deenass
04-13-2004, 12:28 PM
I'm not sure what I'm looking for, maybe support, maybe advice, maybe comiseration, but I feel the need to "talk" to someone about this ...
My son is 13 mos old and still nursing. He has always like to nurse for a long time and I've gotten to the point where I just can't let him nurse for as ling as he likes. Now every nursing session ends in tears, EVERY one. It's turning a nice thing into a not so nice thing and has me wondering if the time has come to wean for both of our sakes.
He had been nursing 5 times a day which I've cut to 3 (cut out the 2 "snack" nurisngs). In addition, he had always nursed to sleep for a nap, but now he won't let me remove my breast and stay asleep so I've decided that the time has come to stop nursing to sleep for naps (he goes to sleep without nursing at night, I nurse, he reads stories with dad and dad puts him to be awake). Of course not nursing for naps is TORTUROUS for him, but I have just had enough, I don't want to lay in bed as a pacifier for 2 hours every day.
I used to love nursing him and I don't anymore, I hate that something I was doing to calm him adn soothe him now works him into a state of frustration. I feel guilty when he cries because I stop him but my breasts have just had enough .... so I guess I'm looking at weaning which breaks my heart. From what I've heard and read, unless you let them self wean there are tears involved (on both sides). I've thought about starting to say to him "okay, mommy will count to 10 and then we'll stop" so that he has a clue that it will be over vs just stopping ... like maybe he'll understand and be less unhappy?
Any thoughts are appreciated.
My son is 13 mos old and still nursing. He has always like to nurse for a long time and I've gotten to the point where I just can't let him nurse for as ling as he likes. Now every nursing session ends in tears, EVERY one. It's turning a nice thing into a not so nice thing and has me wondering if the time has come to wean for both of our sakes.
He had been nursing 5 times a day which I've cut to 3 (cut out the 2 "snack" nurisngs). In addition, he had always nursed to sleep for a nap, but now he won't let me remove my breast and stay asleep so I've decided that the time has come to stop nursing to sleep for naps (he goes to sleep without nursing at night, I nurse, he reads stories with dad and dad puts him to be awake). Of course not nursing for naps is TORTUROUS for him, but I have just had enough, I don't want to lay in bed as a pacifier for 2 hours every day.
I used to love nursing him and I don't anymore, I hate that something I was doing to calm him adn soothe him now works him into a state of frustration. I feel guilty when he cries because I stop him but my breasts have just had enough .... so I guess I'm looking at weaning which breaks my heart. From what I've heard and read, unless you let them self wean there are tears involved (on both sides). I've thought about starting to say to him "okay, mommy will count to 10 and then we'll stop" so that he has a clue that it will be over vs just stopping ... like maybe he'll understand and be less unhappy?
Any thoughts are appreciated.