daisymommy
01-11-2008, 04:52 PM
I didn't want to hijack the 4-year old thread, so I started this one, for my 5 year old.
Joshua is 5 years old. And quite the "Spirited" strong-willed child. I have always raised my kids with the gentle-discipline and attachment parenting approach, but lately I'm starting to wonder if it is back firing. When Joshua has not been able to calm himself down and stop throwing fits, we ask him to go to his room and lay down, take some deep breaths, and when he is in a better mood, and ready to stop screaming, then he can come out. But the rest of the family is not subjected to the ongoing tantrum.
Well lately, when he is at a friends house and he has to come home, he starts going absolutely bizzerk! Screaming, crying, arms and legs flailing all over...positively embarrasing for me and the other mother, as well as scary for the other child. I hate to admit this, but I have noticed that the other moms don't want him to cover over any more...and I don't blame them :( I have even talked with Joshua about the fact that because he has acted this way, that is WHY he isn't invited to come over to their house anymore, and the next time he goes to a friends home, how to deal with his feelings when it's time to leave.
And for the clincher: It's happening at school too. UGH. I just want to crawl under a rock I am so upset and embarrased by his behavior. He is never mean, or rude, or anything like that. But when something happens that upsets him, he has a meltdown. And he won't stop!!! The teachers have tried "everything" they say. Moving him to a quiet corner of the room, engaging him in a new activity, leaving him alone, etc. Finally he has to go to the office to calm down and re-group before he can return to class. I'm scared to go pick him up each day for fear of them telling me there was an "incident" in class again.
Sigh. I just don't know what to do with him. My DH says he would be better off homeschooled. But I feel like thats just avoiding the problem, and not helping him learn to deal with his emotions. Because thats saying it's okay to act that way at home, just not at school! And truly, theres no way I could deal with being with him 24/7. Sad but true.
I feel like such a bad mom right now. Why is my son acting this way, and what do I do about it?!?
Joshua is 5 years old. And quite the "Spirited" strong-willed child. I have always raised my kids with the gentle-discipline and attachment parenting approach, but lately I'm starting to wonder if it is back firing. When Joshua has not been able to calm himself down and stop throwing fits, we ask him to go to his room and lay down, take some deep breaths, and when he is in a better mood, and ready to stop screaming, then he can come out. But the rest of the family is not subjected to the ongoing tantrum.
Well lately, when he is at a friends house and he has to come home, he starts going absolutely bizzerk! Screaming, crying, arms and legs flailing all over...positively embarrasing for me and the other mother, as well as scary for the other child. I hate to admit this, but I have noticed that the other moms don't want him to cover over any more...and I don't blame them :( I have even talked with Joshua about the fact that because he has acted this way, that is WHY he isn't invited to come over to their house anymore, and the next time he goes to a friends home, how to deal with his feelings when it's time to leave.
And for the clincher: It's happening at school too. UGH. I just want to crawl under a rock I am so upset and embarrased by his behavior. He is never mean, or rude, or anything like that. But when something happens that upsets him, he has a meltdown. And he won't stop!!! The teachers have tried "everything" they say. Moving him to a quiet corner of the room, engaging him in a new activity, leaving him alone, etc. Finally he has to go to the office to calm down and re-group before he can return to class. I'm scared to go pick him up each day for fear of them telling me there was an "incident" in class again.
Sigh. I just don't know what to do with him. My DH says he would be better off homeschooled. But I feel like thats just avoiding the problem, and not helping him learn to deal with his emotions. Because thats saying it's okay to act that way at home, just not at school! And truly, theres no way I could deal with being with him 24/7. Sad but true.
I feel like such a bad mom right now. Why is my son acting this way, and what do I do about it?!?