Having a third kid after two of the same sex children??

[SpaceGal]

So I have two boys now...and my midwife told me that I'm predisposed to have more boys and have a 20% chance of having a girl for a third. Not that I have anything against boys but it would be nice to have a girl for a change.

Anyone out there with two children of the same sex have a third of the opposite sex??

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Thank you to everyone who responded to my poll.

I am not really sure where my midwife got her number but that's what she told me. So I thought she's delivered a lot of babies she must know something...right?!?! Plus when I spoke to our pediatrician she seemed to give that feeling like oh you're having a boy.

Everyone I know of has mainly the same sex families...I don't have any siblings but in DH's family (5-3 girls 2 boys), three families have 2 boys, one family had a girl and two boys and then one family with just a girl. Outside of his family most everyone had all the same sex, 3 girls, 4 girls, 3 boys (a lot of these we know of) and a handful of 2 of a kind. Many with two are staying there.

The articles posted were quite informative...and I will definitely be sharing them with my girlfriends that are hoping to try for a different sexed baby.

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Outside of all this great info, I did find out today about our third...and after looking long and hard, the sono tech told me she couldn't be sure but she looked and didn't see boy parts jump out at her so she said she felt it was a girl, then she saw the three lines and said "It's a GIRL!!" I couldn't believe it and I still don't believe it (I'm trying and hoping for another sono to verify it so I can for sure start buying for a little girl). I didn't want to get my hopes up too much since I was happy either way but it's exciting. I do admit it's a different feeling knowing the sex of the baby too...I never knew with my first two.

[elliput]

I am the middle of three with an older sister and a younger brother. :)

[kep]

We are still waiting to find out. :)

[mamicka]

I've got 3 boys & it's great having 3 of a kind. I'm the third of 3 girls followed by a boy.

[super_grape]

we have 3 girls and will probably have another.

when we started trying to have babies, we always
saw ourselves as the parents of boys but now that
we have 3 girls i can't imagine it any differently:love5: .
we would really love to have a son tho.....

[kusumat]

Did you ask your midwife how she came up with that number? I just wonder.

My parents' friend had two boys and a girl(last one). Around here, I met several couple with two girls and a boy. But I also know some people who has only three boys or three girls.

IVF/PGD is the only way to have 100% guarantee in choosing the gender of the baby. It is a conterversial topic and doctor normally do not recommend it if it is purely for sex selection. Also, it is very expensive.

You can look up on the ovusoft message board. There are people mentioning several natural ways to try but are not 100% effective.

[willow33]

I was told that you have a 50/50 shot each time...from my OB. I also recently read a study done on this very issue and it also reinforced the 50/50 odds. It doesn't really make sense to me that your chances would go down after 2 boys...although maybe it's wishful thinking on my part :)

I'll try to find the study and post it for you...

[o_mom]

Here's some great info with quite a bit of data on the subject:

http://www.in-gender.com/XYU/Odds/Gender_Odds.aspx

After two boys, the probability of a girl is still around 48%. Ask your midwife where she got her info.

[buddyleebaby]

We had two girls followed by a boy.

[Melaine]

I think your midwife made that up. :-D

[Neatfreak]

Here's my real-life example for the staticians in the group:

Four of my friends had their third children this summer. Each had two of the same sex already. Two of them had children of the same sex as the kids they already had, and two of them added their first child of the opposite sex.

[Ceepa]

All things being equal, it's about 50-50. The gender of previous children has no effect.

[pb&j]

First was a girl, second was a boy, this one is a girl.

[JamiMac]

I have two girls and now a little boy. The ultrasound tech said I was going to have some variety in my pack. :)

[willow33]

Here's some great info with quite a bit of data on the subject:

http://www.in-gender.com/XYU/Odds/Gender_Odds.aspx

After two boys, the probability of a girl is still around 48%. Ask your midwife where she got her info.

This is what I was referrring too...thanks for posting it :)

[annasmom]

I have heard that before, but then I recall hearing recently that it is just an old wives' tale.

I have a dd, and then 2 ds. We are waiting to find out what #4 will be!

[Octobermommy]

I think your midwife made that up. :-D

I agree, she made it up : )

[kdeunc]

We have two boys and had a girl this summer. Our best friends also have two boys followed by a girl.

