amldaley
01-08-2009, 06:40 PM
First, pls let me say that I know this is a hugely petty bitch. And I feel like a b!tch for even thinking it, let alone writing it. I am tired and stressed right now by much bigger issues and for some reason, THIS is what is annoying me.
I use Facebook. I only have about 40 "friends", 1/2 of whom were from high school, 1/4 family and 1/4 current friends IRL. I use it daily but not constantly throughout the day. I don't approve requests from people I don't know personally.
I got a request from someone I didn't know but it said we had 5 friends in common and he went to my high school. I looked at his profile pic and remembered that he was a kid who was two grades above me. He was wheelchair bound. He was always outgoing, lots of school spirit, but sort of goofy...a little too eager. We were all nice to him but I am not sure any or many of us would call him "friend" (which is sad). He and I were barely acquaintances. I didn't even know him, really. But, alot of people knew me. I was in Play Production, on the school newspaper, commencement speaker, my high school sweetheart (two grades above me - same class as this guy) was pretty well known etc etc. Our highschool wasn't huge. About 100 kids per grade. So, it was conceivable.
So, I approved the request.
The same day, he chat-messaged me on FB, in all CAPS, to say Hi and to say I might not remember him, who he was etc etc. I replied that I did remember him and added a pleasantry etc.
Then he went on a weird bent - asked if I remembered so and so and I said, "No, but I am terrible with names." He asked how I remembered him and I told him I looked at his profile photo. Then he asked me if we were friends in high school (if he did not remember me, why did he send a friend invite?) I told him I dated so and so in his class. His response "You married him?!!! Wow!" (Clearly, I did not as my FB profile is under my married name and it says who DH is.) This is delicate as my high school sweetheart and I do not speak, some issues with his ex that followed me, but I am friends with his sister and his mother and mine are very close friends who even spend vacations together and I could just see this guy getting the wrong idea then blabbing it.
Anyway, the guy just would not stop with weird questions and comments, it was almost like he was drunk. So, I told him I had to go.
That night and the next day, he inundated Facebook with stupid comments, wall posts, application invites etc. One of which was that he voted me "Nicest person on Facebook". I blocked all future invites from him but he even managed to add comments to ads that appear on the right hand side of the screen. He makes comments to EVERYTHING EVERYONE posts, most of which are not pertinent, relevant or appropriate. Not gross comments, but just strange. As such, I see ALL of them.
I want to remove him as a friend, but I feel like such a stuck up snobby bitch. Then I wonder if he were not in a wheelchair, would I feel so bad about ignoring him? Then I think about the fact that, even though he is married and has a job, he must be very lonely to be spending so much time on FB and so desperate as to comment to everything. But FB is one of my few outlets with the world. I live 3000 miles from home - this is how I keep in touch with friends. I hate that my special little place has been desecrated.
I know this is soooooo petty and I am a fool for even worrying about it one way or the other. I am embarrasseed this is even in my head. I just needed to vent. If you've read this far, you probably know way too much about me by now. But thanks anyway :)
I use Facebook. I only have about 40 "friends", 1/2 of whom were from high school, 1/4 family and 1/4 current friends IRL. I use it daily but not constantly throughout the day. I don't approve requests from people I don't know personally.
I got a request from someone I didn't know but it said we had 5 friends in common and he went to my high school. I looked at his profile pic and remembered that he was a kid who was two grades above me. He was wheelchair bound. He was always outgoing, lots of school spirit, but sort of goofy...a little too eager. We were all nice to him but I am not sure any or many of us would call him "friend" (which is sad). He and I were barely acquaintances. I didn't even know him, really. But, alot of people knew me. I was in Play Production, on the school newspaper, commencement speaker, my high school sweetheart (two grades above me - same class as this guy) was pretty well known etc etc. Our highschool wasn't huge. About 100 kids per grade. So, it was conceivable.
So, I approved the request.
The same day, he chat-messaged me on FB, in all CAPS, to say Hi and to say I might not remember him, who he was etc etc. I replied that I did remember him and added a pleasantry etc.
Then he went on a weird bent - asked if I remembered so and so and I said, "No, but I am terrible with names." He asked how I remembered him and I told him I looked at his profile photo. Then he asked me if we were friends in high school (if he did not remember me, why did he send a friend invite?) I told him I dated so and so in his class. His response "You married him?!!! Wow!" (Clearly, I did not as my FB profile is under my married name and it says who DH is.) This is delicate as my high school sweetheart and I do not speak, some issues with his ex that followed me, but I am friends with his sister and his mother and mine are very close friends who even spend vacations together and I could just see this guy getting the wrong idea then blabbing it.
Anyway, the guy just would not stop with weird questions and comments, it was almost like he was drunk. So, I told him I had to go.
That night and the next day, he inundated Facebook with stupid comments, wall posts, application invites etc. One of which was that he voted me "Nicest person on Facebook". I blocked all future invites from him but he even managed to add comments to ads that appear on the right hand side of the screen. He makes comments to EVERYTHING EVERYONE posts, most of which are not pertinent, relevant or appropriate. Not gross comments, but just strange. As such, I see ALL of them.
I want to remove him as a friend, but I feel like such a stuck up snobby bitch. Then I wonder if he were not in a wheelchair, would I feel so bad about ignoring him? Then I think about the fact that, even though he is married and has a job, he must be very lonely to be spending so much time on FB and so desperate as to comment to everything. But FB is one of my few outlets with the world. I live 3000 miles from home - this is how I keep in touch with friends. I hate that my special little place has been desecrated.
I know this is soooooo petty and I am a fool for even worrying about it one way or the other. I am embarrasseed this is even in my head. I just needed to vent. If you've read this far, you probably know way too much about me by now. But thanks anyway :)