sarahsthreads
06-30-2009, 10:53 PM
So this isn't quite a baby food question, but something my 4.5 year old has been doing lately. We've always had a very lenient snack policy in our house, we're of the "if it's not forbidden it won't be abused" food philosophy, and it's worked pretty well so far. But lately DD1 has been sneaking food.
Two specific recent examples: I had a small box of donut holes on the table which DD1 had been told (and agreed enthusiastically) were for dessert. I had to go take care of something in another room for a few moments, came back and found DD1 hiding under the table with a donut hole stuffed in her mouth. My response was probably less than ideal - I didn't yell, but I told her she shouldn't have eaten it and that she wasn't going to have any more after dinner and put them way out of reach. Thinking about it more I probably should have said that it was too bad she decided to eat dessert before dinner because then we wouldn't all be able to have dessert together. Hindsight and all...
And another: dinner tonight was leftover pizza. DD1 is not a *huge* fan of pizza, but does eat it, and seemed OK with having a slice of olive pizza. She only picked off the olives and ate them, and ate the other veggies on her plate, and then asked for strawberries. But DH told her no, not until she ate more of her pizza (not sure I agree with that in the first place, but I was trying to get out to go to work and didn't want to undermine what he'd said) and when he had his back turned doing something with the baby, DD1 went to the fridge, grabbed a handful of berries, and turned away so she could eat them without him seeing. I only "caught" her because I was giving everyone goodbye kisses on my way out the door... I tried to make light of it and suggested that maybe she should go eat some more of her dinner like daddy had asked so she could have more strawberries after.
The very last thing in the world I want to do is make her think she has to hide while eating something, I don't want to have a not-quite-five year old with an eating disorder. I think there are really two issues here: her eating something that she thinks is forbidden - which is probably a bit more normal and why kids are always trying to get to the cookie jar on top of the fridge in comic strips - and her feeling like she needs to hide when she's eating something, which is the part that really concerns me. And I'm afraid if I make any sort of big deal out of it she'll just get sneakier...
So after all that, if you've read this far, is this normal behavior? How should I respond to it??
Thanks!
Sarah :)
Two specific recent examples: I had a small box of donut holes on the table which DD1 had been told (and agreed enthusiastically) were for dessert. I had to go take care of something in another room for a few moments, came back and found DD1 hiding under the table with a donut hole stuffed in her mouth. My response was probably less than ideal - I didn't yell, but I told her she shouldn't have eaten it and that she wasn't going to have any more after dinner and put them way out of reach. Thinking about it more I probably should have said that it was too bad she decided to eat dessert before dinner because then we wouldn't all be able to have dessert together. Hindsight and all...
And another: dinner tonight was leftover pizza. DD1 is not a *huge* fan of pizza, but does eat it, and seemed OK with having a slice of olive pizza. She only picked off the olives and ate them, and ate the other veggies on her plate, and then asked for strawberries. But DH told her no, not until she ate more of her pizza (not sure I agree with that in the first place, but I was trying to get out to go to work and didn't want to undermine what he'd said) and when he had his back turned doing something with the baby, DD1 went to the fridge, grabbed a handful of berries, and turned away so she could eat them without him seeing. I only "caught" her because I was giving everyone goodbye kisses on my way out the door... I tried to make light of it and suggested that maybe she should go eat some more of her dinner like daddy had asked so she could have more strawberries after.
The very last thing in the world I want to do is make her think she has to hide while eating something, I don't want to have a not-quite-five year old with an eating disorder. I think there are really two issues here: her eating something that she thinks is forbidden - which is probably a bit more normal and why kids are always trying to get to the cookie jar on top of the fridge in comic strips - and her feeling like she needs to hide when she's eating something, which is the part that really concerns me. And I'm afraid if I make any sort of big deal out of it she'll just get sneakier...
So after all that, if you've read this far, is this normal behavior? How should I respond to it??
Thanks!
Sarah :)