ourbabygirl
07-14-2009, 02:01 PM
With DD's birthday coming up, I'm starting to think about who to invite to it, and would like your two cents. DH's parents are married but not living together (been this way for at least a few years), and his dad has only been around our little one probably once, at her baptism. He's pretty flaky and doesn't come around or get together for holidays, and doesn't even maintain contact w/DH (doesn't return phone calls, etc.). DH thinks he has mental issues, which he probably does, & I think we'd both rather sever the ties w/him if we could. In general, DH's family is very different and basically just keeps in touch with us to ask him for money which they never plan on paying back, etc. Nevertheless, they all came to the baptism, and with my family there too, it was stressful and very awkward & uncomfortable. I don't know how to handle holidays and family gatherings in the future... other than the baptism and a housewarming or two over the past 5 years, I haven't hosted anything because it's so uncomfortable to have both of our families together (plus his side is very flaky about showing up, or arriving on time, etc.).
If you were me, WWYD? Have two little bday parties, one w/my family and one w/his? My siblings and their in-laws get along great and even vacation with my parents; I feel bad that our situation is so different. I don't know how to handle things w/DD as she gets older and will probably start to ask questions. I want to be fair to both sides and not favor my side, but it's just so much easier to get together with them and have a normal, functional relationship.
Thanks for your input!
If you were me, WWYD? Have two little bday parties, one w/my family and one w/his? My siblings and their in-laws get along great and even vacation with my parents; I feel bad that our situation is so different. I don't know how to handle things w/DD as she gets older and will probably start to ask questions. I want to be fair to both sides and not favor my side, but it's just so much easier to get together with them and have a normal, functional relationship.
Thanks for your input!