SASM
01-28-2009, 10:47 PM
Okay...I have been a parent for 6 years (tomorrow!) and have only used one close friend and a relative, who lived an hour away to babysit our kids (6, ~4, and 16mos). We've lived away from family our entire parenting lives...no grandparents or close family nearby. So...DH and I REALLY want to go on a date but really haven't a clue as to find a sitter. We recently moved to a new town/state so we do not even have close contacts to rely on. This is COMPLETELY new territory for us...and it is TERRIFYING!!
HOW DO YOU FIND A SITTER???
DH has asked around at work and he hasn't been very successful for finding a mature teen sitter. He is only coming up with 12 yo's...we do not think that age is QUITE ready for 3 kids. ;) I am asking around at preschool but haven't received much info as 99% of the parents that I've asked either use family or have not used a babysitter. :( My next step is asking my hair stylist tomorrow...she seems to know ALL! I do not know if SitterCity or anything along those lines would work for us as we would probably only use a sitter maybe 3times/year.
WHAT IS YOUR CRITERIA??? ~ Red Cross certification? A certain age? Driver's license? Do you talk with the mother/parent thoroughly beforehand? I'd LOVE any and ALL details...
WHAT DO YOU PAY??? ~ According to age? How would you pay siblings who work as a team?
WHAT ARE YOUR RULES? ~ Obviously no boys, alcohol, violent TV, etc? Anything that you've learned that you care to share???
I've actually observed a teen girl at the ice rink for several sessions and she SEEMS like a good kid (very smily and involved with her 9yo sister and 6yo friend). I asked about her to another mom (who I just talked to briefly...do not know her but seems very involved with her DD's activities) and she said that she would not hesitate asking this girl to babysit, but she only has one 6yo DD. I gave the mom my info tonight and the girl called me back this evening. I had NO IDEA what to ask, as I was TOTALLY taken off-guard without a list. I asked about her age (almost 15), whether she has a any experience (no, other than her 9yo sister), if she's every watched three kids (no, as prev stated) or if she'd feel comfortable doing so, and if her mother said it was okay. I thought about talking with her mother after we hung up. She has a 13yo siter who would be able to help.
What do you think? I am a paranoid mom who is thinking "NO" but DH thinks that it would be reasonable to meet up to get the kids acquainted with her and her sister and then have a trial run of an hour or so.
Would it be unreasonable to ask that their mother come for that solo hour to observe? I think that would be in the best interest of everyone involved but DH thinks that I am being paranoid. :(
THANK YOU SO MUCH IN ADVANCE!!
HOW DO YOU FIND A SITTER???
DH has asked around at work and he hasn't been very successful for finding a mature teen sitter. He is only coming up with 12 yo's...we do not think that age is QUITE ready for 3 kids. ;) I am asking around at preschool but haven't received much info as 99% of the parents that I've asked either use family or have not used a babysitter. :( My next step is asking my hair stylist tomorrow...she seems to know ALL! I do not know if SitterCity or anything along those lines would work for us as we would probably only use a sitter maybe 3times/year.
WHAT IS YOUR CRITERIA??? ~ Red Cross certification? A certain age? Driver's license? Do you talk with the mother/parent thoroughly beforehand? I'd LOVE any and ALL details...
WHAT DO YOU PAY??? ~ According to age? How would you pay siblings who work as a team?
WHAT ARE YOUR RULES? ~ Obviously no boys, alcohol, violent TV, etc? Anything that you've learned that you care to share???
I've actually observed a teen girl at the ice rink for several sessions and she SEEMS like a good kid (very smily and involved with her 9yo sister and 6yo friend). I asked about her to another mom (who I just talked to briefly...do not know her but seems very involved with her DD's activities) and she said that she would not hesitate asking this girl to babysit, but she only has one 6yo DD. I gave the mom my info tonight and the girl called me back this evening. I had NO IDEA what to ask, as I was TOTALLY taken off-guard without a list. I asked about her age (almost 15), whether she has a any experience (no, other than her 9yo sister), if she's every watched three kids (no, as prev stated) or if she'd feel comfortable doing so, and if her mother said it was okay. I thought about talking with her mother after we hung up. She has a 13yo siter who would be able to help.
What do you think? I am a paranoid mom who is thinking "NO" but DH thinks that it would be reasonable to meet up to get the kids acquainted with her and her sister and then have a trial run of an hour or so.
Would it be unreasonable to ask that their mother come for that solo hour to observe? I think that would be in the best interest of everyone involved but DH thinks that I am being paranoid. :(
THANK YOU SO MUCH IN ADVANCE!!