quikeye
04-05-2004, 12:12 AM
Hi all, I have been BF'ing on demand since baby was born (10 weeks), and the past week has been super difficult with him. I think it may have to do with me misreading his hunger cues, or something to do with feeding/hunger. We don't schedule his feeds, but they come about every 3 hours or so now, with the 1st few morning ones spaced about an hour apart (while we're still in bed, we co-sleep & stay in bed sometimes til 10-11am nursing & falling back asleep). He also nurses @ night, maybe once or twice, and falls right back to sleep afterwards.
Our problem is during the day, where baby has taken to screaming and kicking and flailing sooo much as I offer the breast. He doesn't do this at night or when he's waking up from our night sleep... I offer the breast (pulling him in towards me) when his cues tell me he's hungry (or, they used to tell me)-- he did his "boobieface" (licking lips), tried to eat his hands, etc. But when I follw these cues, which were right before, he cries... And it's one of those terrible screeching cries, like I worry I'm hurting him cries. I also think he's hungry based on the timing of his face-making and fussiness, this usually happens about 2 hours or more after eating.
We haven't changed anything here-- I've been using the boppy less, and have been trying to nurse in different places in the house, but we've been working on these changes for more than this week, when he's been such a screamer. I also haven't changed anything in my diet, and generally don't eat too many spicy things anyways (still trying to forget spicy foods + morning sickness!)...
My question is, do baby's hunger cues change? Am I "reading" him wrong when he licks his lips/eats his hands/drools? What other hunger cues can I look for, besides crying (I don't like to let it get that far). I know now is the time when he's discovering his hands, so I don't really use that one alone to try & understand if he's hungry... It's just so heartbreaking to be screamed at by a baby who used to just love to comfort-nurse (which he refuses to do now as well...) My fear is that I'm reading him correctly and he is hungry, but for some reason doesn't want to eat, or doesn't want to eat from me :( We have tried bottle-feeding him, but he's barely taken one or 2 whole bottles and generally fights them as well as pacifiers, so I don't think it could be nipple confusion.
I feel terrible forcing him on the breast, but on occasion it will work after several minutes of him crying & fighting me-- he'll sigh and latch on to the nipple that was in his (crying) open mouth. (I hold him to me as he cries, with my breast out and him punchine at me). It makes me think again he is hungry, but either doesn't want to latch on or doesn't want to be so close to me :(
I don't know if his "punches" and kicks are real (does he really not want the breast?)...
Any advice would be great :)
Our problem is during the day, where baby has taken to screaming and kicking and flailing sooo much as I offer the breast. He doesn't do this at night or when he's waking up from our night sleep... I offer the breast (pulling him in towards me) when his cues tell me he's hungry (or, they used to tell me)-- he did his "boobieface" (licking lips), tried to eat his hands, etc. But when I follw these cues, which were right before, he cries... And it's one of those terrible screeching cries, like I worry I'm hurting him cries. I also think he's hungry based on the timing of his face-making and fussiness, this usually happens about 2 hours or more after eating.
We haven't changed anything here-- I've been using the boppy less, and have been trying to nurse in different places in the house, but we've been working on these changes for more than this week, when he's been such a screamer. I also haven't changed anything in my diet, and generally don't eat too many spicy things anyways (still trying to forget spicy foods + morning sickness!)...
My question is, do baby's hunger cues change? Am I "reading" him wrong when he licks his lips/eats his hands/drools? What other hunger cues can I look for, besides crying (I don't like to let it get that far). I know now is the time when he's discovering his hands, so I don't really use that one alone to try & understand if he's hungry... It's just so heartbreaking to be screamed at by a baby who used to just love to comfort-nurse (which he refuses to do now as well...) My fear is that I'm reading him correctly and he is hungry, but for some reason doesn't want to eat, or doesn't want to eat from me :( We have tried bottle-feeding him, but he's barely taken one or 2 whole bottles and generally fights them as well as pacifiers, so I don't think it could be nipple confusion.
I feel terrible forcing him on the breast, but on occasion it will work after several minutes of him crying & fighting me-- he'll sigh and latch on to the nipple that was in his (crying) open mouth. (I hold him to me as he cries, with my breast out and him punchine at me). It makes me think again he is hungry, but either doesn't want to latch on or doesn't want to be so close to me :(
I don't know if his "punches" and kicks are real (does he really not want the breast?)...
Any advice would be great :)