sidmand
02-18-2009, 11:40 AM
I'm afraid if I tell DH he's just going to think this is silly...
I just asked my Dad and his wife if they think they'll be around for DD's first birthday. They said they'll just be getting back from Florida that week and don't want to drive here (NJ to MA) that weekend. The next weekend is Easter and then the weekend after that they're visiting her son and grandchildren in LA for 10 days.
I know it's not the end of the world and she's not even going to remember who was there. I know I'm feeling guilty because we had a HUGE party for DS when he was born (95 people!) and then he had a 1st birthday with all of my family and DH's family. And if I had made a bigger deal about it they might have come...
My sister says I sound jealous of my Dad's wife's grandkids...well, they do spend a lot more time when they go there ('cause it is in LA and you can't really take a quick trip from East Coast to West, I guess and we're lucky if they make one full day here!). Okay, was that jealous? yeah, maybe. I just feel kind of bad for DD. I know they love her but they've seen her all of three times since she was born and one time she was sick and they had to leave early because of snow (a few weeks ago).
They've been in Florida since mid-January (coming back at the end of March) and then they're off on many other trips...LA, Utah, Long Beach Island, somewhere else I've forgotten...just seems like we're so low on their list of places to come. I guess I'm thinking their granddaughter only turns one once, isn't that more important than playing tennis again? And we usually don't have family at any other birthday (well, DH's family likes to celebrate all birthdays, mine never did, so maybe that's why it's not such a big deal?).
And none of the rest of my family can make it this year so it'll be all DH's family.
But, I think it's also that time of the month so I'm just going to cry anyway! I guess this just gives me something to cry about.
I just asked my Dad and his wife if they think they'll be around for DD's first birthday. They said they'll just be getting back from Florida that week and don't want to drive here (NJ to MA) that weekend. The next weekend is Easter and then the weekend after that they're visiting her son and grandchildren in LA for 10 days.
I know it's not the end of the world and she's not even going to remember who was there. I know I'm feeling guilty because we had a HUGE party for DS when he was born (95 people!) and then he had a 1st birthday with all of my family and DH's family. And if I had made a bigger deal about it they might have come...
My sister says I sound jealous of my Dad's wife's grandkids...well, they do spend a lot more time when they go there ('cause it is in LA and you can't really take a quick trip from East Coast to West, I guess and we're lucky if they make one full day here!). Okay, was that jealous? yeah, maybe. I just feel kind of bad for DD. I know they love her but they've seen her all of three times since she was born and one time she was sick and they had to leave early because of snow (a few weeks ago).
They've been in Florida since mid-January (coming back at the end of March) and then they're off on many other trips...LA, Utah, Long Beach Island, somewhere else I've forgotten...just seems like we're so low on their list of places to come. I guess I'm thinking their granddaughter only turns one once, isn't that more important than playing tennis again? And we usually don't have family at any other birthday (well, DH's family likes to celebrate all birthdays, mine never did, so maybe that's why it's not such a big deal?).
And none of the rest of my family can make it this year so it'll be all DH's family.
But, I think it's also that time of the month so I'm just going to cry anyway! I guess this just gives me something to cry about.