sarahsthreads
04-03-2009, 03:48 PM
I had a rather embarrassing incident the other day where DD1 noticed - apparently for the first time ever - a smoker, and started pointing at her and asking at the top of her lungs, "Mommy! What's that?!? What's she doing?!? What's it doing, Mommy?!?" She wouldn't stop pointing and staring and shouting when I calmly told her I'd answer her questions in the car, until I went and took her by the hand and lead her away. First we had a conversation about how she's free to ask me anything, but she's not allowed to be rude and hurtful to someone else. Then we had a conversation about smoking and making healthy choices.
It got me thinking, though - she's never pointed out differences in people (skin color, weight, etc.) before. I would have expected to have dealt with this embarrassing phase much sooner, as she is *extremely* aware of her surroundings usually. Is it beyond the norm for her to start now? My mom thinks I've been too careful with what she sees and watches and that's why it's just starting now, but it's not as though we've never walked by a smoker before, and it's not like she would have been exposed to smoking on any TV show I've chosen not to allow in our home. Beyond that, the kids go *everywhere* with me - they're exposed to so many people and places and situations that I can't fathom how they could be considered sheltered...
I think it was more embarrassing because she looks old enough to know better, kwim?
So, normal or not? Would you have apologized to the woman? I was so flustered I didn't but then realized I probably should have.
Sarah
It got me thinking, though - she's never pointed out differences in people (skin color, weight, etc.) before. I would have expected to have dealt with this embarrassing phase much sooner, as she is *extremely* aware of her surroundings usually. Is it beyond the norm for her to start now? My mom thinks I've been too careful with what she sees and watches and that's why it's just starting now, but it's not as though we've never walked by a smoker before, and it's not like she would have been exposed to smoking on any TV show I've chosen not to allow in our home. Beyond that, the kids go *everywhere* with me - they're exposed to so many people and places and situations that I can't fathom how they could be considered sheltered...
I think it was more embarrassing because she looks old enough to know better, kwim?
So, normal or not? Would you have apologized to the woman? I was so flustered I didn't but then realized I probably should have.
Sarah