[JTsMom]

First, congratulations!!!!! :cheerleader1:

Second, in my family, there was me, then my sister, then my mom had twin boys. Same situation with several of my cousins- 2 girls, then a boy (although for them, it was just 1 boy). I agree with everyone else- she made it up.

Besides, YOU wouldn't be predisposed, it would be your husband, since his sperm is the one carrying the X or Y chromosome that determines gender. There is some evidence that says that the Ph levels of the woman can sway the odd of having either gender (more acidic means more likely to have a girl) but that level varies in each woman with your cycle.

[JBaxter]

I have 3 boys and having a 4th.

2 different fathers ( xh is father of Logan and Connor) DH is father of Nathan and "baby Jack"

all my boys were born or will be born within a month of each other this baby is due 10/15, Connor 10/30 Nathan 11/15 and Logan 11/18.

[Melaine]

Yes congratulations on your new LO either way. I hope I get to have a third one day!

[calv]

3 girls here

[g-mama]

Interesting that all of the pp's who cited their situations with two of the same and then the third being different happened to have two girls, then a boy.

When I had my third boy, all the nurses in the hospital said it was no surprise to them because time and time again, they saw women having two boys and then continuing to have boys. However, the same was NOT true if you had two girls in a row - you were not less likely to conceive a boy the third time. There seems to be something about having a couple of boys that speaks to the makeup of your husband's sperm or something.

Of course, I have no idea if there's any validity to this, but the nurses kept chiming in that they see it ALL the time with families with two boys in a row.

[maestramommy]

We'd be thrilled to have a third child of either sex. A boy would certainly make things interesting, but we'd probably be a little like, "um, so what now?":ROTFLMAO:

[lovin2shop]

If you look at my DH's family tree, you see almost all boys and then the women that they married. So, it was no shock to me to have two boys and also two nephews. I don't know the actual odds, but I would bet a pretty good amount of money in Vegas that my third would be a boy as well. I actually would love it, I don't mind being the only female in the house at all. And as my DH says, I'm girly enough for one house. We'll see how I feel about all this once we hit the middle school ages.

[o_mom]

Adding another, more in depth article on the subject (Warning - potential to induce sleep here :)) :

http://www.amstat.org/PUBLICATIONS/chance/pdfs/144.rodgers.pdf

Anyway, the conclusion:

"When my sister announced several years

ago that “Rodgers men produce male children,”
the stage was set for the question
addressed in this article. Do sex patterns
run “in the family?” The question has been
answered using a larger data source with
more internal and external validity than
most previous ones used in this assessment.
We found no compelling evidence
that sex bias runs in the family."

[hellokitty]

Interesting that all of the pp's who cited their situations with two of the same and then the third being different happened to have two girls, then a boy.

When I had my third boy, all the nurses in the hospital said it was no surprise to them because time and time again, they saw women having two boys and then continuing to have boys. However, the same was NOT true if you had two girls in a row - you were not less likely to conceive a boy the third time. There seems to be something about having a couple of boys that speaks to the makeup of your husband's sperm or something.

Of course, I have no idea if there's any validity to this, but the nurses kept chiming in that they see it ALL the time with families with two boys in a row.

I've noticed this among my friends who have boys. If they have more kids past 2 boys, they usually seem to end up with another boy. Moms with girls, it's a toss up, sometimes they get a boy, sometimes a girl. However, I see far more families with 3+ boys, than families with 3+ girls.

[ilfaith]

In the past two years five of my friends had their third child after two of a kind. Two had baby girl #3, two had baby boy #3, and one had a girl with two big brothers.

My mother is one of three sisters. DH has an older brother and a younger sister (so his parents are convinced that we need to go for that baby girl).

I also met a woman at Gymboree a few weeks ago who just had her fifth son.

[army_mom]

My brother has two girls and then a boy for the final child. Her parents were thrilled as she only has a sister. He is the first and only grandson in the family so far (on both sides).

I have three older brothers....guess my parents finally got lucky on #4
I figured I would have the boys as I don't carry on the family name but we are having a girl!

[giavila]

We are also still waiting to find out. We have 2 girls right now.

My husband is the first of 2 boys, followed by a girl. I also know several people who have had a different sex on the 3rd child after having 2 of the same.

