*Another SEX question (part 2)

[Corie]

How long have you and your DH gone without sex?
(excluding pregnancy, post-partum or medical reasons)

[WatchingThemGrow]

just clarifying, but does pregnancy itself count -either dr or mama recommended?

[Corie]

just clarifying, but does pregnancy itself count -either dr or mama recommended?


Pregnancy doesn't count. I edited my original post. :)

[lizajane]

2 months. ish.

[amldaley]

6+ months while he was deployed. Under normal circumstances, over the course of almost 11 years married, we have had a couple of dry spells around the 4 week mark, maybe once around 6 weeks. We were busy, tired, stressed, etc.

[Melaine]

I don't know....maybe 2 weeks? Most of the times we've had medical, pregnancy, pp issues that have been the main factor.

[mamaoftwins]

About 2 months.

[SnuggleBuggles]

2-3 weeks, I think.

Beth

[lmwbasye]

Well, when DH is deployed (like now), then 7 months has been our longest. When he has been home, it's been like 3 or 4 weeks.

[amandabea]

Probably between 2-3 months. Maybe it was even longer like 3-4 months after the baby came (after I'd been cleared by the doctor). I couldn't get over how disgusting my belly was. Of course it isn't a whole lot better now, but I just turn off the light.

[ritacheetah]

Ask me again in a few months....

[almostmom]

maybe 2 weeks. Although my sex drive is sadly very low, I sort of keep track in my head and try to make sure we have sex at least once a week for DH's sake. Sometimes, my accounting fails me.

[brittone2]

I was thinking about 2 weeks max. I asked DH just now and he said the same thing, so I think that's pretty accurate.

[JMS]

I'd say 10 days max. But often we have dry spells that last 6-7 days because we're just tired, stressed etc. The attraction is always there, just the energy is lacking :)

CORIE: why don't you start a thread/poll asking what people think is an acceptable interval or what would be ideal and realistic? For example, I think if I had to have an aim, it would be 2x/week, maybe 3.

[shawnandangel]

hmmm well we started abstaining when we got engaged. We unfortunately failed at abstaining. . . is there a smiley with horns?

I would say around 4-6 weeks after marriage.

[Melaine]

Ok, is this just me? I swear I never fail to get AF and then have a back-to-back cold/flu rendering me physically useless and miserable....these events ALWAYS coinside, I swear.

[maestramommy]

2 weeks. Just too tired, then AF would show up:32:

[Pennylane]

Isn't this the same as the last question?

Ann

ETA: Oh, I see, not including pregnancy. Mine is still the same, 4 months!

[StantonHyde]

2 weeks--After Kids. Before Kids, no way was it ever more than a week. Now I do the calculating thing to try to make sure it is at least once a week. Echoing PPs, it isn't the attraction--its the exhaustion!! Who ever knew I would define foreplay as a "DH cleaned the kitchen"?????

[Corie]

but I just turn off the light.


This is the key. I probably wouldn't get naked otherwise. :)

[AngelaS]

Less than a week.

[missym]

Several months. My DH could probably tell you down to the day! :hysterical: I've had issues getting back on track after the girls were born, but I'm working on it.

[MartiesMom2B]

Probably 2 or 3 weeks.

[fortato]

A month. At least, a month.

[Lovingliv]

I would say 2-3 weeks....not counting the 3 months prior to our wedding as I prepared for my virginity to grow back.

[janeybwild]

So my youngest is 2 yo. I'm still post-partum right ;) ? I would say about 3 weeks. After 1 week DH gets antsy and offers me foot rubs. Somehow, that has become foreplay in our house :ROTFLMAO:

[mommylamb]

I'd say 2-3 weeks when we've had company and/or one of us is sick.

[mamicka]

5-6 weeks when I was working in Asia. Otherwise ~2 weeks when on vacation (no privacy) or having longer company.

[Melaine]

So do you guys "refrain" when you have company? We.....oftentimes do not! Is that weird?

[Melaine]

Yikes I wonder if anyone can hear us!:eek:

[mamaoftwins]

So do you guys "refrain" when you have company? We.....oftentimes do not! Is that weird?

We do, but only b/c our house is very small and the bedrooms are right on top of each other with really thin walls. It doesn't freak me out to have people staying with us, it's just that I KNOW they'd be able to hear us.

[MamaKath]

We do, but only b/c our house is very small and the bedrooms are right on top of each other with really thin walls. It doesn't freak me out to have people staying with us, it's just that I KNOW they'd be able to hear us.

Geez I can hear my neighbors outside across about an acres worth of space hollering right now. I am *sure* we can be heard inside our own house, maybe even outside. And we are not noisy! I guess now I know what to tell dh next time I don't want to though. ;)

To OP 1-2 months I think. Must be married too long, I can't remember, but that seems about right if we are not counting pregnancies, etc.

[MacMacMoo]

We bought a book called "Baby proofing you marriage" not because the baby was messing up our sex life, but rather the military was. lol

In the past three years, the number of days we have been face to face is less than a hundred. the number of nights shared together is less than that. so the longest we've gone (or shall i say will have gone would since his deployment doesn't end till may) would be something like 16 months. shudder...

now prior to him going army longest we went without was probably a week.