cuca_
11-03-2008, 11:48 AM
This is going to be kind of long, so pleasebear with me. I really need avice/btdt regarding DD 2. She is almos 3.5 and is enrolled in a 3 yr. program. She went to a 2s program at a montessori school. In the middle of the year her teacher brought up some concerns about her. She was mainly concerned with her articulation and she also pointed out that DD would sometimes get upset and cry not wanting to go outside or so. We decided to have DD evaluated through EI because DD1 has sensory issues and I just wanted to rule this out. I also took DD2 to see DD1's private speech therapist, who told me that her articulation did not seem bad for a 2 year old and did not think she would receive services.
DD was evaluated by an educational specialist, an OT and a SLP, and no delays were found. DD was ahead in a couple of areas and on track in others. The SLP said that the articulation did not concern her, and that they did not really look at that until after 3. All three observed DD in the classroom.
FF to now. DD is in a different school, as I we did not get a spot at the montessori school that was convenient for us, and also, I was not crazy about the director of the first school. DD's teacher is not terribly warm, but she seems good. At the beginning of the year, when I asked how DD was doing, they said that she was crying a lot (getting upset easily) and not sitting still during rug time. The second issue surprised me, as she always sat very well during circle time last year. I talked to DD about this a lot and offer rewards for good behavior. According to the teachers she was doing great by the end of the year.
This past month DD started saying that she wanted to back to her old school, and that she missed her old friends. Sometime around that time the main teacher left for two weeks to go on a vacation. DD2 loved the substitute teacher, and even told me that she did not want her teacher to come back, because she loved the substitute. During that period I asked the teacher assistant how DD2 was doing and she said great.
Well, the teacher came back, but DD seemed fine with it. She was still talking about her old school and old friends, but also seemed ok at school. A week later, the teacher asks to speak with me, and tells me that they are very concerned about DD. She is getting really upset, she hit another kid, she banged her head against the floor once while upset, and she was speaking jargon at one time. She said the director observed her, and that they did not think it was a speech issue or an OT issue. She thinks maybe behavioral.
DD is pretty headstrong, but does not throw tantrums at home. She follows directions well, but gets upset if things don't go her way. By getting upset I mean she cries, pouts, sulks, etc.... She is also very loving and expresses herself pretty well. I have never heard her use jargon. There are times when I don't understand what she is saying (not very frequent) and I keep asking and she is pretty good at explaining/making me understand.
I am just at a loss of what this could be. I do think she is having big emotions and having a hard time dealing with them (voicing them). We've never had aggression issues before, and I've discussed this with her, and told her that it is not acceptable.
I will have her evaluated again, but my main concern is that she may not be happy at the new school. I don't know. Anyone have a similar experience with their DC. Who would deal with this? (What professional?). Any ideas about things to do at home to help her work on her emotions? We already read books about emotions, hitting, listening, etc... and I've giving her a couple of strategies to use at school - talking to the teacher, deep breaths... But other than that I am at a loss.
If you've read through this, thank you so much!!! I hope it makes sense.
TIA
DD was evaluated by an educational specialist, an OT and a SLP, and no delays were found. DD was ahead in a couple of areas and on track in others. The SLP said that the articulation did not concern her, and that they did not really look at that until after 3. All three observed DD in the classroom.
FF to now. DD is in a different school, as I we did not get a spot at the montessori school that was convenient for us, and also, I was not crazy about the director of the first school. DD's teacher is not terribly warm, but she seems good. At the beginning of the year, when I asked how DD was doing, they said that she was crying a lot (getting upset easily) and not sitting still during rug time. The second issue surprised me, as she always sat very well during circle time last year. I talked to DD about this a lot and offer rewards for good behavior. According to the teachers she was doing great by the end of the year.
This past month DD started saying that she wanted to back to her old school, and that she missed her old friends. Sometime around that time the main teacher left for two weeks to go on a vacation. DD2 loved the substitute teacher, and even told me that she did not want her teacher to come back, because she loved the substitute. During that period I asked the teacher assistant how DD2 was doing and she said great.
Well, the teacher came back, but DD seemed fine with it. She was still talking about her old school and old friends, but also seemed ok at school. A week later, the teacher asks to speak with me, and tells me that they are very concerned about DD. She is getting really upset, she hit another kid, she banged her head against the floor once while upset, and she was speaking jargon at one time. She said the director observed her, and that they did not think it was a speech issue or an OT issue. She thinks maybe behavioral.
DD is pretty headstrong, but does not throw tantrums at home. She follows directions well, but gets upset if things don't go her way. By getting upset I mean she cries, pouts, sulks, etc.... She is also very loving and expresses herself pretty well. I have never heard her use jargon. There are times when I don't understand what she is saying (not very frequent) and I keep asking and she is pretty good at explaining/making me understand.
I am just at a loss of what this could be. I do think she is having big emotions and having a hard time dealing with them (voicing them). We've never had aggression issues before, and I've discussed this with her, and told her that it is not acceptable.
I will have her evaluated again, but my main concern is that she may not be happy at the new school. I don't know. Anyone have a similar experience with their DC. Who would deal with this? (What professional?). Any ideas about things to do at home to help her work on her emotions? We already read books about emotions, hitting, listening, etc... and I've giving her a couple of strategies to use at school - talking to the teacher, deep breaths... But other than that I am at a loss.
If you've read through this, thank you so much!!! I hope it makes sense.
TIA