I have a cousin who had 3 boys and then 2 girls.

glenda

[MommyAllison]

DH is the third of three boys, followed by a girl (his two brothers are half brothers). I am the first of three girls in my family. My dad was the first of four boys in his family. We are friends with a family with 11(!) girls, who now also have 3 granddaughters and 2 grandsons. Our best friends just had their 3rd boy, and would love a girl someday - the husband is the first of three boys followed by a girl. Anything's possible. :)

[southern_kali_gurl]

We just welcomed a baby girl after having two boys.

[kransden]

My mom had 2 boys, 2 girls, 1 boy, a miscarriage that was a boy and 1 girl (me)!
My brother had boy, girl, boy
My sister had boy, girl, boy

[american_mama]

I heard this too for the first time when I was pregnant with #3 after having two girls. (We ended up with a boy). One or two neighbors told me and the backup OB for my midwife repeated it: after two children of the same sex, you are more likely to have a third child of that same sex. No one explained why: I wondered if it had to do with the sperm your husband was producing, the environment inside your v*gina or the timing of when you as a couple tend to favor sex.

(Length explanation alert: my thought process about the latter was related to how long the sperm have to live before the egg is available. I think it's the Y sperm that swim faster but die quicker, so you are more likely for Y sperm to fertilize the egg if the egg has already been released and is there waiting. X sperm can live longer, so they might be making a happy home inside your body for a day or two before the egg is released and then voila, X meets X and you have a girl. If mom (or even maybe dad) consciously or unconsciously tends to feel amorous at a certain point in the woman's ovulatory cycle, that might consistently produce children of a certain sex.)

Phew. I found it fascinating.

[SpaceGal]

(Length explanation alert: my thought process about the latter was related to how long the sperm have to live before the egg is available. I think it's the Y sperm that swim faster but die quicker, so you are more likely for Y sperm to fertilize the egg if the egg has already been released and is there waiting. X sperm can live longer, so they might be making a happy home inside your body for a day or two before the egg is released and then voila, X meets X and you have a girl. If mom (or even maybe dad) consciously or unconsciously tends to feel amorous at a certain point in the woman's ovulatory cycle, that might consistently produce children of a certain sex.)

Phew. I found it fascinating.

Actually that's the same thing I read when reading that book...umm is it called Taking Charge of Your Fertility...something like that. But it explained the whole menstrual cycle and theory of X and Y sperm and ovulation.

Not to over share, not sure how or when DS #1 was concieved but he's a boy, DS #2 we tried for and did the deed very very close if not right then when I ovulated. As for this baby, I know I was more careful and would not have "done the deed" so close to ovulation if I knew I was going to be ovulating sooner than later that month...stress and what not. So if that whole X lingers longer than Y theory is true that's probably how this girl happened for us. Even though they told me it's a girl I won't believe it 100% till I see her...so we'll see...it's a surreal feeling having some or all positives on a sono in regards to the sex of the baby.

[gatorsmom]

um, both of the above? LOL. I had 2 boys and then b/g twins. I hear so often stories just like mine. So, would you like one of both?

A close friend of mine had 4 girls and her DH was just dying to have a boy. They went to specialists not because she had any reproductive problems but because he was willing to do anything for her to give birth to a boy. The specialists they saw recommended "spinning" his sperm to separate out the X chromosome sperm from the Y chromosome sperm and going through the whole IVF process (if I remember correctly I think that is what she said her DH wanted to do). She said no. They got pregnant on accident with their 5th baby a year later and it turned out to be a boy! All is well again.

My friend also told me that her specialist told her that with every pregnancy of the same sex, her odds of having a baby of the opposite sex go down. We don't actually get a 50/50 chance with each new pregnancy. She was told that her odds of having a boy were 15%. Since she told me this, I"m pretty sure I read it somewhere too.

[jk3]

We're expecting our 3rd boy. I think it's still 50-50 though!

[ast96]

I have three boys. I do believe that some women have more "hospitable" environments for X or Y chromosome sperm to survive/get to the egg in time. I don't think that means it is impossible to have the opposite sex, but I think it makes it harder. I have a lot of friends with three of the same gender, but I also have a lot of friends with two of the same and then a third of the opposite, so who knows?

A friend of mine here has six boys. Her seventh baby was finally a girl. Now she's trying to have a sister for her. Whew! I wouldn't bet on it!

[JTsMom]

OMG, how exciting!!!! Hooray! :boogie: We haven't had any girls in our family since my sister was born (she's 30 now LOL).