citymama
09-11-2006, 09:29 PM
Hello from a fatigued mama,
DD, who is almost 6 months old, is having a really hard time adjusting to anyone else other than my husband and me taking care of her. We're fortunate to have been taking care of her between us till now, but need to leave her with a nanny 2 days a week so I can resume work PT. Our nanny is loving and has 20 years experience with infants, and we trust her. But - our happy, cooing DD is a complete wreck with the nanny - she is fine for 15 or 20 minutes and then starts screaming at the top of her lungs, crying and screeching. It is affecting her ability to sleep - her long 2 hour naps are just 20 minutes long on the days the nanny is around, and she sobs herself to sleep. It's heartbreaking. She has even woken up with night terrors the days the nanny is with her. This exact same thing happened when we tried to introduce her to a babysitter on a few occasions at 4 months, but then we attributed it to the babysitter not the baby!
We have tried all combinations - me home with the DD and nanny, DH home with DD and nanny, DD alone with nanny - all pretty disastrous so far.
DD is exclusively breastfed and quite an "attached" baby - shares our room (sleeps in her own crib) and is carried around in a sling or carrier by us.
Anyone else have a similar experience? Should we wait a little longer before leaving her with someone new? Endure this - for how long?
I hope no one minds my posting this question here - but I feel most connected to the moms in this forum and hope someone else can help out a very exhausted mom! TIA.
DD, who is almost 6 months old, is having a really hard time adjusting to anyone else other than my husband and me taking care of her. We're fortunate to have been taking care of her between us till now, but need to leave her with a nanny 2 days a week so I can resume work PT. Our nanny is loving and has 20 years experience with infants, and we trust her. But - our happy, cooing DD is a complete wreck with the nanny - she is fine for 15 or 20 minutes and then starts screaming at the top of her lungs, crying and screeching. It is affecting her ability to sleep - her long 2 hour naps are just 20 minutes long on the days the nanny is around, and she sobs herself to sleep. It's heartbreaking. She has even woken up with night terrors the days the nanny is with her. This exact same thing happened when we tried to introduce her to a babysitter on a few occasions at 4 months, but then we attributed it to the babysitter not the baby!
We have tried all combinations - me home with the DD and nanny, DH home with DD and nanny, DD alone with nanny - all pretty disastrous so far.
DD is exclusively breastfed and quite an "attached" baby - shares our room (sleeps in her own crib) and is carried around in a sling or carrier by us.
Anyone else have a similar experience? Should we wait a little longer before leaving her with someone new? Endure this - for how long?
I hope no one minds my posting this question here - but I feel most connected to the moms in this forum and hope someone else can help out a very exhausted mom! TIA.