Any thoughts? TIA!! :)
Backgroud: DS is 22 months. Has about 8 spoken words. Does not respond well to correction (ie, doesn't correct himself). Little sister arrived on the scene about 4 months ago. He is totally cool with her, loves to give her a pacifier, give her kisses, put hats on her, etc. At times, he can be rough and "push" her swing (push = shove), or slap her on the belly. But I don't think it's malicious, merely he is over excited. (Normal behavior from him.)
I am in the process of preparing to go back to work. A nanny has just recently come to live with us. She has been here for a week.
DS has been just about the biggest toad on the planet since her arrival.
I have left him with her several times during the day while I am working. In about another week or two, I will be working day and night, so much of his time will be spent with her. Problem is when I am home. This is when he acts out. He is whiny, clingy, climbing all over me, calling out MOM MOM MOM!!!! all the time, etc. It all makes sense to me: mommy's not home as much, so when she is, make sure she knows she's missed. Plus, who's this new person??
I think he is fine when I am not home. But I don't want what precious time I have with him spent like this. I know it's expected for him to react to this new situation, and it will take some time for all of us to adjust, but what can I do in the mean time? I make sure to play on the floor with him, and we eat meals together, and I give him his bath. Essentially, when I'm not feeding DD or working, I'm with him. But still, the whining and velcro behavior is incessant.
Any thoughts? TIA!! :)