lizajane
12-30-2008, 06:04 PM
DS1 and DS2 YELL constantly ALL DAY these days.
how do you stop the yelling between siblings???
playful parenting ideas would be great because DS2 is the biggest culprit lately and he is the most stubborn child EVER and discipline tends to make him yell more and louder because he is upset and trying to get out of trouble.
adding a few more remarks to clarify...
ok, so schuyler is really smart and also certain that he knows everything. he is also obsessive and CAN NOT LET THINGS GO. so when dylan says something silly that 3 year olds say, schuyler corrects him. we have long talks about how dylan is 3 and doesn't know everything schuyler knows and schuyler can be the big brother and help him LEARN but it is better to be a FRIEND than to be RIGHT. so what happens is, dylan says something, schuyler interupts to correct him, yelling so he can talk on top of him, dylan yells LOUDER to tell schuyler that HE is wrong... etc.
it isn't even fighting really. there is correcting. and often, dylan is telling schuyler to STOP doing something (like rough play.) but with schuyler's ADHD tendancies, it is REALLY hard to stop the freight train once it gets rolling.
sigh. frankly, as i type, i just see more and more evidence that i need to try medication for schuyler. dylan does what schuyler does, as the little brother. and when schuyler is ADHD out of control wild climbing chaos, dylan doesn't know that he shouldn't act the same way, as that is what normal is to dylan in our house. (schuyler out of control, i mean.)
(i politely say no thank you to suggestions on dealing with ADHD without meds. we have a unique situation with the OCD combination and we have been working with a psychologist for 6 months so we are aware of our options.)
how do you stop the yelling between siblings???
playful parenting ideas would be great because DS2 is the biggest culprit lately and he is the most stubborn child EVER and discipline tends to make him yell more and louder because he is upset and trying to get out of trouble.
adding a few more remarks to clarify...
ok, so schuyler is really smart and also certain that he knows everything. he is also obsessive and CAN NOT LET THINGS GO. so when dylan says something silly that 3 year olds say, schuyler corrects him. we have long talks about how dylan is 3 and doesn't know everything schuyler knows and schuyler can be the big brother and help him LEARN but it is better to be a FRIEND than to be RIGHT. so what happens is, dylan says something, schuyler interupts to correct him, yelling so he can talk on top of him, dylan yells LOUDER to tell schuyler that HE is wrong... etc.
it isn't even fighting really. there is correcting. and often, dylan is telling schuyler to STOP doing something (like rough play.) but with schuyler's ADHD tendancies, it is REALLY hard to stop the freight train once it gets rolling.
sigh. frankly, as i type, i just see more and more evidence that i need to try medication for schuyler. dylan does what schuyler does, as the little brother. and when schuyler is ADHD out of control wild climbing chaos, dylan doesn't know that he shouldn't act the same way, as that is what normal is to dylan in our house. (schuyler out of control, i mean.)
(i politely say no thank you to suggestions on dealing with ADHD without meds. we have a unique situation with the OCD combination and we have been working with a psychologist for 6 months so we are aware of our options.)