JTsMom
05-09-2008, 12:05 PM
Let me start off by saying I know I'm going to sound like a whiny selfish person, but I have to get this out, and if I do it here, I won't take it out on my family....
My grandfather passed away yesterday. While I'm sad for my Grandma b/c her whole world is upside down right now, the rest of the story is I really did not like the man. Really really did not like him. Couldn't be in the same room with him kind of not liking. He was extremely abusive to my mother when she was little. I don't want to go into the details, but suffice it to say she has an enormous amount of baggage because of it. He was just a rotten person all around- mean to everyone, always miserable. As I've gotten older, my mom has shared more and more, and my dislke of him grew and grew until it hit this point.
My grandmother, who waited on him 24/7 for her whole life, is deaf in one ear b/c he punched her in the head when she was pregnant. This is the kind of stuff I'm talking about- and this is just one example- there are hundreds of those stories. Really, I get along with just about everyone, but I can't forgive this sort of thing.
His funeral is going to be in Pittsburgh, and my mom wants me to go. I'll do it b/c I want to support her, but I'm dreading it for a million reasons, mostly the one I explained above, but also:
1. I can't afford to take this trip right now. I can't afford last minute flights for me and DS (DH can't go), and I can't afford a hotel for 4 nights. All to go to the funeral of a man I despise. My parents offered to drive, pay for the gas and a place to stay, so I can't really complain, but now I don't have much of a say in anything. They want to stay in a cabin (it's my whole family (8 of us), so something bigger than a hotel would be nice, but said cabin has no A/c, no window screens, no TV, and one bathroom. For 8 people. It's supposed to rain the whole time. Now, b/c of a bunch of stuff that would take to long to explain, I have to drive. Gas is going on $4 a gallon.
2. DS hates hates hates riding in the car. It's going to be 11 hours each way. In 5 days. When we get there, he'll be bored, expected to sit through viewings and a funeral, and be with a ton of people with hardly any quiet time. This is a baaaaaaaad mix. No tv, minimal toys, and a cousin that takes everything he has a scares the crap out of him.
3. Did I mention DH IS not going?
Also, I've been working on a scrapbook for the funeral for 2 weeks straight now. I'm exhausted, DS has been spending way to much time in front of the TV, and nobody sends me the stuff for the book until I have a total breakdown on them. I'm ready to pull my hair out.
DS (probably b/c of the bazillion hours of TV) is in rare form. He is extremely whiny, and going through a screaming phase.
AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHH HHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!
Thanks for listening.
My grandfather passed away yesterday. While I'm sad for my Grandma b/c her whole world is upside down right now, the rest of the story is I really did not like the man. Really really did not like him. Couldn't be in the same room with him kind of not liking. He was extremely abusive to my mother when she was little. I don't want to go into the details, but suffice it to say she has an enormous amount of baggage because of it. He was just a rotten person all around- mean to everyone, always miserable. As I've gotten older, my mom has shared more and more, and my dislke of him grew and grew until it hit this point.
My grandmother, who waited on him 24/7 for her whole life, is deaf in one ear b/c he punched her in the head when she was pregnant. This is the kind of stuff I'm talking about- and this is just one example- there are hundreds of those stories. Really, I get along with just about everyone, but I can't forgive this sort of thing.
His funeral is going to be in Pittsburgh, and my mom wants me to go. I'll do it b/c I want to support her, but I'm dreading it for a million reasons, mostly the one I explained above, but also:
1. I can't afford to take this trip right now. I can't afford last minute flights for me and DS (DH can't go), and I can't afford a hotel for 4 nights. All to go to the funeral of a man I despise. My parents offered to drive, pay for the gas and a place to stay, so I can't really complain, but now I don't have much of a say in anything. They want to stay in a cabin (it's my whole family (8 of us), so something bigger than a hotel would be nice, but said cabin has no A/c, no window screens, no TV, and one bathroom. For 8 people. It's supposed to rain the whole time. Now, b/c of a bunch of stuff that would take to long to explain, I have to drive. Gas is going on $4 a gallon.
2. DS hates hates hates riding in the car. It's going to be 11 hours each way. In 5 days. When we get there, he'll be bored, expected to sit through viewings and a funeral, and be with a ton of people with hardly any quiet time. This is a baaaaaaaad mix. No tv, minimal toys, and a cousin that takes everything he has a scares the crap out of him.
3. Did I mention DH IS not going?
Also, I've been working on a scrapbook for the funeral for 2 weeks straight now. I'm exhausted, DS has been spending way to much time in front of the TV, and nobody sends me the stuff for the book until I have a total breakdown on them. I'm ready to pull my hair out.
DS (probably b/c of the bazillion hours of TV) is in rare form. He is extremely whiny, and going through a screaming phase.
AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHH HHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!
Thanks for listening.