american_mama
06-23-2009, 01:00 AM
Has anyone else felt like their child's personality or behavior has changed rather suddenly? My DD2 is 4.5 years old and I feel like she's become a different child in the last year which, not coincidentally, corresponds to the birth of our third child and her enrollment in a prseschool classroom that has 10 or 11 boys out of 16 kids. At least I think those are the operative factors.
DD2 has always been a bit rough and tumble and tends to prefer playing with boys, but it's been magnified so much in the last year. She has become so physical almost all the time - runs instead of walks, tags and then runs away from kids who aren't playing tag and end up feeling like she's hit them, grabbing people's clothing to get them to play with her, sliding on her knees like she's sliding into home. When I hold her to get her attention, she is always pulling, jerking away, grunting. It's hard to get her to calm down and even harder to get her to stop doing something. A year ago, I thought she was an average child, sometimes rough, sometimes not. Now, in a group setting, I can almost guarantee that she'll be attracted to the kid who is wild, crazy, immature. That's become her preferred playmate and it makes me crazy.
Her social skills are poor. I hate describing it this way, but she easily gets "crushes" on older kids, often boys, and then wonders why they won't play with her. Umm, because they are 10 years old and you're 4. So then she tackles them, yells at them, punches them to say hello. I have seen so many older kids look with amazement at my 2,3, 4 year old who is literally throwing herself at them. She doesn't make friends easily with kids her age and when she does, she just gets it wrong... picks friends who don't seem to like her, wants their exclusive attention, says the wrong thing at the wrong time.
I don't think it's relevant to behavior, but she has also gained a lot of weight lately. I've bought her clothes that she seems to outgrow in 2 months; most of her 5T stuff is too small. My puny baby and toddler has turned into a 4 year old with junk in the trunk. I sometimes think she is borderline overweight; the pediatrician said maybe without much concern. I just look at her and think, "Who is this child?" She was literally 5th% percentile and under for the first 2 years of her life and now she's got the muscles and build of a little Serena Williams, no joke.
In DD2's defense, she does have times when she seems like the child I remember and not an emerging case of ADHD (I mean that seriously: ADHD does cross my mind). She can play independently better than her sister could at this age, likes long imaginative play with Little People or play doh, gets through errands and shopping with me very successfully, generally leaves a place like the library or play area with ease, likes art projects, gets positive reports from preschool teachers. It could be worse.
I just am constantly bewildered that I don't recognize my child a great deal of the time. I am hoping to get her involved in something liek soccer in the fall since I think the running and the stopping/starting/listening to a coach will really help her. But I wanted to know if anyone else feels like their child has become hard to recognize.
DD2 has always been a bit rough and tumble and tends to prefer playing with boys, but it's been magnified so much in the last year. She has become so physical almost all the time - runs instead of walks, tags and then runs away from kids who aren't playing tag and end up feeling like she's hit them, grabbing people's clothing to get them to play with her, sliding on her knees like she's sliding into home. When I hold her to get her attention, she is always pulling, jerking away, grunting. It's hard to get her to calm down and even harder to get her to stop doing something. A year ago, I thought she was an average child, sometimes rough, sometimes not. Now, in a group setting, I can almost guarantee that she'll be attracted to the kid who is wild, crazy, immature. That's become her preferred playmate and it makes me crazy.
Her social skills are poor. I hate describing it this way, but she easily gets "crushes" on older kids, often boys, and then wonders why they won't play with her. Umm, because they are 10 years old and you're 4. So then she tackles them, yells at them, punches them to say hello. I have seen so many older kids look with amazement at my 2,3, 4 year old who is literally throwing herself at them. She doesn't make friends easily with kids her age and when she does, she just gets it wrong... picks friends who don't seem to like her, wants their exclusive attention, says the wrong thing at the wrong time.
I don't think it's relevant to behavior, but she has also gained a lot of weight lately. I've bought her clothes that she seems to outgrow in 2 months; most of her 5T stuff is too small. My puny baby and toddler has turned into a 4 year old with junk in the trunk. I sometimes think she is borderline overweight; the pediatrician said maybe without much concern. I just look at her and think, "Who is this child?" She was literally 5th% percentile and under for the first 2 years of her life and now she's got the muscles and build of a little Serena Williams, no joke.
In DD2's defense, she does have times when she seems like the child I remember and not an emerging case of ADHD (I mean that seriously: ADHD does cross my mind). She can play independently better than her sister could at this age, likes long imaginative play with Little People or play doh, gets through errands and shopping with me very successfully, generally leaves a place like the library or play area with ease, likes art projects, gets positive reports from preschool teachers. It could be worse.
I just am constantly bewildered that I don't recognize my child a great deal of the time. I am hoping to get her involved in something liek soccer in the fall since I think the running and the stopping/starting/listening to a coach will really help her. But I wanted to know if anyone else feels like their child has become hard to recognize.