vejemom
04-29-2009, 05:17 PM
For the past several nights, DD#1 has woken up telling us "I'm scared". If you ask her what she's scared of, she doesn't reply. We generally leave her closet door partially open with the light on. We've taken to leaving her bathroom door open with a dim light on in there. I know that kids that age can start being scared of the dark, but she's not really in the dark. I'm sure that part of it is what Dr. Ferber terms "Curtain Calls" and that she doesn't want to go to sleep. Each time, she starts yelling, opens her door, walks out, and crashes down the hallway.
This afternoon, she was happily playing with MIL when she suddenly sat down and said "I'm scared!" MIl asked her what she was scared of, and she told us "The wolf! Right out there!" I looked out to see if she might be seeing a fox, but nothing was out there. I told her that there was nothing to worry about, that the big dog would chase the wolf away. Eventually she got back up and resumed playing.
I'm not sure what to do. The sleep issue is really becoming a strain - she's up 3 or 4 times some nights. (And this is on top of a 6 month old who still wakes up once or twice to eat.) DH has taken to yelling at her if she doesn't go right to sleep at bedtime. I don't particularly agree with that approach but I understand his frustration. Evenings have become a miserable battle - forget trying to get the dinner dishes done - I'm up there holding her door shut. She does give up if I hold the door for about 10 minutes. That tells me that a lot of it is just the "terrible twos" rearing its ugly head. But I hate thinking that part of this might be legitimate fear and that she's not getting the comfort she needs when she needs it.
Anyone BTDT and have some ideas?
This afternoon, she was happily playing with MIL when she suddenly sat down and said "I'm scared!" MIl asked her what she was scared of, and she told us "The wolf! Right out there!" I looked out to see if she might be seeing a fox, but nothing was out there. I told her that there was nothing to worry about, that the big dog would chase the wolf away. Eventually she got back up and resumed playing.
I'm not sure what to do. The sleep issue is really becoming a strain - she's up 3 or 4 times some nights. (And this is on top of a 6 month old who still wakes up once or twice to eat.) DH has taken to yelling at her if she doesn't go right to sleep at bedtime. I don't particularly agree with that approach but I understand his frustration. Evenings have become a miserable battle - forget trying to get the dinner dishes done - I'm up there holding her door shut. She does give up if I hold the door for about 10 minutes. That tells me that a lot of it is just the "terrible twos" rearing its ugly head. But I hate thinking that part of this might be legitimate fear and that she's not getting the comfort she needs when she needs it.
Anyone BTDT and have some ideas?