Britt
01-14-2008, 01:22 PM
DH and I moved here back in August and it's been kind of hard to make friends. We've made one couple friend, who had their DS 1 day before our son was born. Let's call them H and C. Well back in October C gets sent to Iraq, so H moves back to Arizona to live with family while he's gone. He got back this weekend and is staying with me and DH while he does some work stuff and before he got to Arizona for a week or so to pick up H and their DS. Well....last night he starts telling me and DH that he's picked up the nasty habit of smoking...which H will not tolerate. And he tells us that while H was pregnant with HIS child he was in tech school having a freaking affair! And then when he was in Iraq he was kissing some other girl. Oh and him and DH have had some drinks while he's been here, which is fine with me...but apparently, H doesn't let C drink (her religion is very against it). So he spent like 1 hour on the phone with her last night...NOT talking about any of this (she still doesn't know) but she knows something is up and she's pissed. And of course when C is telling us this he's saying he's so sorry about it and feels like crap and he knows it was wrong and whatnot.
So I'm upset because well H is my friend and she's a great person and totally doesn't deserve to be treated like this. I think she shouldn't put up with this because I know that DH and I have a firm "cheating is the dealbreaker rule". But at the same time, I want it to work out because I don't want their DS to have to go through all that (he's only 4 months old, and barely knows his dad and he has a feeling that H will put her foot down and he will barely get to see his DS if things don't work out). And because we got along so well with them and they are our only couple friends. But if it doesn't work out I don't know how much I want DH to be hanging out with C in case he turns out to be a bad influence (which looks like that's where it's going).
So I know there's really nothing I can do, it's between H and C. But it just pisses me off. I cannot believe the nerve of this guy.
So I'm upset because well H is my friend and she's a great person and totally doesn't deserve to be treated like this. I think she shouldn't put up with this because I know that DH and I have a firm "cheating is the dealbreaker rule". But at the same time, I want it to work out because I don't want their DS to have to go through all that (he's only 4 months old, and barely knows his dad and he has a feeling that H will put her foot down and he will barely get to see his DS if things don't work out). And because we got along so well with them and they are our only couple friends. But if it doesn't work out I don't know how much I want DH to be hanging out with C in case he turns out to be a bad influence (which looks like that's where it's going).
So I know there's really nothing I can do, it's between H and C. But it just pisses me off. I cannot believe the nerve of this guy.