firstbaby
01-17-2008, 04:14 PM
Update:
Thanks so much ladies for your support! After a discussion with DH last night, I did call the three preschool parents this morning to let them know we were not going to be able to accomodate their older children. I presented it pretty open like: "the party has grown rather large and we're challenged with accomodating everyone. I know it's tough since it is a school holiday, but our preference would be...". All of them were really cool about it. One is leaving her older child with a neighbor, two of them will drop off their kids and come back for pizza and cake. I thought a lot about leaving it as a life lesson, but then I realized I was really stressed and unhappy about how I felt about DS's party so I needed to do something about it. Lori, you gave me the confidence I needed to make those tough calls. Thanks again!!!
I am so ticked right now and that I could scream. We are blessed to have a lot of groups of friends and it is always exciting for DS to be able to see them all at his birthday parties. We went with a party place this year that could accomodate a large number of kids included in the flat fee for that reason.
So, Tuesday at preschool, one of the dad's "just wanted to mention" that he would have his older daughter with him as well. She's 9. But he "has no other choice" because his wife is working the day of the party. I was a little surprised and told him I guess that was okay, but she needed to understand that this was a party for a 4 year old and that she needed to be careful around the younger kids.
Today, TWO of the moms are waiting for me outside our preschool door to "mention" that they also would have their older children with them. But, not to worry, they tell me. They will just bring their DS gaming systems with them and play on the couches (in the adult coffee lounge area) during the party. Okay, first of all, they will still charge me for the older kids. Second, the couches are for the adults. My 70 year old IL's don't need to be standing the whole party. Third of all, your video games will distract the younger kids. One of the moms had the nerve to ask me how many the party package included to see if her daughter could be included in my numbers.
This is all on top of the fact that each of these older siblings, that we've never met, will cost $10 per head PLUS the extra pizza and cake I will need to have for them. And I will now have 8, 9 and 10 year olds running around at my 4 year olds birthday party.
DH is livid. He wants me to call them this afternoon and tell them we can't accomodate the older siblings and while we hope their younger child can still come, we understand if they can't. I think if they come and see my niece that will be there (she's 8) they will be ticked that SOME older children where included but not their's.
WTF do I do? Suck it up? Call them? Factoring in the cost per head plus pizza, I'm looking at $45 extra for these kids I don't know. It wouldn't have cost anything extra if we were under the alloted amount but we have a lot of DS's "known" friends coming. And now a bunch of kids he doesn't know. :(
Thanks so much ladies for your support! After a discussion with DH last night, I did call the three preschool parents this morning to let them know we were not going to be able to accomodate their older children. I presented it pretty open like: "the party has grown rather large and we're challenged with accomodating everyone. I know it's tough since it is a school holiday, but our preference would be...". All of them were really cool about it. One is leaving her older child with a neighbor, two of them will drop off their kids and come back for pizza and cake. I thought a lot about leaving it as a life lesson, but then I realized I was really stressed and unhappy about how I felt about DS's party so I needed to do something about it. Lori, you gave me the confidence I needed to make those tough calls. Thanks again!!!
I am so ticked right now and that I could scream. We are blessed to have a lot of groups of friends and it is always exciting for DS to be able to see them all at his birthday parties. We went with a party place this year that could accomodate a large number of kids included in the flat fee for that reason.
So, Tuesday at preschool, one of the dad's "just wanted to mention" that he would have his older daughter with him as well. She's 9. But he "has no other choice" because his wife is working the day of the party. I was a little surprised and told him I guess that was okay, but she needed to understand that this was a party for a 4 year old and that she needed to be careful around the younger kids.
Today, TWO of the moms are waiting for me outside our preschool door to "mention" that they also would have their older children with them. But, not to worry, they tell me. They will just bring their DS gaming systems with them and play on the couches (in the adult coffee lounge area) during the party. Okay, first of all, they will still charge me for the older kids. Second, the couches are for the adults. My 70 year old IL's don't need to be standing the whole party. Third of all, your video games will distract the younger kids. One of the moms had the nerve to ask me how many the party package included to see if her daughter could be included in my numbers.
This is all on top of the fact that each of these older siblings, that we've never met, will cost $10 per head PLUS the extra pizza and cake I will need to have for them. And I will now have 8, 9 and 10 year olds running around at my 4 year olds birthday party.
DH is livid. He wants me to call them this afternoon and tell them we can't accomodate the older siblings and while we hope their younger child can still come, we understand if they can't. I think if they come and see my niece that will be there (she's 8) they will be ticked that SOME older children where included but not their's.
WTF do I do? Suck it up? Call them? Factoring in the cost per head plus pizza, I'm looking at $45 extra for these kids I don't know. It wouldn't have cost anything extra if we were under the alloted amount but we have a lot of DS's "known" friends coming. And now a bunch of kids he doesn't know. :(