MMMommy
05-30-2008, 11:13 AM
This is a really long vent about something silly. I'm so frustrated I don't even know where to begin. DD1 has been in the same dance class for several months now, and she is in the second session of the class (I just re-enroll her every session--same teacher, often times the same kids in the class each time). First time around, she loved it. No problems at all. So naturally, I signed her up again b/c she liked the class so much. Second session starts, it's the first class. DD1 cries, refuses to participate, doesn't even enter the classroom. I try to reason with her, explain to her that everything will be fine, etc. Of course I lose my patience and get frustrated and angry at the same time. I feel bad about myself and about DD1's behavior. It doesn't help that a critical mom (let's call her "Critical Mom") says to me "I guess you have to just call it a day, take her home and show her who's boss." Meanwhile, other moms from the class are really nice and supportive and say that they have been there and understand completely.
Fast forward to the end of the second session. DD1 pulls the same stunt on the third to last class. DD1 is upset, refuses to enter the room, won't participate, etc. Makes a big scene. At this point, the class is preparing and rehearsing for their special show (with costumes and all). DD1's refusal to participate of course leaves another child out in the dust and without a partner for the day. That makes me feel horrible. Critical Mom gives her disapproving looks and stares. That's all she does. Stares with disapproval and disgust.
Dress rehearsal day, DD1 is excited and says she can't wait to participate. Of course, she acts up again. Stands in the corner of the stage, refuses to participate, but at the same time, she refuses to leave the stage. I tell her to come sit with me and just watch. She insists on being up there, but she isn't participating either. I try to remove her from the stage, and she screams and cries. Meanwhile, all the other kids are frolicking and dancing up a storm. Critical Mom is watching and whispering to another mom and giving her disapproving look and disapproving stare.
All in all, I'm frustrated, angry and sad about this. I know I shouldn't care what Critical Mom thinks. Critical Mom means nothing to me. But it still hurts and makes me feel like a failure. And, these episodes are just embarrassing. I end up feeling horrible about DD1's behavior, about the way I handle the situation, etc. Of course DD1 is the only one to act like this during the whole session. DD1 keeps saying she likes the class and wants to dance, wants to be in the show, etc. I'm upset b/c I'm not some stagemom who forces her kid to go to some class that she hates. DD1 insists on going to the class and gets upset when I drag her away. It makes no sense at all.
Meanwhile, DH thinks I am making a big deal and feeling bad for nothing. He offers no sympathy and doesn't want to hear about it. DH thinks I do nothing but complain, complain, complain.
The show is tomorrow. I was in tears last night about it all--about DD1's behavior, about my handling of the situation, about feeling horrible b/c of Critical Mom and her mean looks. I can only imagine what will happen the day of the show. Thanks for listening.
P.S. I already signed her up for the third session before the meltdowns occurred. DD1 said she wants to be in it, and her good friends are signed up. She has one good friend in the class already now (another reason why the meltdown surprises me). I already dread seeing Critical Mom, assuming her kid will be in it next time too.
Fast forward to the end of the second session. DD1 pulls the same stunt on the third to last class. DD1 is upset, refuses to enter the room, won't participate, etc. Makes a big scene. At this point, the class is preparing and rehearsing for their special show (with costumes and all). DD1's refusal to participate of course leaves another child out in the dust and without a partner for the day. That makes me feel horrible. Critical Mom gives her disapproving looks and stares. That's all she does. Stares with disapproval and disgust.
Dress rehearsal day, DD1 is excited and says she can't wait to participate. Of course, she acts up again. Stands in the corner of the stage, refuses to participate, but at the same time, she refuses to leave the stage. I tell her to come sit with me and just watch. She insists on being up there, but she isn't participating either. I try to remove her from the stage, and she screams and cries. Meanwhile, all the other kids are frolicking and dancing up a storm. Critical Mom is watching and whispering to another mom and giving her disapproving look and disapproving stare.
All in all, I'm frustrated, angry and sad about this. I know I shouldn't care what Critical Mom thinks. Critical Mom means nothing to me. But it still hurts and makes me feel like a failure. And, these episodes are just embarrassing. I end up feeling horrible about DD1's behavior, about the way I handle the situation, etc. Of course DD1 is the only one to act like this during the whole session. DD1 keeps saying she likes the class and wants to dance, wants to be in the show, etc. I'm upset b/c I'm not some stagemom who forces her kid to go to some class that she hates. DD1 insists on going to the class and gets upset when I drag her away. It makes no sense at all.
Meanwhile, DH thinks I am making a big deal and feeling bad for nothing. He offers no sympathy and doesn't want to hear about it. DH thinks I do nothing but complain, complain, complain.
The show is tomorrow. I was in tears last night about it all--about DD1's behavior, about my handling of the situation, about feeling horrible b/c of Critical Mom and her mean looks. I can only imagine what will happen the day of the show. Thanks for listening.
P.S. I already signed her up for the third session before the meltdowns occurred. DD1 said she wants to be in it, and her good friends are signed up. She has one good friend in the class already now (another reason why the meltdown surprises me). I already dread seeing Critical Mom, assuming her kid will be in it next time too.