kayte
11-15-2008, 01:00 PM
While there will be some bitching in this post--I do honestly need help so that's why I posting this thread here.
Why does my husband not take any responsibility when I am anywhere near? He does fine with DD when I am not home but the second I am near he seems to think he has no real responsibility. For instance they can be playing and I am working on something and she gets hungry --I have to fix her lunch. If I was not here he would do it--but I feel like I am the freakin nanny when I am home. It really angers me because I feel like I have to run away from my family to get any time where I am not parenting --there is no time where it is the three of us and I am not the responsible party. It makes me crazy. Last week we went to his friend's house to watch football--I always have to pack toys, clothes, food, nap pillow and blanket, etc... He never offers to help or even considers that you might need some of that stuff when we go anywhere--just assuming I'll handle it. So last weekend I just didn't pack food. Just didn't do it. You should have seen the look on his face when I suggested he would need to go get her something to eat for dinner. He was so irritated--but has it made him consider that he needed to think about it today??? No....
This morning he said he would handle DD since he has been working (out of town) or playing golf all week.... But I found myself fulfilling the real needs she had past a playmate--like taking her to the potty and getting her food. Plus he gets on the phone to talk and expects me to handle DD even though I am in another room. When you are watching her, you have to wait until naptime to be on the phone. It irritated me so I went in our room and closed the door. He came in and asked if he should leave with DD so I could be alone--- He doesn't understand he though I say it REPEATEDLY I don't want to be segregated I just don't want to be on duty.
Help.
Why does my husband not take any responsibility when I am anywhere near? He does fine with DD when I am not home but the second I am near he seems to think he has no real responsibility. For instance they can be playing and I am working on something and she gets hungry --I have to fix her lunch. If I was not here he would do it--but I feel like I am the freakin nanny when I am home. It really angers me because I feel like I have to run away from my family to get any time where I am not parenting --there is no time where it is the three of us and I am not the responsible party. It makes me crazy. Last week we went to his friend's house to watch football--I always have to pack toys, clothes, food, nap pillow and blanket, etc... He never offers to help or even considers that you might need some of that stuff when we go anywhere--just assuming I'll handle it. So last weekend I just didn't pack food. Just didn't do it. You should have seen the look on his face when I suggested he would need to go get her something to eat for dinner. He was so irritated--but has it made him consider that he needed to think about it today??? No....
This morning he said he would handle DD since he has been working (out of town) or playing golf all week.... But I found myself fulfilling the real needs she had past a playmate--like taking her to the potty and getting her food. Plus he gets on the phone to talk and expects me to handle DD even though I am in another room. When you are watching her, you have to wait until naptime to be on the phone. It irritated me so I went in our room and closed the door. He came in and asked if he should leave with DD so I could be alone--- He doesn't understand he though I say it REPEATEDLY I don't want to be segregated I just don't want to be on duty.
Help.