UGH....So Tired of STUCK UP SIL!

[TaChapm]

DH's brother's wife just has to be the most horrible person I have ever met and I have tried and tried to be nice to her but I CAN'T do it anymore. She expects favors but does not say thank you or ever try to return them. She is so stuck on herself and thinks that her daughter (same age as DD) is perfect. (FAR FROM IT) It is easy to pretend to be a perfect parent when you only have on child! Hello...Life with 3 kids gets crazy (esp with 2 being only 14 months apart). I may not be a perfect parent but at least I have a kind heart and am not so stuck on myself (and my kids) that I try to make everyone around me look like a piece of crap.

They had a baby a month ago and I decided to offer to create a birth announcement for her. I have been creating photoshop announcements and cards for a little over a year now and I must say that I am getting quite good at it. People pay me to do them so I thought this was a nice offer to do one for FREE. She just turned her nose up at it and never even said thank you. Everyone in the family loved it but not ONE word from her about how it looked. I'm done! I have tried but I will not do it again. I spent 3-4 hours making it perfect not even to get a "that looks great" or "thank you so much".
UGH!!!

[KBecks]

That's awful that she didn't thank you for the birth announcements!

[maestramommy]

Personally if I were in your situation I would be DONE with going above and beyond. No, that isn't very forgiving, and certainly unChristian behavior, but I would deal with that feeling on my own. Certainly I would freed of the stress that goes with dealing with a person like your sil. :hug:

I just can't believe she said nothing after all the time you spent on the announcement. I'll bet it looked really awsome too. :hug5:

[Oak]

Sounds a lot like my sister-in-law... So hypocritcal about EVERYTHING. Not getting married... did that, not having children, did that, not getting an SUV... did that. The list goes on and on. Not allowing child to watch TV or play with toys. Won't own or receive anything from Walmart. Isn't gracious with anything that is ever done for her or given to her. What irks me the most is that she thinks she is better than everyone else... vegetarian, thoughtless socialistic views, etc., but when it comes to everyday interactions with everyone she is the most base, petty, person I know.

When I get angry with her... I think of my little niece and begin to feel bad that she has to live with the crazy lady.

Oh the stories I could tell.... wonder what they say about me!

[Ceepa]

She behaved horribly. That being said, she sounds like a first-time mom with a lot of control issues about how she wants things "just so" for the new baby. I wouldn't go above and beyond anymore.

[Wife_and_mommy]

I'm so sorry she didn't appreciate the time you spent making her an announcement--so rude.

I agree with pp's that I'd not extend myself anymore if this is a pattern of behavior.

Out of curiousity, did you ask her if she'd like an announcement or was it a surprise?

[TaChapm]

I'm so sorry she didn't appreciate the time you spent making her an announcement--so rude.

I agree with pp's that I'd not extend myself anymore if this is a pattern of behavior.

Out of curiousity, did you ask her if she'd like an announcement or was it a surprise?

Oh I asked her to make sure she didn't have another one. She wanted some samples and picked from there. Basiclly it was a 'Do design 3 with these words' type of thing. Not even a Thank you during the design process. I would have never spent the time on them if she didn't say she wanted it. She didn't send out one with her daughter because she didn't want to take the time to find one and is too cheap to pay for it so I thought I would be nice and offer her one for free. NEVER AGAIN!